warmbloodcrazy
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Thank you in advance for reading my post and for any comments you make i really appreciate it,
A matter of weeks ago i lost my retired 23 year old best friend suddenly, 17 years of the best memories that i have have been a comfort but i have felt a bit lost. I miss him terribly but am coming to terms with the fact he had the best life and i was lucky to share so many years with him.
We still have my mums horse and he has helped me keep going and to occupy me from the big hole my horse has left. My mums horse we have had since a yearling and he is now 16 years old and since my horse retired a few years ago from ridden work i have been sharing him with my mum and doing a bit of everything with him, more recently some affiliated dressage. I so missed riding out with my mum etc but we got used to the way things were and i would take my boy out in hand sometimes and enjoyed spending time with him aside from riding even more than ever. Riding my mums horse filled the gap and probably delayed me having a need to try and get another horse to ride for myself as funds wouldn't also stretch for another.
My reason for the post is that although i don't yet feel quite ready to find a new horse, i do want one at some point but it feels daunting.. the horse i lost i had such a strong bond with he was so gentle and sweet and i know a sweet nature is top of my list for my next horse.
I can't imagine not having a horse of my own but am at the time in my life where i feel i should start a family soon etc. I always planned to do both it wasn't an issue as i had my horse and do have support as my mum has a horse too, we help each other a lot. I always had visions of my children sitting on my old boy and being around him too. I had always planned i'd get a youngster and slowly produce it myself when the time came for my next horse (in a few years i'd hoped, so it hasn't gone to plan, such is life) as we did with my mums horse as i don't have the funds to buy a ready made horse and they very much become a member of the family. Is this wise if i want to start a family in the next year or two? Am i thinking into things too much? Where theres a will theres a way?
Looking around a little, i don't know if its because my heart isn't quite in it yet but i can't seem to find anything that would tick the boxes, its been a while since i've looked for a horse! There doesn't seem to be many websites anymore..facebook recently put a ban on ads..
Has anyone been in the same position? Although i am still enjoying my mums horse it makes me feel sad, the prospect of not having one of my own. I hope one day in the not so distant future i'll be over the sad phase and look forward to finding another four legged best friend. I guess i am just wanting some feed back on life after losing your horse of a lifetime.. how did things work out for you? what path did you take? A new horse or a break..?
TIA
Thank you in advance for reading my post and for any comments you make i really appreciate it,
A matter of weeks ago i lost my retired 23 year old best friend suddenly, 17 years of the best memories that i have have been a comfort but i have felt a bit lost. I miss him terribly but am coming to terms with the fact he had the best life and i was lucky to share so many years with him.
We still have my mums horse and he has helped me keep going and to occupy me from the big hole my horse has left. My mums horse we have had since a yearling and he is now 16 years old and since my horse retired a few years ago from ridden work i have been sharing him with my mum and doing a bit of everything with him, more recently some affiliated dressage. I so missed riding out with my mum etc but we got used to the way things were and i would take my boy out in hand sometimes and enjoyed spending time with him aside from riding even more than ever. Riding my mums horse filled the gap and probably delayed me having a need to try and get another horse to ride for myself as funds wouldn't also stretch for another.
My reason for the post is that although i don't yet feel quite ready to find a new horse, i do want one at some point but it feels daunting.. the horse i lost i had such a strong bond with he was so gentle and sweet and i know a sweet nature is top of my list for my next horse.
I can't imagine not having a horse of my own but am at the time in my life where i feel i should start a family soon etc. I always planned to do both it wasn't an issue as i had my horse and do have support as my mum has a horse too, we help each other a lot. I always had visions of my children sitting on my old boy and being around him too. I had always planned i'd get a youngster and slowly produce it myself when the time came for my next horse (in a few years i'd hoped, so it hasn't gone to plan, such is life) as we did with my mums horse as i don't have the funds to buy a ready made horse and they very much become a member of the family. Is this wise if i want to start a family in the next year or two? Am i thinking into things too much? Where theres a will theres a way?
Looking around a little, i don't know if its because my heart isn't quite in it yet but i can't seem to find anything that would tick the boxes, its been a while since i've looked for a horse! There doesn't seem to be many websites anymore..facebook recently put a ban on ads..
Has anyone been in the same position? Although i am still enjoying my mums horse it makes me feel sad, the prospect of not having one of my own. I hope one day in the not so distant future i'll be over the sad phase and look forward to finding another four legged best friend. I guess i am just wanting some feed back on life after losing your horse of a lifetime.. how did things work out for you? what path did you take? A new horse or a break..?
TIA