Organ Donation in Memory of Sandra

beauiful post - i am a donor ( sadly not blood though keep trying :) ) and always will be - my family and my partner know all that can be used just give life with it. sandra rip but ppl are talking because of you xx

Allwaysbroke(hope spelt that right) what a gorgeous handsome young man and your words about him brought tears - the love of a child is ultiimate ( i have experienced that) and your young man is beautiful - sorry cant find words want to say but big big hugs xx
 
Glad this was posted. I understand why a lot of people might put off signing up as a donor, i did for years. But then there were just a few boxes to tick when signing up to a new Drs surgery so i just ticked them and handed it in. All done now.

New years resolution is to get over my stupid needle phobia and give blood as often as i can. I've been selfish for the last 4 years since my brother died. People giving blood kept him going and with us for an extra 2 years, and i am so greatful for that. It's about time i started to help other families to have longer with their loved ones too.

I never got an organ donor card though...? Does that mean it didn't work?
 
Thank you Supersally and Babymare, we have been blessed twice, once when Mini D_K was born and also when he received his transplant, all of our family are registered donors and those who can give blood.
 
This is such a tragedy and I'm sure Sandra would be so glad that so many people will now have their lives changed by her decision to be an organ donor.

I've been a blood donor since I was old enough as someone somewhere donated blood that saved my little brothers life. Since the mad cow scare anyone who was in UK in the 80's is no longer allowed to donate blood, which I find frustrating but understand that until there is a test available to identify the disease they are being cautious. In New Zealand our driving licence has our wish to be organ donors on it which is a great idea as we have to carry it with us when driving.
 
This is a lovely and very heartfelt letter from one of the people that received an organ from Sandra. Never underestimate just how much the gift of an organ, and therefore, a new beginning means to someone!


Dear family and friends of a very special person,

You all must be suffering great sadness with the loss of your dear relative, especially at this time of the year.

When I received the phone call from the hospital informing me that there was kidney available for me, my first thoughts and prayers were for your relative and for you as family and friends, as I have also experienced the pain and loss of losing a loved one. My second thought was one of deep gratitude that this very special person had bothered to hold a donor card and that I had been chosen.

I wanted to somehow find some way to begin to tell you of my immense gratitude for the special gift your relative has given me.

My renal problems started in 1997, and resulted in me being tied to a dialysis machine three times a week for lengthy sessions. I lost all my former life but struggled on but couldn’t really cope and accept my life as it was and could have been for ever.

My hopes were raised when my husband and a very close friend wanting to help me went through all the rigorous tests to offer me their kidney. However, each time my antibodies against theirs would have resulted in rejection, so at the last stage, the doctors said no to transplantation. Both huge disappointments and left me seeing only the dark years ahead on dialysis.

Then the call came, and as a result, changed my life forever. The kidney is unbelievably an absolute perfect match and has given me back my life, which hopefully will be a long and healthy one.

But not just me, it has given my husband of 32 years back his wife, my daughter of 23 back an active Mum who will maybe go on to see her children born. It’s given my father back his daughter, he is 82 years old and blind, my husband and I are his main carers, which I found very hard to do as well as dialyzing three times a week at hospital. Now he will have the love and care he deserves from me. Also my friends, they have been there for me, cheering me along through all my health problems, something to rejoice in.

I would like to believe that in your sorrow and loss there is some comfort. To be an organ donor is the greatest act of kindness and generosity one human can give to another. There is not a single day passes as I am starting to recover, when I do not smile and feel gratitude for their decision.

Your relative gave me the “Ultimate Gift” of life and hope and it brings a very special bond between those who die and those who live. I think of them every single day and thank them from my heart. Each new day will only serve to reinforce this truth to me. I hope my life, knowing of the joy it’s given to those I love, and my deep gratitude do the same for you all.

Your relative was a very special person in life to you all and will never be forgotten and now is a very special person in my life and will never be forgotten by me and my family and friends.

THE GIFT OF LIFE TO ME, what a very special person they must have been. I hope it brings a smile to your face and you can say “YES” they were that special.
 
I am a donor too and believe the law should be changed that you have top opt OUT of the donor system if you do not want to donate.

It would save so many lives.
 
I've just signed up, to be honest its something I have never really thought about, I have been lucky enough not to know anyone that has needed a transport. Untill I saw this thread, I'm now an organ donator

I don't give blood though, because of my phobia of needles, I would love to be able to give blood but I just can't face needles :(

RIP Sandra. That letter to her family is beautiful.
 
Such a beautiful letter I am sure that Sandra would be very happy knowing that her wishes have resulted in someone being able to resume a normal life.
 
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