Pointless post but just feel like a rant as so annoyed at people's lack of respect

Disgusting. People have NO respect these days. One thing that winds me up in the shop is people trying on gloves and then just lobbing them on the floor if they don't fit, they don't even put them back in the packet, just screw them up and chuck them down.
 
Silvermiyazawa said:
I have also just discovered a crime that is at least 2.5 years old.

My old lad was PTS 4 weeks before I had my daughter, I hadn't ridden since finding out I was pregnant. When I cleared his things out of the yard I could barely look at it and valuable stuff was put into storage at home.

I cleaned his bridle over the summer and noticed some odd wear/vermin/??? damage to the rubber Equus reins. I cursed myself a little for not storing them more carefully, cleaned them and put them away. Earlier this month I decided to sell some bits and bobs, including this (rather nice) bridle. I cleaned it again, decided I could not sell the reins but I would let the potential purchaser see them and she could have them at no extra cost if she wanted them. As I took them to the car (the first time I had seen them in natural light for a couple of years) I noticed they looked odd. They are NOT MY REINS!! Mine are black, these are havana and slightly narrower than mine!! Some @£$% has swapped my lovely reins when they were hanging in the communal tack room. I was really upset, nothing I can do, no idea who obviously and too much time has passed but as someone else has said, I thought my fellow liveries were my friends. Karma may well bite them on the behind!

Sorry, that was really long once I started venting!
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It's actually unbelievable what people who are supposed to be 'friends' do! But, yes, I too am a believer in karma and hopefully it will bring them what they are due...
 
casinosolo said:
How awful! Why do people think it's OK to just 'help themselves'!? This is valuable gear and I doubt they would just wander into someone's house and just take things :(
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You would be surprised!

It doesn't matter how much something is worth, why should you have to buy things for a second time because someone sees fit to steal or damage your property!
 
My old yard could have had a soap done at it the amount of drama going on up there.
Bullying
Breaking into trailers
Cutting haynets up
Removing hay from horse
Riding someone else's horse
Stealing hay/ feed
Not to mention YO's lies resulted in my own horses death

The list goes on, op the best thing j have ever done is leave that place both me and horse are happier for it.
 
OMG, I would have gone absolutely MENTAL.

At mt last yard, my barrow was the only one with a pumped up tyre - until other peeps started using it, leaving it full of poo for days on end (I had to empty their muck if I needed my barrow) until the tyre gave up on it. I have MH problems, and their disrespect towards me caused me a lot of anguish - and yes, it was deliberate.

A livery at my new yard recently thought my barrow was for her use ( I believe she still does tbh) - I've even had to write on it as it was a repeated offence. I just will not have anyone use my stuff any more, it stresses me out when it's left all over the place, often dirty.

I bought it, it is mine, I would not dream of helping myself to your stuff , so leave my stuff alone.
 
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OP - OH just said if you were closer he would mend if for you, if you hadn't got anyone else to do it...it's a sod. Used to happen all the time to me on the yard I was at, people whined we were being petty, until they had THEIR stuff going walkies....then they knew what it was like. I feel for you. :(
 
Just shown hubbie the picture, and he has shaken his head in disbelief.

I am so angry because I spelt out what is mine and what is not for anyone's use. If you want stuff you haven't got, go buy your own !!

I do feel for you too OP.
 
Silvermiyazawa said:
I have also just discovered a crime that is at least 2.5 years old.

My old lad was PTS 4 weeks before I had my daughter, I hadn't ridden since finding out I was pregnant. When I cleared his things out of the yard I could barely look at it and valuable stuff was put into storage at home.

I cleaned his bridle over the summer and noticed some odd wear/vermin/??? damage to the rubber Equus reins. I cursed myself a little for not storing them more carefully, cleaned them and put them away. Earlier this month I decided to sell some bits and bobs, including this (rather nice) bridle. I cleaned it again, decided I could not sell the reins but I would let the potential purchaser see them and she could have them at no extra cost if she wanted them. As I took them to the car (the first time I had seen them in natural light for a couple of years) I noticed they looked odd. They are NOT MY REINS!! Mine are black, these are havana and slightly narrower than mine!! Some @£$% has swapped my lovely reins when they were hanging in the communal tack room. I was really upset, nothing I can do, no idea who obviously and too much time has passed but as someone else has said, I thought my fellow liveries were my friends. Karma may well bite them on the behind!

Sorry, that was really long once I started venting!
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That is horrendous. Like graverobbing. How despicably low. Forget about the 2.5 years I'd still ask around, if it's the same crowd on the yard.
 
