Pregnant and fed up!!

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Wasnt too sure where to post this, so sorry if this is the wrong place.

Basically Im nearly 29 weeks preggers and Im getting soooo fed up with it now!
I feel terrible that I feel this way, but all I can think about is when I can start riding again and how much Im looking forward to getting back out competing.
Im looking forward to having my baby, but only so I can get back out jumping again! Is this wrong? Is it just my hormones? Am I going to be a bad Mum?
Im terrible, coz I bottle things up and dont talk to my husband and ended up crying myself to sleep last night!
Im just feeling so low and even in the crappy weather, all I can think about is riding and getting going again.
Some one please tell me this has happend to them and that Im not going to be a terrible mother!!!
 
Aww hun. You don't have long now (honestly it will fly). I was the same when I was pregnant with my two children, but I was able to plod about on my old mare for a while now and then to try and remove the need.

In the summer I was pregnant and because I suffer miscarriages I was told not to ride at all with my pregnancies now and I went bonkers! Especially when I knew I had rode for the first few weeks and went showing as I didn't even know about it! I was grounded for three months :( sadly I miscarried anyway but it means I get to try some more :)

Take care and enjoy your pregnancy, the best bit is the kicking in my opinion...I loved knowing the little one was in there!
 
Me. Relax. Don't have a bath as everybody kept telling me to do cos it makes you feel like a whale stuck in a shoe!
You only have 11 weeks to go and if all goes to plan will be back in the saddle 6 weeks after that. :D Think how much good the break is doing your horse, always puts a spring in their step.
At least its winter not summer so all your missing is rubbish cold riding ready to start in the spring. Depending on your persuation go and watch a show/dressage or go watch the hunt or go watch a lesson or seminar so you are always expanding your mind horse wise and planning.
Having said all this at 36weeks I was about to go mad so went for a quiet hack on my quiet pony. Hold your bump if you trot or canter :D (health warning: this apparently is not recommended)

*And once you become a mum ignore people who tell you stuff. First people kept telling me my child should always have socks on....ridiclous his feet aren't cold and he's not wearing shoes.
*Also don't get hung up on breast feeding, they are right it is best but millions of babies survive on powdered milk and if it was bad they wouldn't market it. This was a big thing for me as my child can't breast feed and people kept telling me it was the only way.
*Babies cry- for the sake of it. Once changed, fed, burped they probably just tired leave them for half an hour they will either go to sleep or if still crying requires further investigation. 90% of the time they will be asleep in ten minutes. Ignore the people who take great delight in saying...'your babies crying'. I know I am ignoring him!
*fresh air makes babies sleep take him/her with you for a walk (get a carry sling thing so your hands are free so you can do housework !yay!)
*At first when your baby has a nap at say two pm have one too. Baby sleep you sleep works well.

Sorry for the long post but I know exactly how you feel but promise its not as bad as all that. Any questions regarding ignoring the NHS, etc feel free to e-mail. :D
 
lol no hated it was four months before I found out was eventing and training for Sandhurst (45 mins swimming am and 45 minutes run pm and riding) and hated the fact I was pregnant. Hated the fact everyone treated me like an idiot, 'now when the baby comes what is your idea of birth what do you want' ... what do you recommend you do this as a job!
Baby kicked me, made me sick, meant I couldn't eat meat, meant I had to spend ages in hospital, not happy. Even when other half took me to a resteraunt I couldn't eat what I wanted looked like a marshmellow and had a brat kicking my gut!
When he was born it took 49.5 hours before an emergancy c-section (note not typical usually only twelve max I was 'lost in the NHS system' so speak up when the time comes don't get fobbed off) And I was cross that the scar goes through MY tattoo, and my six pack did not come back straight away and that generally he made me a cripple.
But as soon as everyone went away and I was out of hospital on my own its easier. If you baby has been crying for ages and you've done the feed change etc it doesnt harm them to cry for half an hour while you go in to the garden and listen to your ipod they are safe in their cot just walk away. And don't listen to the NHS if you don't want to.:rolleyes:
 
im 27 weeks pregnant with my second. i felt the same as you with my first and feel the same now. i dote on my daughter and wouldnt be without her so dont feel like your going to be a bad mum for thinking like you are its natural
 
Not much to add really, other than it will all be worth it when your baby arrives and jumping will probably be the last thing on your mind at least for a while. But if you are really depressed rather than just feeling a bit fed up then you should speak to your midwife/gp.

