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Hello I am a 17 year old student and have a dilemma I am hoping someone may be able to provide a solution to, I have a beautiful mare who sadly will have to be sold at the end of this summer due to me going to university. I have spent a year after we purchased our trailer getting her to load as she was petrified so this season was looking forward to a full final season with her(and my only full season since I've had her). However, my mother has been hospitalised and due to her condition will have a 3 month driving ban instigated when she is discharged (which as of yet she hasn't been). Her and my dad are divorced and so thereofore he is unable to drive her car. However, he is desperate to do all he can to ensure my last few months with my mare are as fulfilling as possible so I am posting this in the vague hope that you or someone you know has a small box my dad would be able to drive or a 4x4. We would be able to pay a maximum of £10 - £15 per outing if this was required. Obviously we have looked into hiring but the costs involved just aren't affordable to allow me to get out as frequently as I wish. Please feel free to pm me. I know this is a huge ask but if anyine can offer any kind of help I will be so grateful.
 
There are a large number of thoughts going through my head about your post but I'm not going to put them in to writing. I'll take your post in a genuine spirit and suggest that your Dad gets put on your Mum's insurance as a named driver, the insurance company won't care that they are divorced any body can be a named driver. It usually doesn't add much to the premium.
 
Bethie said:
There are a large number of thoughts going through my head about your post but I'm not going to put them in to writing. I'll take your post in a genuine spirit and suggest that your Dad gets put on your Mum's insurance as a named driver, the insurance company won't care that they are divorced any body can be a named driver. It usually doesn't add much to the premium.
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This! Fairly self-evident solution IMO.
 
My mother has lost herincome due to her illness and so has had to untax her car and stop her insurance as things are extremely financially tight due to this. I appreciate this was the obvious solution.
 
are you looking to pay fuel etc on top of this? the cost of insuring your dad on a vehicle means i think people would be actually out of pocket for that kind of money, unless someone was already going and offered you a lift?
 
You'd probably be better joining a local pony or riding club and seeing if you can cadge lifts with someone going to the same shows perhaps?
 
If you pay then the other person'a vehicle is being used for hire which has a huge number of implications, i.e. they will need specialist insurance, may need extra vehicle inspections, etc. I would imagine it would still be cheaper to tax and insure your mum's car for your dad or hitch a lift from a friend.
 
This is a cheeky request! :eek:

I think the only thing you can do is try to find someone locally who would give you lifts to places they are going to but £10 - £15 doesn't cover very much fuel these days and you would surely have to contribute your fair share if you did find someone.
 
Why doesn't your dad get insured on your mother's car? If you are planning to go out all this year all the £15.00 would add up to the insurance!
 
Reading your post it reads there is a conflict. You want to have a great last season with your horse, not unreasonable. However money seems tight and it seems that competing is unaffordable to you. Why not just compete very locally where you can hack to? Or look at reality and decide not to compete at all, just enjoy hacking this summer. I think you need to come down to earth and grow up. Most , especially in this economic climate, cannot have what they want. How do your parents feel about all this, they sound financially stretched and your going to uni will no doubt cause them further financial out lay. I'm sorry if this upsets you but you do sound rather spoiled to me, just give your folks a break and cancel the competitions.
 
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Reading your post it reads there is a conflict. You want to have a great last season with your horse, not unreasonable. However money seems tight and it seems that competing is unaffordable to you. Why not just compete very locally where you can hack to? Or look at reality and decide not to compete at all, just enjoy hacking this summer. I think you need to come down to earth and grow up. Most , especially in this economic climate, cannot have what they want. How do your parents feel about all this, they sound financially stretched and your going to uni will no doubt cause them further financial out lay. I'm sorry if this upsets you but you do sound rather spoiled to me, just give your folks a break and cancel the competitions.
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Thank you but I didn't advertise for strangers to attack me personally. Maybe if you knew me you wouldn't label me as spoilt simply because I have a horse and want to enjoy it! I wonder if getting up at 5 to cycle to and from the yard before college and on Sunday whilst working part time as well to pay for horses upkeep changes your view at all? I knew the post was likely to turn up this kind of response but you can't blame me for trying as you never know what you may find. I have discovered a website which trys to link poeple who want to earn some extra cash by regularly hiring out their boxes to the same person so am going to try that.
Just for the record yes my parents are financially stretched but it will be ME financing any competing and fuel by working EXTRA hours and had you considered a horse with some sort of competition record is worth more than one without.
Just because I am young gives you no right to make unkind asumptions about me. I am disgusted by your response.
 