I have no issue with people using my stuff (apart from bridle saddle and bit) and am always happy to lend items especially in an emergency.
However it drives me nuts when things don't get put back, get damaged or when people use the last of something up and don't replace it.
 
OP I think I would put the picture on the noticeboard with "What kind of person/friend leaves your stuff like this??" No long note, just that!

WandaMare said:
I had a horrible livery on my yard who turned up with no mucking out equipment so I told her she could use mine until she got sorted, of course she never bought anything. She really annoyed me by always rushing to grab the wheelbarrow when she saw me heading towards the yard and holding onto it even if she wasn't ready to use it, just to stop me from using it before her. Drove me bonkers...she didn't last long anyway, I eventually summoned up the courage to tell her to leave........some people are just too much trouble.

Its a pretty sad state of affairs when horse people need to lock their wheelbarrows up, mad!
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We had a DIY like that. She had a little broken fork and a tiny rough barrow, so she would just help herself to ours - minutes before we were about to use them ( as she knew damn well). We had four horses to do before work, so it was a pain, and she would always leave them in a different stable block so we would have to walk round to get them.

We don't have DIYs anymore, and don't miss it at all. Love the peace of just us on the yard. (Not saying all are like that, but we just got put off by the ones we had!)
 
This is such a common problem and very difficult to solve unless you want your time at the yard spoiled by bad feeling. There's nothing worse in my book than dreading going to see your horse because you know there's going to be confrontations and auguments! Have had loads of this over the years, but have now found a brilliant, small yard where everyone respects everyone else, but they are like hens teeth around here!!
 
I had this on my last yard, I'd have to hunt around some nights for my lunge whip and lunge line, started to hide them in the end.

My lunge whip got broken, so I left it their when I moved, seeing they obviously needed it...
 
Poor you :( it's so horrible when people do this and so annoying!!

I used to be on a yard where my things/stable were used and broken and after moaning twice to the yard owner I left and its was the best thing I ever did. I know it's a hassle to move but owning horses is stressful enough without other people breaking your stuff!

Hope you manage to fix your wheelbarrow. Xx
 
My friend and I fell out for a short time because we shared a small yard for a few months and she earns a damn site more than me but spends her life using everyone else's stuff and she was using my wheel barrow, there was a yard one but it was big and clumsy, so mine was easier to use and I saw her at the muck heap swivelling it on its wheel from side to side to get the muck out, when I explained to her that that would damage the bearing that holds the wheel and cause it to come off when it was worked loose, she took, the hump, I told her to ******* off and go buy her own, sick of it, we are friends again, guess she saw I was in the right, it is after all my property.
 
I work on a large yard where all the horses are on full livery - lots of the owners bought their own feed buckets and left rugs lying around, grooming kits, hoof picks and so on and they were constantly being lifted, moved or vanishing completely. YO got so fed up with the arguments he went out and bought a whole bunch of new feedbuckets and told them to take their own buckets home - also only allows one turnout rug and one stable rug to be on the rug rack in each stable at a time, and he tags them all with horses names on them. Every day someone was approaching us to say "my buckets been stolen" "my rugs missing" - it really annoyed him that he had to take such extreme measures to stop the in fighting but the yard is a much quieter place these days :D
 
I have moved onto a yard for a few weeks until I can move back to my rented field, I am sick of my wheelbarrow going walkies every day even tho it has my name all over it!
 
If ever anything goes missing on our yard, it's always the dog. :rolleyes: He's especially partial to horse boots and people's hats. It has cost us a small fortune replacing items. The liveries are now more careful and don't leave things in reach. Thankfully they all love him to bits.
 
DragonSlayer said:
OP - OH just said if you were closer he would mend if for you, if you hadn't got anyone else to do it...it's a sod. Used to happen all the time to me on the yard I was at, people whined we were being petty, until they had THEIR stuff going walkies....then they knew what it was like. I feel for you. :(
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Ah, thanks that is very sweet of your OH :) After leaving the note no one came forward but one of the other (nice) liveries helped me do a temporary fix on it! I am off to Halford's now to buy a bike lock while my boyfriend sees if he can fix it properly!
 
shysmum said:
Just shown hubbie the picture, and he has shaken his head in disbelief.

I am so angry because I spelt out what is mine and what is not for anyone's use. If you want stuff you haven't got, go buy your own !!

I do feel for you too OP.
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Thank you! If people weren't so sneaky about borrowing/ stealing/ breaking things then it wouldn't need to be an issue. I don't understand why it's so hard to respect people's things! And, yes, if you don't have something you need, ask politely to borrow and put back in one piece or BUY YOUR OWN!
 
