Random post about newbies

I do think it is strange that some newbies get angry if someone doesnt agree with their point as IMHO, old or new user, if I have somethng to say to someone I will say it - I certainly do not check their postcount first to gauge how I should reply
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well im a v new person only joined yesterday and that was only because i had a nosey around beforehand and got the impression that you are a real friendly bunch!!
Also just to put in my 2 cents worth i think people should probably not ask for advice if they dont want criticism!!
 
I think I am still a relative newbie... well I feel like one lol

Anyway - I think before posting the first few times for advice it might be useful for people to really think about what they write. Read it back and look at how it could be interpreted - I think people are shocked by the response they get sometimes because they hadn't realised they way they wrote something could be interpreted like that - so that wasn't what they meant...

oh am rambling and not making much sense sorry!

I've found everyone here to be helpful and friendly though
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i have to say im a newbie but i joined as you all seem really friendly and its the honest opinion that i value.
that and cutting sense of humur!

theres not a lot of point in asking for opinions and then getting all stroppy when they dont exactly match your own! thats what opinions are for, creating different angles while looking at the same thing, different views and interpretations.
and in turn, solutions.

well thats my view any way!!
 
I agree with someone up there who said they come here because there are so many truly knowledgeable people that we know will give their best answers and fill the gaps in our horsey knowledge!!
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Since coming here, I have actually decided to show my boy more at a higher level, as prior to the lovely comments about him, I didn't really know whether he was nice enough
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On a yard of eventer types my lardy RID looks rather carthorseish!!
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Anyway, I'm rambling!

All I would say, is that I know some people shout for freedom of speech and like it or lump type stuff. I think there is no excuse for being rude, to someone new, old, on a forum or in everyday life. Some forums use the freedom of speech argument to enable, basically, those who shout the loudest to domineer all conversation and debate.

HHO seems to strike a good balance on that front, and for that reason I keep coming back
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Oh thank god! as a relative newby, I post lots but I was worried everyone would be thinking 'who the hell is this girl - why doesn't she ever stop posting'!

I found a lot of my posts when unanswered until I had done a bit of posting in the soapbox on the more 'what are you having for lunch today' threads and got some little conversations going.

Also I think HHO is quite an intimidating forum in the respect that on the other horse forum I go on, I'm one of the most experienced people on there because I work in the industry and have some qualifications. But here, everyone is so so so knowledgable it can be quite scarey for someone to post their opinion because you know someone will know more that you. Although TBH this is why I come on here - because I always learn something and I trust a lot of the advice I get. I get enough 'how do I do this' comments at work (!) HHO is my place to ask questions I think!

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Ditto ~
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I have learned loads and always come here to ask questions about things I'm not sure about. Plus, if it's a daft question no-one can see me flush with embarassment!!

With horses, there are often so many ways of doing something and not necessarily a right answer. being able to draw from other's experience is an invaluable tool.

In fact I've got something to ask in the veterinary section right now.........!
 
I still count myself as a relative newbie, but I have never had any trouble on the forum. I find that I don't post as much due to not actually owning a horse which keeps me quieter!
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I love this site as there are so many different users and always lots of new topics (some Aus forums can become a tad repetitive).
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I find that I don't post as much due to not actually owning a horse which keeps me quieter!

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lol same
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Hmm yeah i keep gettin PM's telling me to be nice or whats my problem etc!!! Dont post if you cant take the returns!! Ok i was in a bad mood that day but still lol!
 
Im a newbie (actually I think Im a stranger!!) which is even worse, I find all the posts really interesting and it does take a bit of courage to post an opinion when youre new, I agree, it feels like your butting into someone elses conversation. but I also agree that everyone has a right to their opinion and has the right to have a say, new or not, and those who ask for opinions should expect and value an honest answer.
 
I think it can be daunting for some as you cant hear tone of voice through a PC so things can be taken the wrong way!

Im quite a forthright and upfront person though so I like people to be the same with me, although I imagine it can be intimidating for newcomers.
 
When I joined in 2005, I just jumped straight in, and found everyone to be most helpful. I don't take offence or get angry at someone for disagreeing with me (I mean, if I did, I wouldn't ask for advice in the first place) but even when in disagreement I found almost everyone very civil. I'm a pretty mellow person though; I honestly think very few people are worth the hassle of getting p:ssed off at although I cannot abide bullying in any shape or form and that will really fire me up!!
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Horse people in general are a pretty stubborn lot with firm opinions - I guess thats why we persevere rain sun or shine. However people seem to forget that when you ask for advice you are requesting opinions, you dont have to agree. It seems a little silly to take offence and get stroppy. It does make me feel uncomfortable when a good thread with 'livley debate' turns into a school yard bicker.
 
I have generally found the forum friendly and certainly helpful to a novice such as myself. However, I did lurk for quite a while as it felt sort of wrong to be "butting in" to threads when no-one knew me. Don't think anyone really knows me even now as I don't post that often but I feel that I can join in more than previously although I will never be one of the in-crowd if that makes sense?
 
I think everybody gets annoyed sometimes on here. The horsey world is SOOOO opinionated! Everybody thinks their way is best and I think to be told otherwise pees off some people. But if they cant take it, then they shouldnt ask for advice.
 
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