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PercyMum

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Hey All,

Just having a poor me moment and hope someone can cheer me up.

I have the most gorgeous ISH eventer that I rescued from a horrible (and about to be shot) existance. He had no experience but tried his heart out for me and we got to a decent level in eventing and SJ. Then he started bucking like a maniac and was diagnosed with OA at 8. I had him treated with Tyldren and he got a bit better but not quite right. Subsequently diagnosed with Kissing Spines, for which he had the op. A huge amount of money and heartache later, we decided the combination of OA and surgery would preclude him competing in the future (his heart just wasnt in it anymore and he hated schooling post-op) and he became a lovely and happy hack. Very pleased it wasnt the big field in the sky but wanted to compete so treated myself to my gorgeous Hannoverian 'dream horse' (yes, Im a lucky girl but did do a horrid 6 months in Iraq to save up the pennies!!!). Moo went to a lovely lady on permanent loan as I wanted him to be an 'only pony' so he gets all the love he deserves, and it didnt want to spread myself thin with 2. And he is soooo happy now.

New pony a bit of a nutter but very talented. Started getting somewhere but constantly tight over his back and wouldnt work in a consistant outline. I got some lovely help here but still not right, despite lots of physio and vet call-outs. Vet finally went for xrays and have just got the results - Kissing Spine, and surgery is the only option.

I have been jumping at 1.10m, and he just kept doing it - no bucking, no refusing, just wouldnt get his head down. My other horse was really violent in his objections. I just feel really guilty for putting my boy through jumping at that height when he has had this condition. And I cant believe this has happened to me twice. I honestly think I give my horses the best I possibly can but just fed up and feeling guilty. Both boys are such lovely horse, have had a rubbish start in life and dont deserve this, and I feel guilty for putting Moo on loan, although I think it was the right thing to do as loaner totally worships him. Also feel AWFUL for newbie being made to work so hard when he must've been sufering but he really gave no indication that he was in so much pain.

Sorry for the moaning post but hope someone can cheer me up!:(
 
i cant advice at all because im very much a novice but it sounds like youve loved both your horses so much and have done your very best for them - im so sorry - sending a great bug cyber hug to you xxxxxxxxxxx
 
O you poor thing :(

For what it's worth I think you did the right thing in loaning your horse out. The fact that he has a lovely loaner and seems happy should make you feel good about your desicion.

As for your newbee, geeze! some horses just keep on giving as they are so honest and really want to please you.

I think you seem like a very compassionate owner to me and I'm sure you will do everything you can to help your horse.
 
What makes you think they suffered dreadful pain? Give yourself some credit - you have made more than enough of a positive difference to their lives already to more than compensate for adverse events beyond your control.
 
Aww, thanks chaps. Just went out to give the boy a big hug and a carrot and he seems quite happy in himself. Sven Kold is doing the ops, same as the other one so I know he is in the best hands. And he is a very calm boy so the box rest shouldnt be a problem.
 
Big hugs, how disappointing for you and awful bad luck too but you are clearly making sure both horses have the best lives/opportunities so you have absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Hope the op is a total success, all good wishes and vibes to you
 
Well I can whole heartedly sympathise with you. Firstly, you did absolutely the right thing by finding your first horse a nice loan home. Lucky horse and lucky you. secondly, how old is you new horse? My mare is going for the KS operation in september ( after the heat of the summer and my holiday) she is the third horse I have owned in the last 10 years that has been diagnosed with a serious problem. Unfortunately I lost the other two, this one at least has a chance!

Over the years I have come to realise that owning a horse is a lottery. Some you win, some you loose, some you do everything right by and still loose. Some people treat them as accessories and never seem to have a day's problem or the likes of you and me inherit problems.

If your horse is still jumping and seems ok, seek a second opinion. It is accutely obvious with my mare that the KS is a problem for her.

Good luck with whatever you do. (((((( hugs))))))))
 
Moo is loaned to someone who loves him and I assume is caring for him, so he's fine.

Second horse is with someone who loves him and cares for him, so he's fine.

I and many others will knwo how you feel re. horses not being right. My first horse was pts at four and a half due to chronic damage to both rear suspensory ligaments. My current horse has a wonky pelvis, we don't yet know what the outcome will be.

Have a hug and a large hot choccy hun.
 
MrsMozart said:
Moo is loaned to someone who loves him and I assume is caring for him, so he's fine.

Second horse is with someone who loves him and cares for him, so he's fine.

I and many others will knwo how you feel re. horses not being right. My first horse was pts at four and a half due to chronic damage to both rear suspensory ligaments. My current horse has a wonky pelvis, we don't yet know what the outcome will be.

Have a hug and a large hot choccy hun.
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Oh, Im so sorry! Have you tried manipulation under sedation? My old boy used to have to every now and again (he had a fall XC that totally messed his pelvis up) and it sorted him out really well. Jenny Hadland does t from Liphok but I am sure there will be someone near you who does it.

Thanks for all the support. I hate moaning but it just doesnt seem fair on Percy and (being a bit selfish), me! And I just had my lorry refittd for the season :rolleyes:. Im going to lend it to my freind until hairball is better and groom for her when she competes. At least we will all still get a nice horsey day out!:) Must be positive....
 
Hi Percymum
Have just registered with the forum as my horse was diagnosed yesterday with kissing spine. She too gave no indication of the problem until two weeks ago and without bute she cant bear to have her back groomed never mind be ridden. I too feel incredibly guilty convinced I'd missed something. I need to spend some time thinking about the best course of action - feel more optimistic than this time yesterday. Hope your horse recovers well - you're certainly doing all you can for both your horses - hope this one comes back to full fitness - good luck
 
MRsM... when you say wonky pelvis what do you mean? I teach a girl in the PC who's pony appears to have one hip about an inch below the other one. The vet xrayed him and decided that he just has one leg shorter than the other. The pony is sound and level, jumps anything, hunts all day yadayadayada. You'd never know the leg is different unless you stand behind him and look for it.

PercyMum - i think you sound like you're doing everything that you can reasonably do. As you say, Moo's loaner loves him and cares for him so he's safe. and Newbee has you to care for him. whatever you decided to do will be the right decision if it's justified.
 
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