Really need advice! Its a long one!

A horse who bolts with a teenager is not safe for the teenager. Even if that horse is wonderful for everyone else, if it took off with my child and couldn't be stopped then I'm sorry but Id not be letting her ride it again until a) there were better brakes in place and b) all avenues of pain had been explored.

Part and parcel of loaning or sharing a horse is being able to take care of said horse. Holliee sounds like the kind of teen who really wants to get her hands dirty and muck in with stable chores. I think I'd be speaking to the owner and asking if there is really anything she can do to help, and if not would be searching for another loan or share.

If she lived my way I'd let her ride and muck out as much as she wanted, for free. Lots of owners would do the same for a pony mad teen who was really keen.
 
I also get the feeling that maybe the horse a little too much for OP. Maybe it would be worth ending this share and finding something a little more .... laid back.

Shares very rarely work out if there is no communication between rider and owner, so if this has been the case in this share, I'm afraid it isn't going to work.
 
hollieeb said:
Hi Im HollieB's mum and I think I should explain a few things and put an end to this thread.
Thanks everyone for your support for my daughter she is VERY upset and just wanted to vent some feelings. Hollie has really enjoyed her time spent riding this horse, he is lovely and we seemed to get on really well with the owners. Hollie has had some anxiety problems and has really settled in at the yard and with the horse however as she has felt more comfortable she has wanted to help more and this has been difficult as the owners have their own routine and way of doing things (which its not a problem at all) and I think my daughter has taken anything said very personally, as she does, and so it has started to upset her. What happened yesterday was a one off incident she would never and did not do anything to jeapordise either horse or herself. She has always done exactly whats been expected of her. I dont know what VAM has been told but i suggest the owners speak to my friend who was the one there at the time. My daughter should not have written on this thread as all it does is cause problems. I will speak to the owners when they return my call.
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I have told Hollie what i was told im my reply to her pm, im sorry to hear she has taken this all to heart. I also said that i really do think that communication has been the problem and that she should have spoken to them before venting on here.
It was all very heat of the moment and i think talking to them today now the dust has settled would be the best thing to do. Hope everything works out :)
 
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