Public Retraction and Apology

HumidClimate

HumidClimate

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As some of you know I started a couple of threads last week about wanting to leave my yard, and how I was concerned about the Yard Owners reaction. Well I feel I have been very foolish in my approach to this situation, and not thought the situation through at all.

I have since spoken to the yard owner on her return from holiday and she was not at all cross or angry and couldn't have been kinder in helping me sort all of my issues out, so much so that I am hoping to stay. I completely misjudged her and how she would react and I am ashamed to say I listened to people around me who now it appears may have had an axe to grind against her.

I spoke to people on the yard today and they are all shocked that I would have thought she would be that way as most of them have known her for years and they have a great relationship with her and have been very happy and definitely don't want to leave, in fact I found out today there is a waiting list for the yard. I also found out today by speaking to one of the liveries currently at the yard and the YO in fact won the court case against the ex liveries and was totally exonerated by the judge.

I have got the situation so wrong and can only think that it's down to my rather fragile mental state at the moment, what with the pregnancy and the hormone treatment I am undergoing, not to mention other very stressful aspects of my life which have caused me to behave a little foolishly recently.

I really just wanted to set the record straight, if you have nothing nice to say please don't say anything at all as this whole episode has been upsetting enough,

Signed .... Feeling very stupid
 
I thought you were leaving through money reasons?

And didn't the girl running the yard while she was away forbid you to sell you horse?

I would defintly want to point out to her that that is not on!
 
Try to put this episode behind you. I, for one, have been caught up in situations fuelled by other people's negativeness and in hindsight I was, too, quick to judge without learning true facts for myself. Its a lesson of life and you have clearly learnt from it, as I did too. Don't be hard on yourself and remember it is better to judge someone only from your own experiences as there is always two sides to a story rather than take others words as gospel.

Good luck and I really hope you settle down at your yard x
 
Just what I said on your other thread - if you speak to people face to face its never as bad as you think its going to be.. Hope everything works out. It takes a lot of courage to change your mind, and its admirable, but also needed, as the yard was identified, and has had a lot of bad "press" through this. Best of luck, and do get some rest - you've emotionally been to hell and back with your hormones hun...xx
 
A lesson learnt, and fair play to you for admitting you got it wrong and publicly apologising.
I dont know many who would do that.

Good luck, I hope things now settle down and you are happy with your horses at your current yard, and I hope not to much damange has been done to your existing yard owners reputation, I have just realised that the yard was named.
If she hasn't hit the roof then you're new judgement is right, and she must be very understanding because to be honest I think most YO would be rather cross having being identified on a forum as big as this one x
 
Its never easy to admit you are wrong, however I think you can totaly be forgiven for being irrational/emotional. Being pregnant can send the most sanest person oover the edge. I hope you can relax now. Stress is the last think you need now. Put your feet up and have a Tonic (you will have to wait a while for the gin)
 
Good on you HumidClimate, not many could do what you just have. Very big of you to publicly apologise.

And for what its worth, there's not many people in the world who haven't made a mistake, no matter what context it was in or how they dealt with it. What sets some above others is how they deal with the knowledge of that mistake. ;):)
 
Thank you everyone for your kind comments and support.

I only hope my apology has gone some way to repairing the damage done not only to a well respected Yard in the local area, but to an amazing lady who I should have realised was actually my friend. :-(
 
Good for you for admitting you misjudged her but what happened with the horse you were going to sell? Did you mishear the groom when she said the yard owner would not allow the horse to leave the yard, even if it was sold? Did you manage to sell the horse in the end? I'm just curious, is all :)
 
It was all a misunderstanding. I was never not allowed to sell my horse, but for insurance reasons the YO prefers to be on the yard when horses are sold, removed etc and I totally understand now.

She is now helping me to sell my horse and has bent over backwards to help me with all the other issues that I had even though she has every right to ask me to leave after my foolish actions last week.

I don't wish to answer specific questions as I really want to leave the entire episode alone now. I just want to thank you all for your support and understanding.
 
I sincerely hope you weren't threatened with legal action after someone put the name of the yard on the original post...:(

I hope things stay good , and good luck with the pregnancy - ((((hugs))))

sm xx
 
Something properly fishy about this.....too many things posted to have such a quick turnaround. I imagine the YO found out about what you'd posted....

What about all the stuff you said about YO going to tell your OH what you spend on the horse, effectively blackmailing you????

All very odd.
 
Its good to hear everything has worked out for you, wish you all the best for the future and hope everything goes well with the pregnancy you need to take it easy now:D
 
What's the expression; 'Without Prejudice' ? I do hope she has everything sorted. Renting a field can be fun esp after some of the YO tales on here.
 
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