People problems? Please read!

MgO said:
Hi all *sigh*
Let me tell you. Basiacally I have a fave pony, like the majority of people, but apparantly I'm obsessed with him but I can agree with that xD! Trouble is, when ever I'm there helping or riding, I'm teased about this/him. For example, today these certain people said the huntsman was coming to shoot him, cos he's old and useless (WHICH HE MOST CERTAINLY ISNT!!!). Some days it's 'He's going for a 'holiday'. Some days its he's been replaced, and some days its just general insults. It really gets to me... grrr. Just makes me angry and so sad:mad: He is old, yes. But still... Once they even said lifes to short to love him!:eek:
Help me please guys! I can't take much more of this:(
Thanks xx
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I was bullied at school first one I was 12 then at 16 I was forced to the ground by pupils so a guy could grope me. At Holland Park School I was bullied pretty much the whole time stealing lunch money rings etc, I know what it is like> You need to tell someone in authority


I would turn round and walk away, they just acting like school bullies picking on your weakness * the pony*.


You should play them at their own game say yes you will get a few burgers out of him . When they see your not reacting or bothered about their comments they will get bored.

I had a favourite pony at Park Farm called Oddi. no one liked him because he was a git and stamped on peoples feet.

Its lovely your so fond of this pony don't let a few mindless people spoil your relationship with him.
If your really troubled speak to YO and tell them, but honestly I would either play them at their game or walk away.


Say.......... yes he is old, age comes to all living creatures including humans including you, are you saying grannies and grandads are useless because they are old?? NO?? well then your comments are getting boring and repetitive, either change the record or go and tell someone who cares about your opinions.:)
 
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What a bunch of **** wits. But any way, they are people with problems, while you sound like a good kid, whose heart is in the right place.

I used to look after the stray kittens in the college stable, and my x boyfriend would always grab the kittens and throw them off the loft or from one end of the stable to the other, just to upset me.

The best thing you can do is not react, no matter how you feel, because the more upset you get, the more they will try and provoke you. Can you talk to the instructor or YO, maybe they can help, but, otherwise just ignore them as best you can - small things amuse small minds.
 
Just make sure the horse is loved and be happy with your pony other people don't matter. Far to many people only care about 'pretty' horses or in thier opinions useful/flash horses. I've always loved my oldies even when i was a young kid helping out on ayrds and i got teased for loving my old gina the most poorly bred awful looking tb you have ever met sunken back bizare rib cage which made her look like she was carry quadruplets! neck like a giraffe coffin face believe me that poor old gal got called everything and when she was rideable she rode awfull terrible confirmation etc but she was the sweetest natured friendly do anything for you kind of mare and i amde sure she was well groomed legs bandaged and wounds treated every day where as everyone elses opinion was shes useless why waste your time when you have others you could ride. she was frail and needy and i made sure she was taken care of before working on my fit healthy rideable horses
 
How about going to the yard owner/manager, and saying innocently "I'm really upset to hear that XXX is going to be PTS"

A ticking off from the management might be just what they need!
 
putasocinit said:
You need to grow a thicker skin and let it run off like water on a ducks back, ignore
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It's 'advice' like this that leads to people being hurt, physically as well.
Ok, not all bullying escalates, most of the time, people get bored (and move on... often to someone else, rather than 'on' entirely), but plenty of time it moves on from basic verbal abuse to worse.
It is ALWAYS worth telling someone about.
 
Hang on a minute, one i am not blaming the OP and two the only way to treat bullies is to ignore and if you have to get tough to be able to ignore then get tough, so get off my back okay.

Other posters have said ignore and you havent said anything about their posts, so leave mine alone.

How often does going and complaining make the problem worse because you are seen as being weak and tittal talling, it is a catch 22 in every situation, complain or ignore, but at the end of the day you have yourself in this case the OP who will have to look after themself no matter what happens.
 
This is so sad. Really glad that you obviously love this pony.
I know how bad bullying can get so agree with what Sol said. Best thing you can do is to ignore them, if you love this pony it has nothing to do with them, they are obviously sad individuals.
People used to torment me about my first pony because she is old and kinda slow, but she was a perfect confidence giver and we had so many lovely rides together. She taught me so much but people were cruel, saying similar things to what you mentioned. Got really bad when my own family started telling me she was useless and old and a waste of my time and money, and it would be a lie to aay that ot didnt hurt me.
However i experienced bullying as a child and it can get serious. It lead to depression and self harm for me so please tell somebody that you trust
x
 
Getting tough doesnt mean pulling out the boxing gloves, it means becoming numb to the horrible things they say, becoming mentally stronger, and letting what they say not stick to you and hurt, just like water does not stick to a duck!