There is such a thing as pre-natal depression and it is often a precursor to post-natal depression. One of my friends suffered from it, but it wasn't recognised until she was diagnosed with post-natal depression which meant she had a really rough time and didn't bond immediately with her son. All fine now, but it's a shame she had to go through it.

Good luck with the next few weeks and enjoy the opportunity to put your feet up and be pampered!
 
I'm 25 weeks pregnant and though I am over the moon about our expected arrival, I am also very fed up!!
I feel fat, unfit, I can't sleep, I miss my horse terribly (sold due to pregnancy and long term lack of time) and spend hours thinking about when I can get back in the saddle!
Please don't worry or get to down, basically you are over the initial wow factor of being pregnant and now in the long haul of ever growing bump, heartburn, back pain and all the other great things you didn't expect, as well as being very hormonal! And there are so many added bits people don't tell you about when you are pregnant!

Whenever I feel down I concentrate on feeling the baby kick and reminding myself of what I have to come, and the fact I cannot wait to hold my little boy, as well as the fact that in the long term, the next 3 months is not a long period of time.

Keep your chin up and don't be too hard on yourself, you're nearly there! x

P.S. Always feel free to PM if you want to have a pregnancy rant! It is perfectly normal and ok.
 
Well let me tell you...
I'm due to pop in two days, and i was really hoping it would come a couple of weeks early. However i've remained busy working, so probably just as well it's still swimming in me. But i am SO put out by this pregnancy you would probably be more maternal right now than i am! I'm an equine agent, just got my business up and flying when i found out i was preggers. It was planned, but only due to immense pressure from OH and the realisation that if i'm going to do it i better get on with it now i'm in my thirties.
I conceived in January and the thought of stopping riding just made me cry.
I continued to hunt until the end of last season, (April) and anyone who dared tell me to quit was fondly remembered over the next hedge we leapt.
I carried on riding horses for work until i was about 6 months. I was lucky i didn't show until 6 months, my abs were strong and kept it well back. I stopped jumping between 5 and 6 months and I kept my eventer fit until i was 7 months. Though i wasn't eventing him, i drew the line there! However i did win a dressage on him at 6 1/2 months, yay! I am lucky in that i have a groom work for me who is helping to keep him ticking over now. (So i can hop straight on and get out hunting!) I would still be riding him now if he weren't such a sensitive soul. I could not possibly dismount him safely now, he would **** a brick if i threw my leg over his neck! It does really pee me off that i can't ride him, i miss that terribly. My big hunter is different, and i was riding him regularly until about ten days ago when he got poorly. Long story, he's being tested for cushings. But if he were well i would have hacked him today.
I bloomin refuse to sit around being pregnant and useless, and as much as i am restricted in what i can physically do i will bloomin well do what i can! I'm still working a bit, and my groom rides any horses i test out. I got poorly a couple of weeks ago and had a seizure. Had to spend a night in hospital to be monitored. How pee'd off was i about that!!!
I've been ok since, just waiting for the moment now when i know it's on the way.
I really can hardly wait to get it out of me. I am still not a tiny bit maternal and i'm just really uncomfortable and quite begrudging of this thing thats making my life so difficult right now. The worst time was when all my friends started autumn hunting. I love my hunting, live for it. When they were all telling me what a fab time they were having it was hard to listen and not feel really upset that i was missing out. Especially when there were two cracking good horses standing on my yard ready and willing to take me!
So no, your certainly not the only one who feels this way. I haven't let it get me down so much as i'm the type of person who keeps very busy and can avoid thinking of upsetting things while i am busy. But i have had a few moments where i'm sobbing for various reasons. I think thats just part of pregnancy anyway, but also because i'll freely admit i'm really scared of what is happening to me!
I do expect that mother nature will work her magic, and when i actually see this baby for the first time some switch will flip. I will be instantly besotted and maternal love will flow from me. Whether that happens or not will be seen rather soon. But i will bloody well be hunting again by Christmas!!!
You'll be fine. It is scary **** this first baby stuff, but we were all born to a woman who probably survived and went on to live thier life as they pleased.
I might pop back in a week and tell you i have given up horses to care for my baby. Hugely doubt it tho. My baby will fit in somewhere, just like yours will.
Good luck!
Feel free to message me or email for a chat.
equimo@aol.com
 
