other liveries and their views!!

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Im due to move to my new yard this weekend...Im really excited and although I havent been on a yard for about 10 yrs im actually looking forward to everything being in reach and have the luxury of good riding.
I have two stables in an old converted barn - my own area where I have stored all my bits and bobs as well as two individual grazing paddocks for my old pony and horse.
There is a little school but it has no lighting and you are left to really get on and do your own thing.

I went up there today to drop the last of my things off and bumped into a girl - im always friendly but reserved as I like to keep myself to myself and it seems the way of things at this yard which is brill for me. I have met the girl before but she does tend to moan so I usually smile and just carry on with my own thing. Today however she approached me and told me how horrible the yard is, how I shouldnt move and how people are not nice there etc - the list went on...

In the end I had to make an excuse to get into my car and drive away just to get away from it.
I came home wishing she had not said anything to me and it really annoys me when people do this as it puts doubt in your mind and negative thoughts - I have been in my current field for 5 yrs so it has taken alot to build up the courage to leave ( my horse needs better conditioned livery and riding conditions is my reason for leaving unfortunately).....

what are other peoples experiences of this and have you moved anyhow against what people have said and got on ok...?
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Oh dear! It's difficult to say whether you should be worried or not, but if it helps I've heard bad things about the yard I work weekends at and none of them have been true at all. I've heard that no-one stays there, you won't be happy, it's really bitchy etc, but it's a really nice yard - the YO is so lovely it's almost sickening!!! Don't listen - just because she finds stuff to moan about doesn't mean that you will. She may be fed up with the glorious hacking and wishing she was near a housing estate
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Or maybe she hates the fact that all the liveries buy her choccies and offer to help her out with her horse
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- she sounds like a bit of a whinger so I wouldn't worry too much. I hope it works out for you! Keep us posted
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I think different people have different requirements so a yard that can be great for one person might not be for someone else.

For example I need assisted grass livery but I do not need a massive school and lots of jumps etc and I also do not mind that it is 1/2 mile walk to summer field to bring pony in as I do not ride him every day - where it would not suit everyone but is perfect for me.

Also people have different perceptions of what friendly is - eg do you require everyone to be really social and best buddies or do you just require people to be friendly when you bump into them. Some people may be in a hurry and not have a chance to stop and have an half an hour conversation with you and that could be percieved by some as unfriendly.

However if the yard has a very high turnover of liveries I would question why as people should know the basics of what is provided before they move there so that would indicate a problem possibly mis selling about the yard or some very difficult people or YO.
 
thanks jumpthemoon - I needed that ;0) Ill keep you posted...
Im not one to get involved in bad conversations and I dont tend to take any rubbish so im sure ill get on fine...
I think the girl is looking for something only millionaries can afford really....
 
This may sound childish but do you think maybe she is jealous of you in some way? Maybe she thinks that you will become better friends with the other people there than she is? She may be worried that you will 'try and take over' and is trying to put you off?I am not suggesting for one mintue that you are, it was just my first thought when I was reading that....
 
Agree that what suits one person may nto suit another. I wouldn't worry too much. If the yard has the facilities you need and you feel you can communicate well with YO then its well worth a try.
 
I'm in a similar situation to you, I am moving yards a week on Friday and I have been told it is incredibly bitchy.
I have spoken to one girl who is my age who seems nice and when I mentioned the bitchy reputation, she said I'd find out for myself when I moved on.
Like you though, I have no alternative but to move, so I'm just going to have to keep my head down and get on with it.
 
I'm afraid that there are always pros and cons to any yard, if you had a good feeling when you went to see the yard then go with your gut instincts than this other person who really should no better, tbh sums up what sort of person they are.
And they are on every yard , some people are not happy unless they are stirring things, why they do this is beyond me.

Good luck I'm sure everything will be fine.
 
just because she isn't happy there doesn't mean you won't be, could be her problems are all her own doing!!
try to go in with an open mind and see what happens, probably turn out that she's the yards main sh1te stirrer and every body else is just nice as pie
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thank you everyone - that was just the encouragement I needed ;0) Its hard when you are caught between two places and not too sure what to do - thanks for all the comments...ill take them on board...
im sure ill keep you all updated once Ive moved ( thats if my horses wants to get on the lorry on sunday!!)
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I really wouldnt worry about it.... if that yard is that bad why is she still there.
I have to admit we had two new mares onto are your and i was a little anxious as our field had been all geldings for quite a while so all the horses were settled and you get quite comfy in your own little routine. I didnt like the thought of new people on the yard as everyone got on so well and it could potentially upset the balance. However YO couldnt have found nicer people to move on
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Ive got a new riding partner and someone who can help out with my neddy if i cant do him. Ive done the other girls horse a few times and things have worked out great

That was a very long winded way to say that this girl on your yard may just not like the thought of things changing and might take a while to get used to it.

Hope you settle in nicely and enjoy being at a yard again!
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so the yard's crap, but she isn't moving, if she starts again tell her you'll make your own judgement on people as you find that the one's who do this, are the one's who cause it so are best ignored, you'll probs find that the rest are absolutely lovely folks who all hate this person and wish they'd move off asap! LOL

don't let it spoil your day, do not let ANYTHING spoil your own enjoyments, that lets her put a cloud on your happy thoughts and it really isn't worth it when she's probably the yard KIA patrolling the area
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if she starts again just tell her you're not comfortable hearing this kind of stuff, you'd prefer not to listen to her own judgements and make your own on the people based there when you interact with them yourself, and if you really want to top it off add on the end and if it's that bad...why are you still here? LOL

should shut her up in the future, nip it in the bud now if it starts again, it's best done before folks see her talking to you and if she IS 'the hated one' you're best severing any slight thoughts that you're buddies
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