relationships and your horse

Go for it!

When I met my totally un horsey oh 3 yrs ago I already had my 2 boys so he's never known life with me without horses, but he moans about them constantly. How rich I'd be how much time I'd have, how much affection I'd be giving him instead!!!
LOL!

However as time go's on he seems to be getting slightly better, we're due to move in together very soon and yes, he has to leave his family and friends and move 20 miles over to me as I refuse to move my horses or live far away from where they are now!

He's stopped asking who I love more bless but I think he still see's them as rivals!

However for 7 years I was with a horsey oh, we had 3 between us and both would ride them all, go to shows etc but that didnt work either!
After having both I prefer an un horsey partner as then horsey time is all mine!!!
 
Firstly, congtratulations on getting your own horse!

Although I now have a wonderfully supportive OH to the point that we bought a horse for him about 8 months ago now, this wasn't always the case and I'm afraid I did chose my horses over my previous partner.

What I would say is that the ex used to cycle competitively and it was fine for him to be off here there and everywhere every weekend then moan as I was always with my horse, but even when I compromised and said OK next weekend we'll have a horse/cycle free day,he would still bugger off so I'd go up and ride etc and it went downhill rapidly from there really LOL!

As already said, compromise is they key and if you can make sure you keep time for you both together (horse and golf free!) and involve your OH in some way, you should be fine :)

Here's wishing you many happy horsey times and look forward to seeing some pics!!


PS...couple of good books...living with a horse addict; a horse is better than a man because - both available from Amazon LOL! :p
 
better half said:
When you come back happy he'll love it.
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I agree with this comment. I think that he is probably just being protective and might be worried, but when he sees how happy you are, he will be happy himself. Try reassuring him that you will still make spending time with him a priority. As for the housework, well that comment would I have to admit make me cross! Can't he do some??? Men! still it's very generous of him to buy you a horse and I bet he will come to love the horse in time too, so I think you should go for it. Love to know how you get on. Good luck.
 
he sounds daunted by the prospect of you being a bit independent from him but I'm sure he'll realise the positives.

one thing to consider is to try and make friends with a Fellow DIYer an help eachother out. I tend to turnout for someone most mornings and she repays me by bringing mine in a couple of evenings so that I can get to my boyfriends house a bit earlier than I otherwise would..

I would consider time saving moves like getting changed at the office and driving straight to the yard from work... mucking out around your horse in the morning while he is eating his breakie, making up a week's worth of feed in one hit, not changing rugs twice a day - mine lives in is turnout rug, which comes off once a day for a groom - usually in the evening while he is eating his tea, feeding hay off the floor rather than faffing about trying to stuff haynets.. the list is endless...

as for the housework... ou won't be at home as much so the house won't get as messy. If it does, it's his fault ;p
 
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