Overprotective Mum - a rant lol

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I have had my horse for a week now and where i live there are bridleways all around us, these bridleways are always in use. My mum isnt letting me ride my own horse around bridleways on my own as she says its too dangerous which is making me really angry! I can never ride him in this case as my mum is always at work and my step dad doesnt want to have to come out with me all the time, so now im thinking whats the point in him being with me if i can never ride him?! Arghhhh
 
Omg, my mums the same!
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Glad im not the only one!

I've only just moved here and its far away from where everyone i used to ride with is
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plus none of my neighbours have horses ... well there are shetlands next door but i dont think they are being ridden any time soon lol
 
Have you told her you'll wear fluorescents - so you can be seen and found and will have your mobile with you at all times and tell her exactly where you're going and how long you expect to be?

I used to have to do all that with my parents minus the mobile phone bit as they weren't really around until I was in my late ish teens...
 
I'll try them when she next brings the subject up .. not starting a convo with her at the moment (Childish i know haha)
Shes paranoid im going to fall off and be paralyzed so i wont be able to get help or anything .. i told her i will be paralyzed if she is there or not but ohhhh no!
 
Speaking as a Mum, I probably agree. Of course it depends how young you are, I'm guessing still at school perhaps? New horses do have a tendancy to test you out once they think they can - and that's often a week or two after you've got them. Which could be not so very nice for you if you came off and got hurt. In the time it might take for someone to realise you had a problem it could be critical for you.

Is there anyone else near you with a horse or pony? Or is there anyone could come with you on a bike? Are there people who regularly use the bridleways perhaps from your yard you could tag along with? If you see anyone out and about could you ask them if they go regularly and if you could tag along too? I would see if you can find someone who you could go with, then tell your mum who you've arranged to go with, where you're going and roughly what time you'd be back.
 
OK, difficult one. I know when my daughter went out for a ride by herself the first time I was pretty worried and that was just round some lanes, on my own horse who I knew was pretty well behaved.

Propably best if you could get someone to go with to start with and take all those precautions like phone, high viz, etc.
 
im 17, i understand that shes doing it because she cares but she wont even listen to what i have to say which she knows just annoys me lol
Because i keep him at my house theres no yards or anything around which sucks
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I think i might go in search for randomers on horses and ask to tag along - sounds like a plan !
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She'll kiiilllll meee haha then if something did go wrong then she would have proved herself right which is even worse!
 
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Just go and ride out anyway lol. Whoever listened to their Mums when it comes to what you can and can't do with your horse!

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Either a troll or someone who should be in the Common Room.
 
seriously though when i think of the risks I used to take riding alone for hours on end no mobile no one knowing where i was....... now i let everyone know where im headed, have my mobile etc. it only takes one tricky situation to make you think twice, just glad I got away with it for so many years, till I fell off and had to walk home miles strrupless with a broken ankle, cant remember some of it the pain was so intense.... NUTS
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lol but on the other hand youd of proved her wrong if it all goes ok! Probably best to find someone else to ride out with though, unless you know your horse is ok to hack alone. Whereabouts do you live x
 
Seriously? Me and my sister have been going out on our on since I was 10 and she was 8! We'd be told when to be back by, and a set route, and we'd go off and have a ball. Luckily, we had super safe ponies who Mum had made sure were bombproof (came out with us and saw then calmly plod past everything). Helped they were also so slow it took most of the ride to convince them into trot!

Is your horse silly/ given her reason to worry?
 
Maybe just try and negotiate? I have an agreement with my mum (i'm 15) that i can go out (on the funny little TB i have atm
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) on my own, but if i'm going on the roads i have to be wearing a body protector and some form of bright colours/high vis. And always have my phone.
Just try and come to some kind of agreement?
 
Most of the 'helpers' at my old yard were dropped off in the morning, picked up in the evening and God knows what they got up to inbetween (I used to go on hacks with them, I know a little...)
 
I let my daugher start hacking out on her own on her trusted pony when she was 14. When she got her new horse I took him out first (which was crazy because she is a far better rider than me) but after that was happy for her to go out on her own, she always wears high viz and carries a phone. I would just try and talk to your mum and point out that she is being a tad over protective. But us mums do worry, part of the job description.
 
17! You could have started university a year early and be living hundreds of miles away from home by now! Would your mother be coming with you there then? I started hacking out on my own at about 13, my sharer was 15 when she started ditto. Helicopter parents do children little good. Its only hacking out on your own that you really build a good partnership with your horse, and if the horse is well behaved and you were high viz and take a phone, any risk is minimised acceptably.
 
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