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Sharer jumped my boy. No problem wiith that but then she put up pictures on FB, I clicked on her likes and found some girl, I didn't know, seated on my horse in menage .... Read the riot act with sharer n pmd the girl telling her that my sharer had not the permission for allowing anyone to ride my horse and asking her nicely to take down the photos. Girl responded by saying "i have been told idon't have to, please don't inbox me". She then blocked me. Sharer pays no financial contribution and has proven unreliable in past. I have now given her marching orders. Not been in this situation before. Boy is in serious training for qualifiers for hoys, not some donkey on the beach. Sharer then responds that I shouldn't talk down to her. Wot we think? Feeling a bit insecure ....
 
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Sounds like it's not the first time she's let you down...you need to give her the sack me thinks. Especially as she's not paying you! :eek:
 
Absolutely tell her to grow up and get knotted!

I would be fuming if someone not know to me and not given express permission by me were to ride my horse. I would be making very clear what a huge insurance risk it is, how disrespectful it is (he is not a play thing). Very much a 'if you behave like a child I will talk down to you all I like!'.

Fuming on your behalf!
 
Having been in a similar situation myself i can understand how you're feeling. Definitely let your sharer go!
 
Whilst I can't quite understand why you'd care about a girl having a picture with your horse on Facebook, I understand why you'd be annoyed with an unknown person riding your horse. If you're not happy, end of!
 
You guys are bloody great....

My insecurity stems from fact there was no written agreement, she is a fabulous rider, better than me which is why i agreed for this ridden extra, but shes young n just feel she has taken the pi55. Just feel we have both lost out, but you can't put price on reliability and I had been clear, no other people on yard, let alone anyone riding him !

She's let me down before on the day twice, after I've got lad in, so his breakfast has been late as a result.

Can't stress enough lad is in some god damn seriously hard muscle training for harness and ploughing... I was clear about this ...and those who understand will know it takes a lot in feed alone for a shire in work to maintain weight and fitness, that are not Clydesdales, they are harder, much....
 
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I've shared for a few years now, and I would never ever dream of letting a friend on my share horse without the owners permission! Surprised really, my rule has always been it's not my horse, therefore the owner calls the shots! And so I run everything past them first.
 
Elsiecat said:
Whilst I can't quite understand why you'd care about a girl having a picture with your horse on Facebook, I understand why you'd be annoyed with an unknown person riding your horse. If you're not happy, end of!
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not with, on .... And incorrectly tacked up, btw And it's the attitude I suppose which has peed me off.
 
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My god, just by typing this up, I am thinking more clearly. My instructor has recommended a lass who wants to have lessons on him with her to keep up his schooling and she is mature, a schoolteacher, and reliable. I'm not able to give it my all at the moment as I recently lost my mum and I was her carer. Reliability is priceless. H and h tells you as it is, good sometimes, bad sometimes, but always honest. Thinking more clearly now.
 
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Definitely better to find someone reliable. If she'd made one mistake and apologised that would be different. Sounds like you've come up with good solution. Hope it works out.
 
You've done the right thing. What else has she done that hasn't been photographed ! Even if he wasnt heading for a competition she should respect your horse.
 
I would go mental! I am precious about my horse as it is, so it would be very hard for me to have a sharer and let them ride my horse, for the first few weeks I would probably be at the yard while they were there to keep an eye on them. But if they dared put anyone, and I mean, anyone, else on my horse without my permission, I would be fuming, and my horse isn't a big competition horse either.
I am so angry at your sharer for you right now, grrrr :mad:
 
If she is proving unreliable and untrustworthy then you are right to get rid.

If I really trusted a sharer i would have no problem with their friend getting on my horse as i would believe they would not do anything to hurt or damage my horse whether that be physical or emotional.
 
I have a sharer. She rides my old horse that I've outgrown now so she's the sole rider. However, I am SO over protective with this mare, she was my forever horse and sharer has only ever been in an RS and this mare is a competition horse. I've only just started letting her ride without me there to monitor length of time, amount of work etc. and it's been nearly three months. She's very excited so brings friends round and once she let a friend in the yard when I had said no, high risk etc luckily the friend had horses and all of mine are friendly. I told sharer not to do it again and explained everything and she hasn't since. If I were in your position, sharer would no longer be a sharer! That's an awful betrayal of trust and to then be rude about it! Eugh! Horrible child!
 
agree find someone else, it's just rude.

I was in a similar position to your sharer (albeit not a better rider than the owner) but expressly asked permission for a friend to have a ride (said friend being a much better rider than me with the results and quals to show for it!)
 
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I would go mental! I am precious about my horse as it is, so it would be very hard for me to have a sharer and let them ride my horse, for the first few weeks I would probably be at the yard while they were there to keep an eye on them. But if they dared put anyone, and I mean, anyone, else on my horse without my permission, I would be fuming, and my horse isn't a big competition horse either.
I am so angry at your sharer for you right now, grrrr :mad:
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This I am afraid. I am really protective about who rides my horses, I think that you put so much effort into taking care of them, learning to ride properley I would probbaly lose it over someone messing about with them as someone else said they are not toys. Withreagrds to the facebook issue I dont know much about the workings of face book and the law of image ownership but if you are that uncomfortable could you ask facebook to have the image removed? If that would set your mind at rest? Although I dont know anything about how you would do that or even if it were possible. I wouldnt like photos of mine floating around out there with random people!
 
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