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Just wondering why people come on here, moan, then get offended and stroppy when they get perfectly honest and constructive feedback?

Seems to happen more with people with less than 20 posts?


Something I have noticed for a while now.

I am all for making people feel welcome but just dont understand this part?

Ad then we get a reputation for being unfriendly?/??

I just dont geddit.
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And befoe admin delete this it is equine related as it is about horseowners with problems with their horses...

(am I digging a hole here?)
 
I think some people come on here looking for a sympathy vote...But really if you post something on a public forum then you shouldn't expect everyone to agree with you.
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Am a reltive newbie although i been round horses for 16 years i feel you never stop learning . so no all opions listetened to
 
Nearly all newbies are very nice, I like it when people introduce themselves so you can find a bit about people, makes it nice and friendly!

I think for the new peeps who do come on just to moan, maybe they think this is what forums are for, or that we will agree just because we all have a love of horses in common.

Who knows! just like in real life, some people just aint nice!
 
I know, but it is the thing where they get all stroppy I dont get?

It grates at my edges and makes me all scratchy!

Maybe I really need to get pver it!
 
Don't be scratchy - be fluffy! Well ok maybe not fluffy, oh ok be horrid! And what are we all doing on the forum at this time of night. maybe we should be in the addicted to HH forum clique!
 
I do think forum speak can take some time to get used to
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It's a very direct and clear form of communication. Some people are direct in life, and that can be endearing as you can see their body language and gestures. Not the same on these things
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I know when I first began using forums I found the general feel to be very upfront and almost confrontational. It either scared me witless OR got me seething!!
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I've now learned to be a bit more philosophical and realise that if someone has been around for ages then they're not just there to wind me up
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I can spot a troll at 50 paces now though
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So basically I think it's more on an adjustment thing that causes the upset
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I only joined in December i think and this is what I have noticed.....
when a newbie joins a thread, it sometimes generally gets ignored which leaves the newbie feeling as if they are butting in on a conversation ( its happened to me ) and also I think SOME members can be a little too up front with their answers. Once you get used to that , its fine.
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In fact when I was very new, somebody, cant remember who, quoted what I said and said what absolute rubbish I was saying. didnt find that very friendly at the time. I dont care now coz its a faceless internet.
 
I don't know why. Perhaps they don't realise the relationship we all have with each other? And just feel that we are a bunch of people who know nothing about all the other members on here and have no history amongst us all?

Maybe some think that things should be how they want them, when really, they are the newcomer and they should treat it as they are entering our comfy sofa.

As I said in another thread, those newbies who just come in here and post and post and post are by far the best newbies in my opinion! They quickly become fully integrated with the rest of us forum members and become friends.

I generally only reply to posts which interest me or I feel I have a response to and I don't care whether I know that person or not. If I don't find the post interesting then I won't reply. I certainly don't change my whole demeanor just because someone is new .... to me, that would be fake and worthless.

There are probably some on here who would reply just because the person is new (although there doesn't seem to be many like that on HHO) OR because they want to "up" their postcount.

We see so many new people registering on here who cause a commotion or who post for advice and they are given it and we never see them again.....until the next time. I used to think that the ones who post asking for advice and when they are offered opinions, they don't even bother to come back on here to thank anyone, were pretty rude and weird but I don't really care much about that anymore as it happens so often.
 
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The thing is, it isn't! A lot of us, all personally and in real life, know each other. For me it is like free International phone calls!
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OOh I dont know anyone personally but i do agree generally with what you said . you are very friendly Tia . Its very hard for a stranger to walk in to a room and join in a conversation with people chatting amongst themselves, in real life or the internet. oh dear I dont think I am explaining myself very well
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But i don't see the point in being any other than direct, i am the same in real life.....I do not mean rude or offstandish but all the extra words to make the same thing sound nicer often causes your point to be lost - if that makes sense.
I can "chat" (all day long!!!) but when people ask about a certain thing, or want an answer, it is best just to tell it to them as you see it - whether they listen or discard what you say is their choice - as it is in RL.
 
I would imagine it is - the forum was much smaller when I joined so it was pretty easy to just slide on in there. HHO is soooo huge now and to be honest if it wasn't for quirky usernames, memorable avatars and memorable signatures.......well I can't remember who the rest are half the time.
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In real life I find that very easy!!!!
On the forum I just post away when I feel I have something to say regardless of whether people read or respond!!!!!
 
I agree. I really can't be bothered to beat around the bush half the time. Best just answering the question clearly and concisely.
 
I agree. I just marched in and didnt even really introduce myself.
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I do try to be sensitive to other peoples feeling and treat others how I would like to be treated myself. I think things can be sooo up front sometimes it can be quite a shock.
when you become part of the furniture so to speak, one can tend not to notice things, but as a newbie myself, I have to say some people nearly put me off.... but im a hard bitch really
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some people have a rude manner about them sometimes. not always. BUT i do agree with you. I can walk in anywhere and talk to anyone. easy
 
I think the upfrontness could be daunting to some depending on their personality.

To be honest, most of the topics on here have been covered a million times in the past, so for me (can't speak for others) I just lay it out on the table and the poster can take or leave what I say. I try to give full and clear answers, no dilly-dallying, which are to the point.

I have found though, that often some people on here do judge others by the way they themselves are and not by the way the poster thinks. You often see snippy comments from some who have taken what appears to be a clearly worded post and turned it all around to suit themselves and then the real meaning is completely lost. I find that behaviour pretty odd.
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I also find that some people really don't seem to know the correct meaning of a lot of daily used words....this confuses me even more, LOL!!
 
i'm dyslexic so i do worry when i read a post i might get it a bit wrong. i tend to jumble words around or miss words all together. haven't done it so far on here, or least if i have don't think any1 has noticed lol but i've had the odd text from mates and taken them totally the wrong way. gets me into trouble sumtimes.
 
Yep a post of mine was ignored but the person replied to all the others around it but I'm not going to get upset by that! Maybe people can be too sensitive sometimes. And the written word isn't always taken as it's meant whether it's emails or texts..... I'm sure we have all experienced that before
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I think once you have been on here a while you do get used to different people's ways of responding to posts - it wouldn't scare me off!

I am a relative newbie and, to be fair, I didn't introduce myself at the start when I joined, just jumped in on a post that I was interested in. Hopefully if I respond to a few more threads (and give some useful advise!!) the old hands will get used to me being around
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As I said in another thread, those newbies who just come in here and post and post and post are by far the best newbies in my opinion!

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Oh thank god! as a relative newby, I post lots but I was worried everyone would be thinking 'who the hell is this girl - why doesn't she ever stop posting'!

I found a lot of my posts when unanswered until I had done a bit of posting in the soapbox on the more 'what are you having for lunch today' threads and got some little conversations going.

Also I think HHO is quite an intimidating forum in the respect that on the other horse forum I go on, I'm one of the most experienced people on there because I work in the industry and have some qualifications. But here, everyone is so so so knowledgable it can be quite scarey for someone to post their opinion because you know someone will know more that you. Although TBH this is why I come on here - because I always learn something and I trust a lot of the advice I get. I get enough 'how do I do this' comments at work (!) HHO is my place to ask questions I think!
 
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