Please sign

I clicked it and had a look at your wording...

For others, "
I recently had to return a lovely mare I was loaning from Bluecross due to her bullying my other horses. We did not have the means to keep her separated.

I am so broken by the fact I will never see her again due to the no-contact policy. This policy means that previous loaners will never be able to contact new loaners/owners of the horse in question.
I loved her so much and I gave her a loving home for a long time. I need to see her again.

So I am praying that kind souls will sign this petition."

I'm sorry, but I disagree that someone should have right to contact. If I sell a horse then I lose contact. Well, often I don't and I love updates and photos but I accept that sometimes that is that.

I think it would be intrusive to a new loaner for someone who handed the horse back to be contacting for details etc. As well, it would, as someone says, be against GDPR.

When mum went into a home, we had to give her dog away. I accepted that she may lose contact but the new people did send some photos and even visited her a couple of times. That was very kind of them, and they didn't have to do that. When they became unable to keep him, I took him back. Their young son was heartbroken and wanted to keep contact, visit and walk him. I said no. I am very private at home and didn't want visitors. They had the dog and they gave him back. As it happens, a friend was a friend on FB, so they got to see photos that way. I have since met them again and they are now also a FB friend. But I would have hated them thinking they had a hold an an animal I am putting everything into.

For that reason, I would not usually loan a horse, in case it was taken back.

I'm sorry if you don't like this view, but wanted to give an alternative point of view.

I hope you still have joy from your other horses.
 
Thank you @Red-1 I wanted to post something similar, but your reply is more eloquent than I could have been and you have personal examples to back up your view.
 
Kaylum said:
Post on Facebook for info of new owners. No charity will give you details, it's not just the Blue Cross.
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Nor should they regardless of GDPR. OP you took loan of a mare that was incompatible with other equines you own and for whatever reason you cannot provide conditions to safely separate said equines sad though for you it is you need to accept the situation.
 
Bellaboo18 said:
If I was looking to loan a horse or pony from a charity and I was told a previous loaner would want to come and visit, it would really put me off.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you but to me it wouldn't be appropriate for you to continue to visit the horse. Hopefully they'll find a more suitable home.
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Just reread it, sorry you're upset OP but I definitely wouldn't want you visiting. I'm in contact with Kikis old owner on Facebook and he was really kind to me when he was pts but I wouldn't have wanted him to visit
 
I kind of agree with the others I'm sorry!

I know it's hard but if you hand over responsibility you kind of have to respect that you don't have any say or contact with the horse after that 😔
 
I've been thinking about your post as I will be having a pony arrive from Blue Cross within the next few days. Although I can understand and empathise with your feelings, I wouldn't want the added complication of a previous owner getting in touch or wishing to visit, at least at the moment. I'm not sure that it would be of any great benefit to the pony who is, and should be, at the centre of the re-homing process. From my experience of Blue Cross, they have been good at providing necessary information to ensure that she be well cared for and they have maintained confidentiality about her previous loaner and reason for re-homing. I'm truly sorry for your situation but I hope you can take comfort from knowing that you did provide a loving home for that period in the horse's life and I'm sure this will stand her in good stead in her next home.
 
Bellaboo18 said:
If I was looking to loan a horse or pony from a charity and I was told a previous loaner would want to come and visit, it would really put me off.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you but to me it wouldn't be appropriate for you to continue to visit the horse. Hopefully they'll find a more suitable home.
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I wouldnt take on a horse if I was forced to have contact with old loaners. I know your upset OP, but I wouldn't want to have to deal with someone being heartbroken around my shiny new horse. I had this with a horse I bought and it ended badly when I had to ban her from coming up and sobbing all over him and generally interfering.

I've kept in contact with nearly every horse I've ever owned or loaned, but its just via FB or the odd email when something good or bad has happened. Anything more is far too intrusive.
 
afraid I agree with some of the others, there are two ways of thinking.

When you send a horse back to blue cross, the new loaners don't know you nor do they give permission keep in contact, but when the blue cross rehome a horse that has just come back, then really when you send them back that ends it as it isn't like loaning your own horse, you have no actual claim.

I do feel for you as we do get attached to horses like they are our family and bond with them unconditionally. Was there no way you could have kept this horse on livery or such near by?

Things could get messy if the old loaner complains to the new loaner about feed or tack they don't want the horse to have.


Clean break is what is needed how ever hard.

Selling is different
I still keep in contact with the man I bought my MOAL who I lost to Lami in 2012
also the lady I bought my new ID and my welsh A. They are all on my Facebook yard page so they can keep in touch and me also. That is my choice though loaners keeping in contact is a different ball game.

What someone else put further up is one way you can appeal to the new loaner to befriend you so they can choose if or if not to keep in touch and share info.
 
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