Please put my mind at rest.

QR - I'm at work and not read all the replies.....

I lost my horse suddenly last summer- with no warning. 2 weeks later I had my new horse.....I just knew he was the one for me.

I'm still not over the loss- I miss Desi daily- but I love my new horse. I think the new one is with me for a reason- it was simply time for Desi to go and time for Azzy to come to me.

Don't listen to anyone else. There is no set time - you loved your horse, you always will and a new horse will never change that.

Wishing you happiness:)
 
Ignore them, what rude and thoughtless people! Fortunately Ive never been in this position with a horse but last Feb we lost our middle springer and although we have 2 others we felt lost without Sophie so within a month we had chosen and brought home our new puppy. Sadly over Xmas our old girl, aged 14 passed away and we have already chosen our next pup, just waiting to collect him. Neither Chloe or the new boy will ever replace Rose or Soph but they have made the grief so much easier to cope with just by being themselves and giving us something new to focus on. Everyone copes in their own way and you should do what is right for you. Congrats on your new horsey, hope he continues to be a success.
 
each horse is different and your new boy sounds yum yum from what I have been told, remember he will not be a replacement but brings a new chapter into your life xx

Roll on when you bring him to somerford with our boys :)

chin up remember some people always like to put others down and maybe are jealous which is why they are saying nasty things.
 
Grief affects everyone differently and Taz obviously left a massive horse shaped hole in your heart. Who is anyone else to say whether you should or shouldn't have another horse at this time? Just ignore them and enjoy your time with your new horse. Loving a new horse doesn't mean you love Taz any less, far from it. It's a testament to Taz and all that you shared that you want to be able to love and care for another horse.
 
I've never lost a horse (luckily) but working in dog rescue I have obviously met and experienced alot of grief surrounding the loss of a pet. I always tell people who are looking to rehome a rescue dog after the death of another dog that there is never a rule to the length of time between rehoming. A friend of mine lost her dog in the morning by the afternoon she had taken home a needy girl from my kennels, very quick yes but she needed a dog in the house and the dog desperately need a good,kind and loving owner so who the hell is anyone to say it was wrong?

You know in your heart if it feels right and the horse you've got now sounds a lovely sort so ignore those ignorant and downright rude people who dare pass comment and enjoy getting to know him.

So very sorry for your loss. xxx
 
Thanks everyone so much for your replies, I feel now that I made the right choice for me. My new horse is perfect in everyway, i'm still amazed that I found him so quickly. I do believe that Taz helped me to find my new horse, the owner put the ad on the net the very same night Tazzy was PTS. He has filled the very large hole that Tazzy left but he will not take away Taz's special place in my heart. He is 99.9% perfect, if he passes the vetting tomorrow that will be 100% perfect. So wish us luck, and a big thankyou again for all of your kind replies xx
 
Sweetheart you loved Taz but we all grieve different - so you have bought another horse - another horse to be loved cared for. Does that mean you think less of Taz - not at all your memories are in your head and your heart. go and and love and smile with your new horse and sod what ppl say. Done the same when I lost my gorgeous dog rovie and Brucie boy( from RSPCA day after my rovie was PTS ) was the most gorgeous loyal adorable dog who would have given his life for my daughter so enjoy youre new horse and lets hear how you go on and sod the others

To Taz RIP and dance with the stars x
 
When I realised that the time had come to have Pickle pts I was initially sur that I wouldn't get another horse & would just share my son's. That very quickly changed to "I'll look for a loan" & then to "I need my own horse". OH had been made redundant so I had to wait until he had a job, but even so I bought Jason only 5 weeks after Pickle was pts. I still miss Pickle everyday but having Jason to focus on has helped me.
 
i personally if my boy past away i would get something else straight away to take my mind off things they can never repl,ace but they can help you through the worst of it. don't listen to to the jealous, just concentrate on you and your new horse, hope it goes well!!!!
 
Some people are just hideous. After a long and drawn out round of box rest, trips to the vet hospital, various treatments etc, my horse was diagnosed with KS on top of a couple of other fairly deep rooted and not easily fixable problems. One or two people on my (very small) yard had quite a bit to say about the way I handled his box rest/treatment (I followed the vet's advice and ignored the advice of the ginger inbred husband of a very unknowledgeable but vocal fellow livery) and then after Id had him put to sleep there was a feeling of almost unease and quiet jealousy, for want of a better word - I strongly suspect the livery concerned was feeling nervous about the prospect of me buying a new potentially better horse than hers, as she was very odd like that - whatever I did with my horse she had to do the same, be it a change of bit, a clip, a way of schooling). I bought my horse from someone off HHO very soon after my horse was put down and she was (well, still is!) perfect. After an initial period of sniping and bitching, the other livery shut up. Actually she left the yard a year later so that was nice!

