really really need some help

Oh noiseygirl - thats me sobbing uncontraolably at my desk !!! (again)

In my family it has always been me that made the final call everyone else for some reason says they can't do it even since I was 13 not my Mum or Dad or any of my 3 brothers can't cope. Yet all agree when I give the nod !

I wish you all the best and I am sure you will do the best by your horse
 
Noisygirl that made my eyes leak and now its time for housework. if only I could see what im doing.
 
I know its really sad isn't it, can't remember where I got it from, on here possibly.

I know I will be keeping it in mind when the time comes, mine is 32, I'm enjoying every last minute I have with him.

I feel quite sick for the OP having to make the decision
 
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I know its hard, you must do whats right for your horse, this is a touching poem, it makes me cry, please look at it from your horse's point of view. I know its hard, I had to make the decision with my dog, who'd come to the stage she was just existing and no quality of life, all the best with what you decide, I'm SO sorry x

If the day should come when I'm in pain,
And you know I won't be well again,
Promise you'll do what must be done,
If this is the battle that can't be won.

It'll break your heart, but please be kind,
Don't let your grieving sway your mind.
For this is when you'll let me see
Just how much you do love me.

Together we've had happy years
The future now can hold no fears.
Please don't let me suffer so
When that days comes, please let me go.

For my usual vet please will you send?
But stay with me until the end.
Hold me steady, speak to me
Till my once bright eyes no longer see.

In time I hope you'll come to see
It's the last kindness you'll do for me
One more time please stroke my mane
And know that I'll have no more pain.

And don't be sad that it was you
Who decided this was what to do.
We've been such buddies through the years
Don't let me be the cause of tears.

You'll always see me graze now,
with the sun upon my back
Painful limbs won't tire me now,
however long the hack.

I live now in your heart and mind,
a lovely place to stay.
And what you have in memories,
no one can take away.
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:-'''(
 
ew1801 said:
hi, as you all know i lost my lovely mare sadie a few weeks ago due to breathing problems. it really broke my heart as i loved her dearly an owned her for four great years. but my other horse who i have owned for 11 years and was my first horse is very poorly with her cushings

shes had laminitis now since new years eve. shes been on complete box rest she is having four danilon a day and has had frog supports on. she seemed to be getting better and was down to just one danilon a day but has now gone back to square one. shes laying down all the time and her glands are slighly swollen.

I have phoned my vet who says i really need to consider putting her to sleep but i just dont feel mentally ready for losing her as she is my best friend and if it wasnt for the cushings she would be fit as i fiddle. She was a complete nut job when i got her all those yearrs ago she hated people and was completley unrideable. she had been passed around so much an it took alot of blood sweat and tears to get her sane. the end result was the kindest mare i could ever wish for. she always has a whinney for me everyday. i never have to go in the 12 acre field to catch her i just shout and she always gives me a good affectionte nuzzle everyday.

I suppose im clutching at straws really but has anybodys horse ever recovered from cushings related laminitis that has gone on this long

im so scared of putting her to sleep and not giving her the chance to get better

What do i do

i suppose im looking for some good advice as im just not thinking straight at the moment. losing sadie is still so fresh in my mind and i really dont know how im going to cope if i have to lose jess aswell
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hi, my pony has cushings laminitis has been on box rest since last september. she has good days and bad and although it has been a very hard time for us she still seems happy in herself and i will keep trying to help her get better , it can take a very long time to make them better, my pony has corrective trimming and in time with new hoof growth they can have a very good outcome, so if it was me i would stick with it , it has only been a short while, it can take a long time yet, it takes a year for a new hoof to grow. pm if you need more info.
 
ok first hugs

and second i try to live by the saying

"it is better a week too early than a day to late"

i hope the vet has a more positive out come and please take his/her advice as they have known the horse and the suitation and we on the forum can only read about it
 
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I do feel for you. My pony has had cushings for the last 8 years, it is controlled by pergolide. He has lami at the moment but is recovering.

I would have xrays done to see if there is any rotation, my pony didn't have any rotation but he was still really lame. Ask the vet about having imprint shoes put on and see what he says. Is the cushings being controlled by pergolide. If you haven't had any bloods done recently then get some asap. As others have said it could be the cushings making the lami worse.

My pony was getting better then he went really lame he couldn't put his foot down. It turned out it had an abcess and soon as that was treated he was a lot better.

Don't give up until every avenue has been explored. Yes it is a long proccess, if your horse still has a spark in his eye and is happy to see you there is still hope.

Good luck in what every you decide to do. You know your horse better than any of us.
 
that poem made me cry but it is true.

right the vet has just been an sods law she was up on her feet eating her net and actually looking quite cheerful but i have upped her prascend over last few days so maybe they are taking affect.
he says she has still got lami but isnt any worse than she was back in december. he says to try heart bar shoes to see if she improves as she hasnt had them on yet as she hasnt been able to keep her feet up for long enough.
so arranging for the farrier and vet to be there together and he is going to nerve block her to try and get the shoes on and to keep her on the higher dose of prascend and obviousy the danilon.
we are going to give her a couple more weeks to see if she improves with this treatment.
this was all the vets idea not mine by the way. i did ask if there was a point and he said yes because she is quite cheerful and shes eating, she looks very well and if it wasnt for the cushings she woudnt have any problems at all

anyway the deadline is two weeks so we shall see
 
The increase in prascend might make a difference. My pony had been on 1mg pergolide a day for ages, but after a couple of lami attacks and an abscess the vet ran bloods and her ACTH level was high. She upped her dose to 2 x 1mg a day, and the last lot of bloods showed the level down to 19, well within the acceptable range.
 
Hi there,

I really feel for you and understand completely what you are going through. I had owned my beautiful, kind horse Freddy for 12 years. I had shared him with my mum who we sadly lost to cancer 9 years ago. He had taken her out for hacks and looked after her after chemo sessions. He was such an incredibly special horse.

He had metabolic syndrome which bought on laminitis. He originally had about 5 months box rest and was in a very bad way. He didn't seem to get any better for a long time. This was partly due to other liveries feeding him bags of carotts as they felt sorry for him. I think they thought that carrotts are vegetables and so healthy. Obviously there is a high sugar content that his body couldn't cope with. We move yards, he had the most amazing farrier and vet and we got him better. I say better, he was fairly sound and ok on and off but I had to monitor him so closely which was difficult for him and me.

We had three extra years until I finally decided that it was for the best have him pts. It's very painful to think about it.

I was really worried that I had given up on him too soon but about a month later I looked at some photos of him. I could finally see how ill he looked. Although, I did everything I could for him, ultimately I kept him alive for me.

I still have dreams that he's still alive and miss him incredibly everyday but I am relieved to know that he is safe now, at peace and in no pain. It was the right thing for him.

One thing that really helped me was an article in the hh that talked about how horses have no sense of future. They don't think 'I want to stay alive to see my children grow up' etc. like we would. They only feel how they feel at the time. They can't think 'I will be in less pain in a few months time so I'll just have to battle through this'.

If your vet has suggested to have your horse pts then there's a reason for this. Knowing from experience, it's too hard to see what's for the best when you're so close to them.

If you do decide that's for the best, make sure you have friends around you for a while as you'll need some comforting.

I know I did the right thing, the only regret is that I should have decided that sooner, for his sake.

Things do get better in the future too I promise. I've just started to look for a new horse.

Best wishes, I'm sure I can speak for everyone on here when I say we're thinking of you xx xx
 
im so sorry to hear about your horse. i know the end is coming for her but it is just so hard to think about

she is my baby an the thought of losing her makes me feel sick
 
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