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as title really..

she rode horse yesterday and left him in small paddock with a headcollar tied up and hanging to ground, dangerous imo as he could of got tangled up.

rode again today and left him with no food (has hay at present) and didnt fill up water bucket either! didnt even think to tidy up poos in his bit!

yes im over-reacting but still its my horse so look after it!!!
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Well my experience of having a sharer has on the whole been good. Just the odd niggle for me like her not doing the bridle up when she puts it away (a pet hate) and little silly things like that. On the other hand, the share is ending at the end of this month as she wants to buy her own horse and I can't wait to have my horse back to myself!!! (She knows this so I can publish it quite happily)
 
I'm a sharer and would be mortified if owner felt I was treating horse badly. You must have a serious word with her. If she doesn't improve, find someone else.
 
Giving sharers a bad name!

If you are sure she understands what she should be doing and is just being lazy ditch her. If you aren't so sure (is she novicey???) give her a final warning and explain the problems and your expectations.
 
I gave up on sharers when one couldn't be bothered to turn up but didn't tell me, so my horse didn't get fed that night - fortunately she was on full livery so she was still put in with haylage. I didn't even charge her anything for the share - all she had to do was turn up and ride or just feed if she couldn't be bothered.

Get rid asap. You would think when people are getting the privelege of using something that costs someone else a lot of money, the least they could do is to look after it. But it seems that unless its theirs and they have paid the money for it, they don't bother. Thats why I'd never consider loaning a horse out again, or loan with view to buy, or whatever - far too risky.
 
shes not novice has been around horses whole life etc, just i guess doesnt think.

also she leaves noseband done up when she takes it off, i said to her about it all she said was you do that when you have 10+ horses to tack up and i said but you only have 1 (used to work in trekking place abroad)
 
I share, well I part-loan (or did until recently) and I would never dream of not looking after someone else's horse properly.
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It makes me more on my toes as I feel like someone is watching over my shoulder (the woman I loan off is lovely and not at all looking over my shoulder but that's how it feels). I like it because it means I work harder and if I did do something wrong I'd prefer she pulled me up about it. I'd be a bit annoyed if she was just nit picking but if it's endangering the horse I'd definitely prefer she'd say, and at least then I wouldn't do it again when I had my own horse and no-one looking out for me.

I full loan the same horse now and her owner has left the yard so I'm on my own and quite nervous, but think we're doing ok so far, though we had an accident on sunday which I feel guilty for but have been told in no uncertain terms that it wasn't my fault.
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her response to your request about the noseband says quite alot, she should have reassured you rather than come back with her silly remark. difficult i know but i would end the arrangement before anything more serious goes wrong.

there needs to be mutual respect for each other for these arrangements to work and judging by what she has said and done with the horse this isn't the case with her
 
A friend of mine used to part own her horse rather than a traditional share situation. Things came to a head when she rode while he was wooly (not been clipped yet) and because he was sweaty on return from the ride she put my flourescent exercise sheet on him inside out and wrong way round so the fillet string was round his neck.

Thank god he didnt roll becuase it would have slipped and probably frightened him to death and ruined my exercise sheet.

Its a case of a little knowledge being dangerous....she ended up selling her share to the other owner and getting another horse.
 
Get rid asap. Dont worry about her feelings, or her being older than you, its your horse and your feelings that are being hurt. Having had a bad, bad experience with a sharer I will never do it again. My sharer tried to get my horse on a full time basis and pay not a penny, taking advantage of the fact that I have a very hectic career. He is 16 years old and sound and healthy, but she tried to hammer him every day, and even took him to a competition in my trailer without asking me to borrow horse or trailer first. On top of that when I voice my concerns, her loud mouthed sister who had a horse on the same yard caused some major trouble on the yard.

Listen to that inner voice and get rid.
 
While we're ranting about sharers i have a tricky situation. i am a sharer, and there is another sharer too. The other sharer has been letting her sister and random friends ride the horse without asking. Now i think this is a little off - it's not her horse, nor is it mine and i would never consider letting anyone else ride him without asking first - it's not mine, or her, decision to make! The horse can be fairly unpredictable at times too. Am I right to be miffed? Unfortunately as it's not my horse it's not really my place to say anything, and the owner has been told.
 
hi ponyperson3317 if owner is aware and doesnt seem bothered not alot you can do im afraid. if i was the owner i would be very miffed.
 
She sounds slack and arrogant from the later posts, ditch her and find someone who really appreciates the opportunity to be with your horse.
 
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as title really..

she rode horse yesterday and left him in small paddock with a headcollar tied up and hanging to ground, dangerous imo as he could of got tangled up.

rode again today and left him with no food (has hay at present) and didnt fill up water bucket either! didnt even think to tidy up poos in his bit!

yes im over-reacting but still its my horse so look after it!!!
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This is not a rant about sharers. It is a rant about your sharer.

Is the person a fairly novice horse person? Does she need reminding that these things need doing, maybe a 'to do' list in the tackroom? Or should she know better? If the latter is the case then find someone else, there are quite a lot out there.
 
I think you just need to make it clear how you expect her to treat your horse in terms of what she does with it after she's ridden it. The noseband issue is trifling, does it really matter if it's just a cavesson, it won't kill the horse after all but the headcollar/tied up/hanging to the ground sounds more worrying

How long have you had a sharer and are you looking over her shoulder the whole time?
 
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