PTS decision :( update

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Following on from my post last night: http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=538829

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your words of support and help.
We made a decision this morning to have her PTS tomorrow in her field. Vet says she has bone spavin in both hocks combined with her KS and the hard ground with her feet being sore its just not fair to her. I feel relieved in a way that she will be in a better place after its done, its just one of the hardest decisions to have to make :(
Will give her plenty of hugs/cuddles and treats before she goes, i feel very sad for my cob too as i know she will miss her as they are the best of friends :(
 
I didn't see the thread from last night. But after reading the OP, I think you are making the right decsion. Non the less, it's still a heartbreaking choice to make. You are very brave for making it.

I'm so sorry :( *hugs*
 
Big hugs for tomorrow. I was just reading your first post on this and you put this one up. If you can, let your other horse see her when its done. It will really help her with the grieving process and may help any seperation issues afterwards. Its amazing what they 'know'. Will be thinking of you. xx
 
Was only just reading your previous thread.

So sorry to hear this, sounds like its the right decision though, not that makes it any easier. Heartbreaking.

Hugs. Xxx
 
You poor thing. My horse has KS and bone spavin, but thankfully is quite happy and not lame in the field. You are doing the right thing for your mare, and I would do the same should my gelding deteriorate like your mare. So sad.
 
sykokat said:
Big hugs for tomorrow. I was just reading your first post on this and you put this one up. If you can, let your other horse see her when its done. It will really help her with the grieving process and may help any seperation issues afterwards. Its amazing what they 'know'. Will be thinking of you. xx
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Yes this is the plan, am hoping she will except shes gone if shes near by and sees whats happening - i know it sounds silly but when the vet was chatting to me with my big mare my cob came up and rested her head on me and the mare - as if she knew what was happening :(
 
Difficult decision for you but I believe that it is the right one given the circumstances.

Thinking of you at this awful time.
 
Really sorry, very hard decision. (((hugs)))

I was really worried about how Fabio would cope but he's not seemed that bothered. I'm quite grateful for that though, bad enough us grieving without the horses too. :(

Thinking of you. x
 
I'm so sorry it has come to this. But you are doing the right thing by the mare and i'm shore she will be forever thankful to you for that. I know theres not realy anything I can say to make you feel better as there was nothing anyone could say to comfort me when I made the awful desition to have Lucy PTS. Just want to send you big (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))).

I found this poem helped me through the tough time around letting Lucy go. I hope it can bring you some sort of comfort.



If the day should come when I'm in pain,
And you know I won't be well again,
Promise you'll do what must be done,
If this is the battle that can't be won.

It'll break your heart, but please be kind,
Don't let your grieving sway your mind.
For this is when you'll let me see
Just how much you do love me.

Together we've had happy years
The future now can hold no fears.
Please don't let me suffer
so When that days comes, please let me go.

For my usual vet please will you send?
But stay with me until the end.
Hold me steady, speak to me
Till my once bright eyes no longer see

In time I hope you'll come to see
It's the last kindness you'll do for me
One more time please stroke my mane
And know that I'll have no more pain.

And don't be sad that it was you
Who decided this was what to do.
We've been such buddies through the years
Don't let me be the cause of tears.

You'll always see me graze now,
with the sun upon my back
Painful limbs won't tire me now,
however long the hack.

I live now in your heart and mind,
a lovely place to stay.
And what you have in memories,
no one can take away.

xx
 
LauraWheeler said:
I found this poem helped me through the tough time around letting Lucy go. I hope it can bring you some sort of comfort.



If the day should come when I'm in pain,
And you know I won't be well again,
Promise you'll do what must be done,
If this is the battle that can't be won.

It'll break your heart, but please be kind,
Don't let your grieving sway your mind.
For this is when you'll let me see
Just how much you do love me.

Together we've had happy years
The future now can hold no fears.
Please don't let me suffer
so When that days comes, please let me go.

For my usual vet please will you send?
But stay with me until the end.
Hold me steady, speak to me
Till my once bright eyes no longer see

In time I hope you'll come to see
It's the last kindness you'll do for me
One more time please stroke my mane
And know that I'll have no more pain.

And don't be sad that it was you
Who decided this was what to do.
We've been such buddies through the years
Don't let me be the cause of tears.

You'll always see me graze now,
with the sun upon my back
Painful limbs won't tire me now,
however long the hack.

I live now in your heart and mind,
a lovely place to stay.
And what you have in memories,
no one can take away.

xx
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Oh my word, reading this made me cry!:(
 
So sorry, I went through the same the end of last year. It will be such a relief when the pain has ended for your girl, but for you it's the start. You have done the right thing, I will be thinking of you and would like to send you a big hug xx
 
So sad to lose them. Can you try and see it as freeing her from pain? I hope so, as it is the only right thing to do for her now. All the best for tomorrow and I hope she has the sun on her back wherever she goes.
 
I'm so sorry to hear of your awful situation. Well done for making the right decision by her, you have been very brave. Although the pain and heartache will still be there, in time it will/does get easier, just remember your not alone.

Wishing you all the best
xx
 
So sorry for your situation and the choice you have had to make :( You are doing it for the right reasons though and that is what matters. It should always be what is best for them and not us. Big hugs and so sad for you ((( ))) X
 
I am so sorry to read of your sad situation. You are doing this through love, and it is the right decision, no matter how much it breaks your heart. We are all thinking of you, I hope tomorrow goes as well as can be hoped for. xxx
 
we had to go through this last year in august and it still hurts to this day.

we gave her sweets,carrotts,cake,molases,spoiled her rotten then gave her the morning out in the sun(she had been on 3 months boxrest prior to this) and tried to make her happy again.

when we laid her to rest my other mare was calling for her so we put her out and she grazed near her for about 45 mins then we put her in and the people came to collect her.i dont want to worry you but my mare had had stress lami in the past and then has come down severley with it now because of losing her,i wish i had got her a companion sooner but hindsights a great thing.

i took some of her mane and tail and plaited some of my hair into her mane.

stay strong for her and my thoughts are with you
 
LauraWheeler that poem sums up beautifully everything I felt when making this horrendous decsion with my boy a few weeks ago.

I'm so sorry OP, its a brave selfless thing to do. I hope she goes peacefully. Hugs for tomorrow. xxx
 
The poem made me cry too.. I did it last Tuesday for my lad..

Big hugs, a terrible decision to have to make and one which never gets easier..

Xxxx
 
I am so sorry, but you are making the right, and very brave decision. I will especially be thinking of you tomorrow,as it will be a year tomorrow I said goodbye to my old boy. Its heartbreaking, but take heart in the fact you are being a kind, and caring owner, and she will always be with you whatever. That was a beautiful poem, and made me cry.
Lots of hugs and thoughts for you and your lovely mare x
 
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