If you do speak to someone just make sure they are trustworthy, there is strength in numbers and if this person has something to say to them, they might be even more nasty because you have told someone, that is how bullies work. So i go back to my original advice you have to be mentally stronger than them.

Good luck, smile (it makes folk wonder what you been up to), chin up and walk tall..
 
Unfortunatly my daughter found herself in this position when we bought her her first pony, the bullying was vicious and I did try to sort out with YO but nothing worked and ins got worse. I think i should've handled things differently now that I look back but at the time felt at a loss. Although it sounds harsh a thicker skin is sometimes needed as my daughter was quite sensitive and maybe a brush off of the comments and acting completely disinterested would have worked out better in the long run, these bullies seem to feed off someone elses unhappiness and if they know it upsets you believe me they will carry on. I know it's hurtful but try not to let them see it upsets you, they're get bored if you don't react. Good luck.
 
Leviathan said:
I was bullied at school first one I was 12 then at 16 I was forced to the ground by pupils so a guy could grope me. At Holland Park School I was bullied pretty much the whole time stealing lunch money rings etc, I know what it is like> You need to tell someone in authority
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my 2 nieces go to Holland Park school. They thankfully seem to like it there though as they are very gentle girls.

How long ago were you there?
 
putasocinit said:
Hang on a minute, one i am not blaming the OP and two the only way to treat bullies is to ignore and if you have to get tough to be able to ignore then get tough, so get off my back okay.

Other posters have said ignore and you havent said anything about their posts, so leave mine alone.

How often does going and complaining make the problem worse because you are seen as being weak and tittal talling, it is a catch 22 in every situation, complain or ignore, but at the end of the day you have yourself in this case the OP who will have to look after themself no matter what happens.
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If the bullies get chucked out, and something done about their behaviour, then it doesn't make it worse. If they get patted on the back & supported (like often happens in schools), it gets worse. Thing is, people usually let themselves be pushed out, and the bullies just learn that their behaviour gets them somewhere.

I learned a lot in school - mainly about bullying, how to deal with various people etc. think that's all classes were for in all honesty, as well as seeing how teachers dealt with being bullied.

I made a general post in fact originally, seemed far too much hard work to reply to everyone by the time I saw this thread ;) :) Your post just came afterwards & particularly irked me, I still fail to understand how people can continue to have such lighthearted approaches to bullying.

My skin couldn't have gotten any thicker. I put up with more than 10yrs of bullying! You can't ignore someone who is practically mauling you though... or can you? Well, personally, I don't enjoy that kind of thing, the sad part is, in most cases, if you fight back either a) you then get beaten to a pulp by a gang of idiots, or b) you then get the blame for injuring someone, despite being provoked.
Mm. Delightful options!
Telling someone never made things any worse for me, what's the difference in being called one thing to another? I always found though that complete ignorance often lead to the bullies trying stronger & stronger tactics to get a reaction. The odd ones (usually the ones that weren't really trying in the first place) did go away pretty fast, but that wasn't often. Turning violent had its bonuses, but I'm a little person, and violence leads to more violence... not something I'd recommend (although I really wish I'd learned some form of martial arts now, as it is supposed to be fantastic for building your confidence amongst other things, and always a handy skill I figure!).

The words never really got to me. It was the situations, the lack of escape, and the fact that others refused to support me & take action against these fools, that got to me. I self-harmed. I considered suicide. They almost ruined my entire education, and certainly my experience of a large portion of my life so far. I can't NOT take bullying VERY seriously for that reason!

There's also the fact that the YO should be willing to take action, purely for the fact that they should hardly want their RS's name to be passed around because the children there bully others... not going to be good for the reputation!

I really wish that more places would crack down on bulling and come up with some actual punishments. Schools still seem to think sendings kids home to play on their x-boxes or whatever they are will teach them a lesson :confused: I bet a lot of riding schools don't monitor bullying at all.
 
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