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So, I'm 14, and I own a 13.2 pony, who I've now sadly outgrown, I love her so so much, however I know the time has come where it's no longer fair to leave her in the field, when she is fully able to ride out and is in perfect health, I have only used her as a hacking pony, and a friend of a friend knows a young girl who is looking for a pony to loan with the intention to buy if happy with her/him, I'm free to go and have a look around where she is going(which I intend to) but have heard it's wonderful! However, I'm so upset about it, and just wanted to hear some of your experiences and how you coped, just to generally persuade me on the idea. Oh p.s I live in East Midlands and the young girl and her family live approx. 3 and a half hours away, so it's not like I can go see her whenever. No harsh comments please:)
 
It's always heartbreaking growing out of your beloved pony, I remember the feeling all too well. :-(

Have you tried looking for someone to loan her a little closer maybe so that you can go and give her her cuddles more regularly? :-)
 
Moomin1 said:
It's always heartbreaking growing out of your beloved pony, I remember the feeling all too well. :-(

Have you tried looking for someone to loan her a little closer maybe so that you can go and give her her cuddles more regularly? :-)
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It is heartbreaking:( and I wasn't necessarily looking for a loan home initially, my parents just mentioned it to me, at that point lots of tears followed, and as far as I'm aware they've been told that I'm considering it. I guess it's a matter of letting her go if she's going to be looked after, the girl in question is only 7/8, do you think it would be acceptable to ask to keep in contact if possible via email or Facebook on her progress etc?:) x
 
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It is heartbreaking:( and I wasn't necessarily looking for a loan home initially, my parents just mentioned it to me, at that point lots of tears followed, and as far as I'm aware they've been told that I'm considering it. I guess it's a matter of letting her go if she's going to be looked after, the girl in question is only 7/8, do you think it would be acceptable to ask to keep in contact if possible via email or Facebook on her progress etc?:) x
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Yes I think that would be perfectly acceptable to ask. It may be worth you taking some advice from the BHS about drawing up a decent loan contract, just to make sure that your pony is safeguarded as much as possible if things don't go to plan.
 
How nice to read that a good home is your priority, but do ask your parents to make sure you take advice so you have everything clear before letting the pony go. Sadly there have been posts on here where ponies on loan have disappeared, so do check out carefully that the friends of friends are a genuine home who will not pass your pony on, but return the pony to you if they decide it is not right for them.

Outgrowing your pony is heartbreaking, so I do understand how upsetting it is for you. I hope it works out and you can keep track of the pony using Facebook etc.
 
Adopter: Thank you for your advice, I will ensure that she is safe etc. I never expected to actually see her go, so hard to have to do it, but I know the times right unfortunately, anyway, thankyou for your advice.
 
It is a horrible time when you outgrow one :( my daughter didn't out grow her 14hh but at 17 realised she needed a horse as he would struggle with horse strides when jumping.

The day he went (sold not loan) we were both heartbroken & sobbed all day. However, we both felt so relieved when we started getting photos & reports on how he was getting on with his new family. It was like a weight was lifted off our shoulders & we knew we had done the right thing as he would have just been wasted if he stayed with us.

He went just this last February & although the daughter now has a new horse, he isn't forgotten. We have photos all over the house & he was her one in a million pony but we dont miss him as much now because we know what a fab home he has gone onto. Making the decision & going through with it IS horrible & heartbreaking, but I promise it gets easier over time especially when you realise it was the right decision xxx
 
Tinap: Thankyou so much, I hope I will remain in touch with the loaners/new owners, so I too can see how she is getting on, and hopefully I will realise I made the right decision. Makes me have faith in my decision and realise that a lot of people have to endure it, thanks a lot:)
 
Very sad when you outgrow your beloved pony, I feel for you. It's lovely that you want to find your pony a loving home. If I were you I would contact horses4homes (www.horses4homes.net). They can give you some good advice and it is the most secure way that I can see of loaning a pony out. You can stipulate in the contract that the pony must stay within a certain distance of its current location. Good luck with it all :)
 
You are making a mature and sensible decision, and if you are only loaning and not selling then of course it would be ok for you to ask to be kept up to date with your pony by email or on FB.

One thing though, are your parents "horsey"? If not, and you do intend to check out the new home before you agree to the loan, (quite rightly) could you take along an instructor or some other adult with good horsey knowledge when you go there as back up in case it's not quite as wonderful as you have been led to believe! If you have any doubts then they can help with any issues which may arise. Either resolving the issues at the new home or persuading your parents that this is not the right place for the pony. Just a thought.
 
I was so upset when my pony had medical issues I could no longer provide for and we both had got as far as we could go. I was extremely honest selling her and as a result found a fantastic home! She is cared for beautifully, we keep in touch via facebook, her new owner takes her out and about doing all sorts, she looks really well and is loved to pieces. I couldn't have asked for a better home and although I cried when she went I'm full of smiles now when I get an update. Hardest but best thing I did, she would have been miserable and wasted with me. :)
 
Has your pony done any Pony Club? A friend is looking for a 13.2 for her 10 year old and is in Leicestershire,so a bit closer.

I know how you feel,my youngest daughter is currently riding our beloved 13hh mare and I'm dreading her growing out of her as we love her so much,but she is a pony that likes to be doing stuff,so wouldn't be happy in a field all day every day.If she stays fit and sound,I'll have to think about loaning her in future,and it is something I try not to think about at the moment.
 
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