I have this problem too. My friend & I used to share our current yard, & our stuff, & it worked fab, everything from the hose pipe to rug racks & first aid kit. Another very novice owner moved on & we spent a lot of time telling her how to do stuff so felt awkward having a go about stuff too. It's basic farm livery, & by telling her what to do I mean everything from explaining they eat hay to what a farrier is. Over the years my friends collection of oldies died & she moved away with the remaining horse, so there's now a couple of other liveries. I've had to make it clear to the novice owner she mustn't use my perishables. But it being such a small yard, when you've just fallen out over feed, rowing again over a feed bucket seems pointless. What winds me up is stuff like wheelbarrow tyre repairs, replacing worn brooms, broke kettles are left to me. And while she still has no tools, buckets, turnout rugs & countless other small things, she buys piles of stuff she doesn't need. Won't go into details, but over the last few days she's voiced her intention to do something which causes a problem for me, which after years of helping her out I think is incredibly selfish. And when I say helping out I mean everything from doing the horse most mornings to showing her how to tack up. So if she goes ahead with her decision, we'll be having a major fall out, when I take away all my stuff. God knows over the last 2yrs I've told her politely she needs her own basics. So come later in the week she'll be well & truly stuck. Even her stirrup irons & girth are mine, her bridle, & doesn't even own a bucket to muck out into by hand when I stop her using my tools. So in effect she's screwed if she goes ahead with her intention to annoy me.
 
I was once wheebarrowless on a yard and always felt very uncomfortable borrowing anyone else's. I always left it empty and clean and exactly where I had taken it from!

To borrow a wheelbarrow without asking and then leaving it full of s**t is appalling! I am afraid after the first time I would have emptied it back in their stable!!
 
After years of buying new mucking out equipment every time I moved yards (which was aprox every 3yrs), due to others abusing my stuff and breaking it, I've decided that when the last lot is destroyed I'm not buying any more! I shall become a borrower instead. Either that or I'll buy a cheap muck fork and a trug bucket.

It seems to be the people with a good income who are the worst offenders, never buying their own stuff and homing in on the most expensive nicest to use stuff on the yard, then trashing it, before wandering around complaining about the lack of decent tools etc on the yard. Their face is a picture when I find who has my stuff and tell them that when I'm back from catching my horse I'll be needing my stuff back because I want to muck out. They look like they want to say something about me being cheeky, then change their mind when it dawns on them they can't say anything because the stuff is mine!
 
I'm so glad my current yard isn't like this! Having been at one where everything from a hoof pick to a saddle were seen as fair game I totally understand where you're coming from. On my old yard I used to leave my fly spray and mane and tail spray outside my stable but they'd all be used by other people. In the end I filled them up with purple spray and that stopped it completely after a nice chestnut cob had purple splodges all over him!

Strangely though, at my current yard there's never been any need to do this because I leave my sprays hooked on the wire outside my stable and nobody ever touches them. If it's that bad that you have to lock your wheelbarrow up I'd be moving I'm afraid!
 
I have been brush and shaving fork less...... This thread has shamed me. I went out and bought my own this weekend (wheelbarrow coming this week).

Must admit that I don't leave them in different places or full of muck or leave them broken. But still I must get on peoples' nerves by borrowing their stuff.
 
Seems to be a lot of yards around like it! Worst one for me was a few years ago, I had a Welsh D on full loan who came with a brand new Wintec VSD saddle. It was quite funny when it started moving saddle racks and there was a collection of bright ginger fluff appearing on the underside of it (my lad was bay...). I bought myself a wire bike lock and wrapped it over the saddle and round the rack to stop them using it (it wasn't my saddle to begin with, and the only ginge on the yard was an unbroken 3yo :\ ). A couple of days later there was a fantastic scratch left down my mum's car door as well as a punctured tyre by means of... wait for it... an allen key! YO refused to believe me, so moved off shortly after.
 
I am so glad I am not on a yard! Ok my rider never readjusts my stirrups and knots my Pelhams bottom ride( grrrr) but I don't have to fight the wheelbarrow elves, have my rugs , tack or feed used or my field.... Considering myself lucky!
 
What thoughtless people.
We were on a livery yard and often found our barrow (one of the big ones, heavy when its full!) had been used by someone to muck pick and left FULL, in the fields furthest from the yard. The first few times we emptied it, the next time we emptied the muck back on the field. Funny, they used someone elses next time.
 
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