RANT - friend with horses and money problems

For god sake! So now I'm not only a bad friend but also a spoilt cruel person! I don't have to justify how I got my horses or how I look after them. If your issue is with me please take it up via pm as I am not willing to argue anything out on a forum as it's not my style.
 
What on earth does it matter how the OP acquired her horses ? She's not the one sticking them in a field and neglecting them, so how she got her horses is completely irrelevant!

I completely agree with Hnery1997 - why are her parents tolerating this situation and enabling her to continue her irresponsible ways? You'd think that the threat of being creidt-blacklisted would be enough to stir them into some sort of action.

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These days, too many parents want to be their children's best mates instead of their parents, and think their childrn will be emotionally scarred for life if they ever say no to them or deny them anything. This seems like such a situation taken to extremes.
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Well we will have to agree to disagree - all I see, in your post AND in this threads poster - were two people talking about other people to which they have some sort of relationship.

And how can you say she not trying to help the girl out - she has offered to give the girl £2,000! Surely that is a help? Certainly better than nothing in my book and if someone didn't have any money and was going to be blacklisted then £2,000 would surely be an enormous help?
 
StB - it may seem that way but I for one am not so sure..if she is that interested why not offer the girl free livery - and some good solid help? The girl was obv interested in them once - so a good friend could steer her in the right direction, a bad friend would just complain about how crapply they are managing things! God forbid OP doesnt ever fall on hard times!
 
Erm, well I don't see that as helping out - I see that as PAYING for someone else's horse.
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Sorry OP, but I need to respond.

The OP has done nothing wrong in posting this. There is nothing to identify who she is talking about. I also do not see that OP is trying to take advantage, simply giving the help that she can. She is not trying to gain from this girls problem, but to help out whilst also helping one of the horses.
I do agree that the parents should be taking control here and selling both horses, for their (horses) sakes and to regain the money they have lost.
 
Not paying for someon elses horse its 'paying' for your FRIENDS horse - letting them keep it on your parents land (which you get free anyway) and at the same time helping your friend subtely in getting her horse-sense (and life-sense) back on track...
 
SJ3 - Im just saying what I would do in your situation - if you dont like it - dont read it - thats what the forum is here for - opinions!
 
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Not paying for someon elses horse its 'paying' for your FRIENDS horse - letting them keep it on your parents land (which you get free anyway) and at the same time helping your friend subtely in getting her horse-sense (and life-sense) back on track...

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Yes, as I said, paying for someone else's horse....
 
This sounds fine to me...OP I wouldn't worry-you have posted no names or great details, this girl sounds like she needs the parents to kick her up te backside!
 
To me, a friend isn't just 'someone' - its someone you'd do anything for. Someone is the person I passed on the street this morning, my friends are more than someone. Maybe Im too soft but thats what Id be doing for my friends.
 
Oh dear god - seems some people have lost sight of the issue. Has anyone noticed that the title of this post says 'Rant' therefore it is obvious that showjump2003 is letting off some steam about a situation that frustrates her not to let everyone to pass judgement on her!!!!

Sometimes it can be a sore point if you see someone ungrateful who doesn't appreciate it when they have parents who pay for everything. I have to pay for everything myself and am always scraping by each month and I would be frustrated if I was friends with someone who had got themselves in this situation.

But offering the girl free livery won't help her, it will just let her stick her head in the sand for longer. She needs to realise she can't afford the lifestyle she wants with two horses - offering to buy one may give her the break she needs. Part of being a good friend means sometimes telling the truth when no-one else will.
 
LOL!!! "Someone else" is quite clearly "someone else" regardless of the relationship, ie. "someone else" is not me, PMSL!!

I like you.
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Well I definitely am too soft then! *makes note to toughen up*

I just supposed that the girl deserved a chance, she might well get herself ontrack - take one of her horses off her might give her even less fuel to sort herself out!
 
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LOL!!! "Someone else" is quite clearly "someone else" regardless of the relationship, ie. "someone else" is not me, PMSL!!

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I like you too. I know she is obviously someone else - but like your granny is someone, but she's a bit more important than the man you passed at the feed store last week?
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Surely though by taking the friends horses on and providing free livery that makes the situation worse? The other girl will still not have had to face up to life and will be getting free board and a groom to boot in her friend (who will now be stuck shelling out money for horses that aren't hers)! Oh that I had enough time and money to take on friends horses to "help them out". And besides how will that help the money situation and the bank foreclosing? They obviously need to sell at least one of the horses, and fast! (ie by taking the £2k offer from the OP!!). It's common sense really.

And for what it's worth, yes this is a public forum but the OP hasn't named names, she's asking for help for a friend and showing some concern, not bitching - something some of you on here would do well to take on board.
 
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LOL!!! "Someone else" is quite clearly "someone else" regardless of the relationship, ie. "someone else" is not me, PMSL!!

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Not true! 'Someone else' can mean me - as in telling OH when he's just slid 'Someone else has spilt a pint of cream on the kitchen floor' .
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Im not one to split hairs but surely your husband would say:
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'Someone else has spilt cream on the floor' unless he's an upper class pensioner on drugs!
 
tillywilly, have you ever been in a similar situation to the op?! Would like to see what you would ACTUALLY put on the line if you were in the same situation.

OP, this is the exact reason I am greatful for my parents not buying me a horse etc as now I have one through my own choices, I am more greatful and also responsible. This is the reason why I think licensing for horse owners would be a good idea!!
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Tillywilly; if I was a very good friend of yours and I ran into some difficulty with money - would you take my horses and keep them for me at your place, with no cost to me?
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If I had enough space Tia then yes - we are friends aren't we? Begin bringing them over immediately - 'specially the coloured one!

Yes I have actually, I used to rent my own yard and on more than one occassion have let friends-in-need doss with me at no cost - after all if Ive got the land anyway - why keep it all to myself if my friend needs it?
 
to the OP, you did nothing wrong in posting this, and I very nearly posted something slightly similar a few weeks ago about a friend who actually has more money than sense and her parents bought her a horse, paid everything for it, and it just sat there untouched for months while she moaned about how naughty it was when she went to ride it after leaving it for a month. I could have screamed at her when she announced she'd sold it for £600 to a dealer that didn't even look at it! I think some people are just clueless and too proud to admit defeat or ask for help
 
Aw thank you.
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Which coloured one do you want shipped over first?

Having your own land is only the half of it though - the horses also need feeding, haying, farrier work and worming - this would set the OP back a fair whack of money for 2 horses...

....and you'll be bankrupt before you know it if I send all 23 of my own horses over to you! Will you also pick up the tab for shipping them?
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Well Id only give free livery - not free everything else - its one thing helping and another thing being a mug! I was thinking it would give the friend a chance to get back into the swing and put her livery bill towards paying her debts?..

I will pay for them to be sent via Royal Mail! And if you have more than two coloureds I simply must have one - I will give you three peanuts and a lucozade? Deal!
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Well Id only give free livery - not free everything else - its one thing helping and another thing being a mug! I was thinking it would give the friend a chance to get back into the swing and put her livery bill towards paying her debts?..


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So what would you do when you saw her in town spending all her nicely saved livery money on new clothes and a night out?
 
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Im not one to split hairs but surely your husband would say:
'*!@^'
Not
'Someone else has spilt cream on the floor' unless he's an upper class pensioner on drugs!

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No, I told HIM that someone else (other than me) had spilt cream...ok so I lied.
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