OMG, I'm terrified . . .

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PolarSkye

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. . . my 16-year-old daughter has been asked BY A BOY to prom . . . a boy she has a major crush on, and this will be her first ever date. I was excited and happy for her until she tried on her prom dress for the first time today . . . and now I'm terrified. She's young. She's gorgeous. They're both full of hormones. I'm too young to be a grandmother!!!!

We talk about sex and precautions, etc. alot. She knows what we expect of her. We've talked about STDs, unwanted pregnancies, self respect, etc. and she's a sensible girl . . . but OH (her father) is having forty fits and I'm not far behind him. It's not prom I'm worried about . . . it's the after prom party. Revved up teenagers, booze, hormones . . . oh good God.

Oh, and when on earth did that little teeny person who looked like a china doll and was so watchful and quiet turn into this confident, bubbly, outgoing young woman . . . behind my back for sure b/c I can remember holding her for the first time as if it were yesterday.

Sorry. Self indulgent. Someone slap me. And then someone go castrate her prom date ;).

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:D My friend had me in fits the other day - she sat her daughter down to have "the talk" and when she said she needed to discuss personal things with her got "why mum, are you and dad having problems? you can always talk to me, you know that"

followed up (when my friend said no, her and the father were fine it was her she was thinking about) by friends daughter reeling off a list of STDs, what not to do and what sort of situations to avoid and how to put a condom on "in any case - Im not in love mum and Im not going to do anything like that until I am" :D


Bless them - they do seem to grow up terribly quickly these days, but they are also a lot better informed than we all were (in my day anyway!) Hope she has a fab time - how exciting that her crush asked her !! :)
 
Oh golly! I'm dreading those days already and my little person is only 8! It does at least sound like you've given her lots of the right information to make an informed decision so I would think she would be fine.

Of course I do completely understand you being terrified as I will be too! Can't actually perform the castration myself but could send you a couple of house bricks through the post - used appropriately there's no risk of you ever becoming a grandmother there! ;)
 
I'm so glad I have boys! My eldest is 17 and his girlfeind is 16 and they have been going out for 3 years, so now we make the spare room bed up but don't expect her to sleep in it. Mind you she left her pill packet out in the bathroom which raised my eyebrows! Still at least she is on it.
They will be fine, you have laid the groundwork and remember what you were like at 16...but that may not set your mind at rest!!
 
Sorry but my 7yr old will not be allowed to age past 12, growing up is too scary!
Seriously, she'll be fine. It's just scary how quick they grow up really. But I do get where you're coming from. All logic goes out the window when its your own child.
 
It's exciting that her crush asked her! I'm not a mommy but I am quite protective of my old sharer who is now 16. She went to a gig in the nearest city and I had a mini nervous breakdown, her parents were fine! I took her into town for a bit the other weekend, there are some benefits to being a mate not a parent, i'm sort of not too embarrassing to be seen round town with of an evening and at least if i'm there I can grab the nearest big stick and beat the testosterone and carling fuelled chav boys off! 'My' teen has very high standards and expectations from boys so I think we'll be ok! Op I hope ur teen enjoys prom. :-)
 
:D:D my husband has the answer to this..... he says any potential dates have to come to the house first, so he can staplegun their pants and trousers UP (he's not a fan of the low riding fashion!!), .... he says he will have a shelf in the kitchen, save the testicles from dogs he castrates (he's a vet I should add), pop them in histopathlogy pots and label them 'John, returned home late', 'Alex, wandering hands' etc etc, just to make sure they understand the 'rules'!!!!:D:D I think it's worse for him, he KNOWS what the boys are thinking, I just imagine it!! :D:D
 
Our first daughter was about two minutes old when my husband declared, 'Oh no she's going to want to date boys!!' the midwife was cracking up. She is six now and he is getting worse!
You are definitely not alone in your worries!!
 
I have a 23 year old daughter who passed the teenage years with flying colours and also a 12 year old, so understand how you feel.

Don't worry, she'll be fine, they all grow up so quick and it's rather scary for us parents.

You've done all the hard work in preparing her for getting out in the big wide world and this is her first step :D
 
I found an empty condom packet in my 13 yr olds trouser pocket the other week :eek: I went from hissy fit 'He's having SEX!, he's only 13!!' to calmer 'he's being sensible he's using protection' had the talk with him and he's got them at school and they'd been using them for balloons because they looked rude :rolleyes: I'm hoping he was telling the truth because 13 is much to young to be that grown up :o
 
Thanks all. This is way scarier than I thought it would be . . . and I'm torn between being incredibly proud of the young woman she has become and scared witless at the thought that some teenage boy may be putting his hands (and the rest) all over my baby girl. Sigh.

Will take pictures and bore you all with them . . . prom is June 29th . . . will I survive that long?

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PolarSkye said:
Thanks all. This is way scarier than I thought it would be . . . and I'm torn between being incredibly proud of the young woman she has become and scared witless at the thought that some teenage boy may be putting his hands (and the rest) all over my baby girl. Sigh.
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He will be...:eek: and at 16, how she responds is up to her. ;)
 
PolarSkye said:
Thanks all. This is way scarier than I thought it would be . . . and I'm torn between being incredibly proud of the young woman she has become and scared witless at the thought that some teenage boy may be putting his hands (and the rest) all over my baby girl. Sigh.

Will take pictures and bore you all with them . . . prom is June 29th . . . will I survive that long?

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We only want prom photos... ;)
 
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