kirstykate
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Any ideas on helping my boy as I cant send him to a shrink to lie on a couch

Just walk around them as normal and talk in a normal voice - encourage other people to as well. And find their itchy spot!
Obviously it all depends to what degree your horse is problematic. Mine was super-feral!!
Are there certain things that set him off?
He is fine in the stable now and tied up outside, its just when we go out in the school. He has had some serious treatment. I was completely withdrawn into himself when we got him. I have to try and back him this summer!! He is 17hh IDxTB, King of Diamonds line, 8 yr old. The issues are really deep seated!!![]()
Bet his stunning!!! What a shame though, do you know in detail the type of abuse? I can't rate Jenny Rolfe's books/DVD's enough. I know she's got mostly Spanish horses, but the groundwork and communication with the horse will be the best thing for your chap.
Its fab for creating a connection, understanding and trust between horse and rider, can't rate it enough. Loose schooling is useful, but you have to use techniques to get the horse interested in you... Almost so you can lunge them without the lines, but time is definitely a healer when the correct work is put in. Good luck!
I already loose school and he lunges, but he is not happy or confident in himself.
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A qualified equine behaviourist is the horse equivalent of a psychologist - no couch needed
They can assess the horse, work out what the issues are, and using similar principles to working with people with phobias or anxiety disorders, they can work out with you a programme to overcome the horse's fears and build their confidence.
And if they suggest join-up, they're unlikely to be a qualified behaviourist- never try this with a horse who's fearful or has been abused. Debbie Marsden in Scotland might be worth speaking to.
I have to try and back him this summer!! He is 17hh IDxTB, King of Diamonds line, 8 yr old. The issues are really deep seated!!![]()
What is he like around other horses? Does he have much turn out and what signs does he show for unhappiness when in the school?
What does he do when you go in the school with him?
I already loose school and he lunges, but he is not happy or confident in himself.
It's not uncommon unfortunately for horses to become psychologically damaged in various circumstances, and the rehabilitation is never straight forward.
Horses in my view only have one fear, and that is that they are going to die, they have no real concept of being hurt as such as they often injure and damage themselves when clicking into flight mode.
For a horse to be in a continual state of unconfidence as his habitual state must be tremendously traumatic for him and make him dangerous to be around as he is on a hair trigger to flight.
Horses are born followers always looking for a leader, even lead horses will defer to a stronger more capable leader and it must be a relief to be able to abdicate that responsibility.
For the horse to be comfortable and relaxed in his skin and surroundings he needs to be confident that you are his leader and you will keep him safe. This isn't achieved by bunny hugging or making or forcing. It is making your ideas his ideas through trust which is hard to gain but easy to lose.
There are many techniques available to build confidence and trust through leadership, and its up to you which you choose. The best I find start with groundwork, and too many foil their own intention by being in too much af a rush to get on board. When he is confident in your leadership on the ground, it is easily transfered to the saddle.
He lacks self confidence, broncs like ****!! with the saddle on in a blind panic
A qualified equine behaviourist is the horse equivalent of a psychologist - no couch needed
They can assess the horse, work out what the issues are, and using similar principles to working with people with phobias or anxiety disorders, they can work out with you a programme to overcome the horse's fears and build their confidence.
And if they suggest join-up, they're unlikely to be a qualified behaviourist- never try this with a horse who's fearful or has been abused. Debbie Marsden in Scotland might be worth speaking to.
I already loose school and he lunges, but he is not happy or confident in himself.
It's not uncommon unfortunately for horses to become psychologically damaged in various circumstances, and the rehabilitation is never straight forward.
Horses in my view only have one fear, and that is that they are going to die, they have no real concept of being hurt as such as they often injure and damage themselves when clicking into flight mode.
For a horse to be in a continual state of unconfidence as his habitual state must be tremendously traumatic for him and make him dangerous to be around as he is on a hair trigger to flight.
Horses are born followers always looking for a leader, even lead horses will defer to a stronger more capable leader and it must be a relief to be able to abdicate that responsibility.
For the horse to be comfortable and relaxed in his skin and surroundings he needs to be confident that you are his leader and you will keep him safe. This isn't achieved by bunny hugging or making or forcing. It is making your ideas his ideas through trust which is hard to gain but easy to lose.
There are many techniques available to build confidence and trust through leadership, and its up to you which you choose. The best I find start with groundwork, and too many foil their own intention by being in too much af a rush to get on board. When he is confident in your leadership on the ground, it is easily transfered to the saddle.
I would agree with this...mine was so underconfident he was dangerous.....it took time to build a relationship but he has turned into a lovely confident lad who will hack out alone and do anything I ask. He is an arab and I think some breeds/types of horse really have to trust their owner to keep them safe. Now he knows that everything isn't out to get him he's fine![]()
Pale rider . I'm sure you like my comment about join up, but there are different forms of join up.
After spending a working life time with abused humans ,the treatment is not a lot different to that of animals.
You don't want anything human or horse to 'join up', you want them to 'sign up', for life.