I HATED, HATED, HATED being pregnant so don't feel guilty, I have 2 lovely girls so figure they had to be awful at some point and it was just when i was carrying them.
Can you still enjoy the other aspects of horses? Grooming, watching at shows, etc?
Hate to say once you've had the baby it could be a while before you can ride depending on whether you need stitches etc. Ouch!
It will be worth it, honest!
 
I am so glad this thread exists I thought I was the worst mother in the world while I was pregnant and everyone kept saying I was depressed (I wasn't just really not happy) and also don't be worried if you don't immediately fall in love with baby, its taken me almost six months to be in love with him. But he was cut out of me and I couldn't breastfeed so really just another being in the house like sitting next to your appendix :confused:. But don't panic speaking to people in the same position c-sections have that effect.
 
I'm really pleased to read all this too.
I am not enjoying pregnancy one tiny bit and i can't wait to get it over with so i can get my body back and do what i want to with it!
I feel i have no connection at all with the baby. I'm a bit worried that the switch won't flip and i will stare at a strange ugly little blob wondering what the hell i do with it.
I really really hope i don't need a c section. I want to be back in the saddle asap.
Ho hum, we shall see!
 
The baby didn't ask to be brought into the world. Its only a short time in your life for a great reward. My two girls ride age 7 and 11 and we all have brilliant fun, and I still ride. Pregnancy is hard work and your hormones are all over the place. I remember begging the doc to do something to hurry things along (at 32 weeks) he just thought I was nuts! It took time to bond with my first due to emergency c - section. You just have to go with the flow!
 
I hated being pregnant, I got so fed up of being told what I couldn't do, eat, drink etc aahhh! I was sick for the first 5 months, and had chronic backache for the last 2 weeks, followed by an emergency C-Section at 36 weeks.

Baby is now 15 weeks old and I have managed to start riding again in the last month. Its so great, even though most of the time its just walking and trotting in the arena while he has his lunchtime sleep.

As much as I love the baby, I'm so desparate to get back to work and have some adult conversation again. Roll on May!

You're not alone, and I am sure you will be fine once the baby arrives, just don't expect to get much done once they do, I thought I would have so much time, but the days seam to disappear.
 
Gosh, there are more of us 'not liking pregnancy' people than I thought!

It really is of great comfort reading your replies and I have to say, Im feeling much better today after posting yesterday.

Would be great to keep us all up to date with our feelings etc.
 
I was one of those who thought you could just carry on doing everything as before, which was fine until about 30 weeks when my body started telling me otherwise! I haven't ridden for a while but at 34 weeks i'm still mucking out, lunging, grooming etc but now getting very slow! The back hurts and the ribs are really starting to feel like they are being pushed out of my body, but I am still really excited to see the little blighter! I sympathise with how you feel but it's only a small amount of time in the grand scale of things, and people keep telling me that you forget all the bad stuff as soon as it's born!!
Keep your chin up and goodluck x
 
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