4whitesocks
Well-Known Member
Horses are my passion & my main reason for moving back to the country (bought house & moved out of city last summer w. OH) - OH doesn't have a similar rural diversion in fact at the moment he doesn't really have any huge 'hobby or interest' but was fully on board with the move to the country - i.e. I didn't bully him into it!
I have saved the money to buy a patch of land myself where I could build stables (due to sign & exchange contracts in 3 weeks) - 15,000
We have had a government savings scheme here for the past 5 years & mine is about to mature - this will pay for most of my stables (looks like between 16,500 & 20,000 depending on what I leave in/take out of my 'ideal' set-up)....so by the end of the summer I should be able to have it all paid for/built move Sid home & just about be able to afford a second hand trailer & hopefully be able to change my car to something that will tow
My dilemma is this - we are hopefully going to get married in the next year or so (mind you I've been saying that for a while!) and this money would easily pay for a wedding, fantastic honeymoon and finish whatever else we have to do in the house...
I earn more money than my OH so is it fair that I am committing all my savings to something that is mine alone & not a shared interest/project.....
By bringing Sid home I would be away from OH less (as in travel time to yard etc.) BUT would hope to start competing more so weekends would be taken up by travelling to shows etc.
I need his support to help with feeding/mucking out rugs etc in case I have to work late etc. & in theory he's on board with this.
In theory the extra patch of land & stables do add value to our property and it would be fantastic to have that asset there for if & when we have kids - the potential to keep a pony is a huge plus & I'd love to be able to give my kids what I had as a child.....
I'm starting to ramble now but I guess what I want to know is am I doing the right thing - having a horse & specifically Sid is a lot of the reason I can get up in the morning and do the 9 - 5, it gives me such stress relief & keeps me sane - I would be totally unbearable without him or at very least access to horse(s) but is it fair to my OH to sacrifice something we could both share (like a fantastic wedding) for the sake of my passion???
Honest thoughts & opinions please! (well done for getting this far!)
I have saved the money to buy a patch of land myself where I could build stables (due to sign & exchange contracts in 3 weeks) - 15,000
We have had a government savings scheme here for the past 5 years & mine is about to mature - this will pay for most of my stables (looks like between 16,500 & 20,000 depending on what I leave in/take out of my 'ideal' set-up)....so by the end of the summer I should be able to have it all paid for/built move Sid home & just about be able to afford a second hand trailer & hopefully be able to change my car to something that will tow
My dilemma is this - we are hopefully going to get married in the next year or so (mind you I've been saying that for a while!) and this money would easily pay for a wedding, fantastic honeymoon and finish whatever else we have to do in the house...
I earn more money than my OH so is it fair that I am committing all my savings to something that is mine alone & not a shared interest/project.....
By bringing Sid home I would be away from OH less (as in travel time to yard etc.) BUT would hope to start competing more so weekends would be taken up by travelling to shows etc.
I need his support to help with feeding/mucking out rugs etc in case I have to work late etc. & in theory he's on board with this.
In theory the extra patch of land & stables do add value to our property and it would be fantastic to have that asset there for if & when we have kids - the potential to keep a pony is a huge plus & I'd love to be able to give my kids what I had as a child.....
I'm starting to ramble now but I guess what I want to know is am I doing the right thing - having a horse & specifically Sid is a lot of the reason I can get up in the morning and do the 9 - 5, it gives me such stress relief & keeps me sane - I would be totally unbearable without him or at very least access to horse(s) but is it fair to my OH to sacrifice something we could both share (like a fantastic wedding) for the sake of my passion???
Honest thoughts & opinions please! (well done for getting this far!)