PTS time... Saying goodbye to your best friend, how do you cope?

Thinking of you and hoping your vet remains positive, although sometimes, your gut feeling is a way of preparing you.
He sounds such a special boy.
 
Huge hugs. In the last two and half years we have lost three of our herd. My two mares were life long pals and I had the one 28 years or so. I knew when the time had come and although it broke my heart, I owed it to her not to let her suffer.
 
Sobbing my heart out reading this.
As AmyMay says you'll cope because you have to. Same as when we lose a parent or another loved one. The grief of losing your horse is just the same.
That said you will take comfort one day from knowing you gave him the last true gift of love you could give him, dignity and a fitting end to what sounds an amazing life.
Thinking of you xx
 
I've lost 3 over the years and, as has been said, you cope because you have to. Take comfort in the fact that you are doing the right thing and try to be strong for the sake of your horse. It is true that time is a very good healer. Take comfort from the lovely memories. X
 
I am so so sorry about what you are going through. Although you think you wont cope you will. but there will be tears and you will grieve and thats because you care. take solace in your memories and dont be ashamed to say to people how you feel because our horses are parts of our familys. in my thoughts and a big hug. i understand how you feel myself . x x
 
Thank you all again. We discussed his case with the vet an as I suspected there is nothing that can be done. He can go on steroids for a few weeks which might help but ultimately his time is up :( we have a plan in place that he will come home from horse hospital and enjoy a few days out with his friends and being loved. If and only if he seems happy (because despite dropping his food due to the mass damaging the nerves, he is very bright and happy atm) we will think about giving him a few more weeks but I really don't want him suffering, he's too special to me. We've agreed it'll be done at home overlooking his field and I'm going to try to be strong enough to be with him. Hopefully I can do my best to make his last few days/weeks happy xxx
 
Another one here now sobbing my eyes out. The poem post did it for me.


You don't cope. My 'coping' was finishing a bottle of Jack Daniels in less than 20 minutes on my way back home [which I detest as makes me ill just if I drink one glass...hence that night was not pretty]. I passed out on my friends bathroom floor and had my Dad come and pick me up and take me home. Not my finest hour, but that was the only option I knew which would make me feel even more crap than I did. I think self pity drinking is the word.

You just know you have to do it for your partner, even though everything is equally obviously not wanting to do it. There's no words. I've dealt with loss through previous work horses, which I always coped ok with. My own horse however when that day happened. That was unbearable. If I ever go through that again, I will pack up horses, I swore that that day.

My heart goes for you. At least you have time on your side. You will have the closure that he never suffered at all and was loved till the very end and that is what every horse would ask for. I'm so sorry you're having to make the decision.


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3 hours ago I just had my boy pts. I haven't stopped crying since and reading these posts are making me feel a whole lot better! OP that moment when you know your horse is gone is I found the hardest bit but when you think past the heartache you know you've made the best decision and you start to feel a lot better (promise). Chocolate and a bottle (or two) also help!
 
We have been there, although in that case it was an accident in the field, it is a very hard choice, even when you dont really have a choice as happened with us. Jimmy had been a family friend for 27 yrs. Both my daughters grew up with him. I told him it was time to go and see my old pony Honey who we lost in 1993. They were double trouble, im sure she would have been waiting for him.
Its hard on us knowing whats coming for our old friends, all you can do is make sure the time they have left is happy, its the one kind thing you can do for them.
 
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