Are you on a livery yard, maybe you could all club in together and rent a box for the day, that your dad could drive? If there were 4 of you, say, then surely it wouldn't cost maybe more than £20 and you could add that to the £15 you suggest by doing one less class when you're at the show? Or, is there anything you could hack too?
 
Horseforever1's respose was fairly restrained, in my opinion.

You say you don't expect strangers to attach you personally, but you are happy for strangers to provide their lorry or car to transport a person and horse they don't know.

Your initial post is not clear as to whether you will pay for fuel on top of the £10-£15, or pay for the extra insurance, or pay for the time of the person doing the lending. I have a Disco and am in the region you reference, which is a fair stretch of country, so that in it's own right is a question - would my car be gone for a whole day? A day and a night?

Your reference to someone making unkind assumptions about you because you are young is an assumption on your part. The reader has no way of knowing your age. People go to Uni at all sorts of stages in their lives.

Your defensiveness regarding the fact that you pay your horse's way, including competitions could, in some eyes, be seen as being 'spoilt' - maybe that money should go to the family coffers? Each to their own and each their own way, but you must see how your post and your response came across.

I am, in general, failry laid back, and I do like to see people having a go at making their way, and I'm pretty into helping out those who help themselves, but your response to HF1 means that we would not be a good mix, so I will not be offering.

I hope you manage to work something out.
 
Hello there

No attacks on you from me I promise - I too used to struggle terribly to get to the odd competition, my parents where farmers and not really horsey orientated at all.

I used to hack to two local shows - but i find alot of the local events (green field local shows have disapered these days)

Please pm me where abouts you are based - I transport horses through out those regions and no a number a people and if I can help you I will. I was 30yrs old when I finally managed to buy my own 4x4 and trailer and the freedom it brings is amazing, no more been made feel to beg to be taken to a competition - well thats how my father used to make it feel to me bless as he really didnt like horses or the people associated at these events.:(

I suggest you also might want to have a tack room clear out and get a few bits and bobs u dont use sold on ebay? I did this and before I knew it I had £300 in my paypal a/c for items collecting dust that I had thought mmmmm that may come in handy one day? Several yrs later its still there and not been used etc That may help take a little pressure off and help towards costs?;)
 
Another thought......

I moved my horse from my parents farm to a livery yard which was closer to where I lived and had fab facilitys - but they used to hold competitions and a local riding club also used to hold training sessions on the place? Maybe moving to a yard where you could compete without travelling is an option?

Im guessing you may of already thought of this - but it popped into my head after my last post:)

The 2nd yard I moved two before I met my partner didnt hold competitions and through out the summer I ventured out once a month with my boy and used to get mobbed when we returned to the yard as most of the people there had no transport or not confidence to hitch up and go - So my friend and I organised a show on the yard (with the yard owners permission) and raised £250 for the Samantha Brain Tumour Trust and gave everyone there a lovely day competiting there horses & ponys, it was brilliant! I wrote to several companys for sponsorship of Rosettes & Trophys and the response & support we recieved was amazing!

Anyway will stop waffling on - just a few ideas from a person who was once in a similar position to you x
 
Where about in the area are you hun? I don't have a box or anything but know a few people that do go to a lot of shows in the Shropshire area so could put you in touch with them and find you a space in a lorry? good luck with your search x
 
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