Its nobody elses business how you conduct your life. Losing a horse isnt just about losing the animal, its about the sudden change in routine and the empty whole it leaves in your daily life. I hope your new horse passes his vetting and you have a fantastic time with him! :)
 
My heart truly goes out to you for your awful loss, but on the other hand I am so pleased for you to have found a new boy so soon afterwards.

It was a few years ago now, but my lovely laddie was pts only 6 months after I had bought him (whole other and kinda long story!) and I had to wait 6 months before I found another horse. The hole left behind by my lovely lad's passing was huge - I missed him and I missed going up to the yard and seeing everyone with their horses; I couldn't even go up socially because it hurt so much. I dearly wish that I'd been able to find a new horse straight away as it would have been so much easier to deal with the loss of my boy.

Ignore anyone that tells you (directly or otherwise) that you're replacing Taz: NOTHING can. I'm sure their attitudes would be very different if it were them in your situation!

Chin up and keep smiling, all of us on HHO are with you on this and you know where we are if you need us! ;)
 
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Oh bless you I am sorry for your loss of Taz and your right no other horse will ever replace him..

I had my mare when I lost my boy so had her to help me through and I can honestly say she did help me she also was greiving the loss.

If you feel your new boy is perfect for you in everyway then why shouldn't you get him?, Only you will ever know when you can move on and to be fair having a new one to do will help take your mind off the loss, believe me I am still going through this and only just after a year am getting a new one, but that is only due to circumstances alawise I would've had one sooner for sure.

Go for it sweet and don't be listening to any of the nasty comments we all deal with life in so many different ways....no manual...

x
 
Please please please do not feel guilty for buying another horse after loosing your own so soon, if anything it will be the best thing you could of done.

I lost my old TB (2 months after loosing my mum :rolleyes:) but I already had Mackenzie as a youngster as I bought him that summer and thank the lord I did, he was savour.

Do not take any notice of these people, it has nothing to do with them, you concentrate on enjoying your new horse, he's not a replacement, he's a new horse for you to enjoy and share you future with.

You have to remember this

'a horse will not always be his stable but he will always be in your heart'.
 
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I strange thing happened to me the second day of having my new horse. I was driving home from the yard a little emotional when my phone went off I pulled over. When I pulled off again the car in front of me had the registration TAZ
6025. I smiled as I believe that was my Taz giving me his blessing. I will miss him for as long as I live the horse I have now is prefect he's everything I wanted and more. Taz would have liked him.
 
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Spooky that JenTaz has the same name as you, Black_horse_white too!! Maybe Taz's find their way in to the lives on Jenny's! :g:

Knowing you personally, you're my dearest friend, I can honestly say that I don't think it's too soon for you.

Everyone handles/deals with grief differently. I strongly believe the void left in your life when Taz went was too much to bear. It doesn't mean you're fickle or flippant with your feelings towards Taz at all. Those who think that are just ignorant. It merely means that you cannot bear to live without a horse in your life....and I can fully appreciate that feeling.

Your new boy will never replace Taz. He will always command a special place in your heart. However, your heart is so big that you have more than enough room for the new fella to find a place in your heart reserved just for him.

Having him doesn't mean you're "over" Taz's loss at all, far from it, but he provides comfort for you while you're grieving.

It was fate. I truly believe you were destined to find him. Maybe Taz lined him up for you and therefore approves of him. Who knows?

After our lovely 2 1/2 hour hack today, you KNOW he's the right horse for you and I don't think you'd have found anything any "better" had you waited months and months. Enjoy him, you of all people deserve to have some fun xxx
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Pobably one of the most empathetic posts I've ever read here. Friends like this are few and far between. You have to move on and another horse to care for is the best way to do this, good luck.
 
Im sorry for the loss of your boy and well done for having the strength and courage to get a new baby. In the long run having the new boy will help you through the dark times. Dont listen to the dafties who say its too soon etc. Best of luck :) and I hope you have a lot of happy times together.
 
I would say TAZ sent him your way, just like when I lost Kestrel, I had already started looking for another horse before he died,and I'd couldn't look after he died,except one day I went onto horsemart and there was Rocco(Kestrel sent him) full stop. I've owned him over a year, he keeps my young gelding company and he's a gentleman, not a ladiesman as my young mare is flighty and the older one is a grump like me. Lovely manners, I just which I could thank the breeder and past owners for such a lovely horse.
 
You can only do what feels right for you...some people feel they have to wait before getting another horse, for others it would feel worse to not be around horses and to lose that normality of going to the yard....no one can tell you how you feel.

Good luck with your new boy :)
 
so glad things are working out for you.

Having lost a teenage daughter the only thing that kept me going was her horse. Then going through a hard divorce, again it was my horse that kept me sane and gave me reason to get up.
If I lost my horse I could not go on without getting another one as soon as I could.

My friend knew her 3yr old was going to be pts 2 weeks later so I went and found her another horse BEFORE dear Magic's time was up. that way I felt she saw the new one as an individual NOT a replacement.

She later told me it was the best thing anyone did for her
 
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