Responsibility, legalities....parental duty??

Oh dear......if I was a cynic......I'd say she had the child to "help" with any potential divorce settlements......
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I know - all the questions which zipped through my mind. Before I put them in touch with the lady who is doing her horses now (and is staying there whilst she is away), guess who was mucking out all the horses and turning them out and feeding them before she went to school in the mornings?

They do live near a small store....but I would assume Mother buys pre-prepared stuff for the child. I tell you, I was seriously shocked....and it takes a heck of a lot to shock me.
 
I don't know. It isn't like that here. It seems that kids are used to, and allowed to, being left alone because we live in such a safe area.....of course some forget about accidents!
 
OMFG, i feel guilty if i go to bingo once in a blue moon, and i only go.... if my 14 year old daughter says..."mum, go on, you never go out!!"
Poor little mite, some people shouldn't have kids. That is so wrong
 
Tia, you mention that "it depends on how the law is interpreted". That's absolutely correct however it is not for you to interpert it, it is for The Police & Courts to interpret it.

I would definately put a call in to the authorities about this. You will then have done all you can & it will be down to then to take the matter further. If anything happened to this child because the authorities didn't know what was happening then you would not be able to live with yourself. Put the call in, these types of calls are invariably kept confidential in any case to encourage concerned people to notify authorities.

Over to you.
 
OMG put the call in, my 14 year old is such a ditsy day dreamer I certainly wouldnt leave her to look after a budgie over night, let alone 10 nags!

This is a dreadful situation...
 
I have read and re-read your post and it doesnt actually say the child is living in the house on her own. Are you absolutely sure she is not staying with a relative but is expected to go home and do the horses before school?
 
just read your thread,oh my word,cant believe that is allowed to happen,she would get locked up in the uk, poor you what an awfull posiyion to be in.
is there no one that you can report this too,i have a 13yr old daughter and i would not leave her for 1 night alone she would be terrified,good luck!
 
Apart from the shocking treatment of the child (I bet you wanted to take her with you!), I would like to say what a great hay supplier you are. We buy very good hay from a local farmer - very local indeed, about 400 yards away - and they refuse to stack it, just empty it out in a heap on the barn floor! We are currently on round bales so not such a problem. They also used to charge 10% for delivery until I started walking up the track and collecting it in a barrow.

I don't know what to suggest about the child as the laws seem to have been written around 1800. Ludicrous. Totally unacceptable and shocking situation, and very sad.
 
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Sorry Sooty but that has just made me giggle
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Watch out, woman on a mission PMSL
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Blimey - my daughter is 17, and whilst I would trust her to look after the horses very well, I wouldn't trust her to look after herself. She'd live on biscuits, and I'd worry myself sick leaving her overnight on her own for that length of time - I've left her one night, but that was with her having dinner with a friend, and me getting everything indoors organised for her!

Poor child - but just goes to show how different cultures deal with different situations.
 
My guess is the child probably prefers it when mother is not around - it doesn't seem like she does much when she is - and at least this way the child gets peace and quiet. I do find things a bit different, being in the city and all, but even here I am surprised by the difference to the UK (and I used to live in a very quiet safe neighbourhood). Children here go off to the park on their own much younger than in the UK (I'd hazard a guess at 6/7?) I used to go to very closely controlled places (i.e. they knew exactly where I was) around 7 or 8, but that was a fair while ago, before nasty behaviour became so prominant. Now I can't think of any of my friends in the UK that would let their 7 year olds go to the park on their own. The other thing that astonishes me is the age of the babysitters - people seem quite happy to leave their kids with 13/14 year old strangers.
 
I think you could be right Emma......from the feedback I am having from my groom who is living there at present, the kid is well used!

All of her family live in the States and they only moved here a year ago so I doubt they have many friends.

I met the daughter on my first trip there - very very introverted and seriously thin child....I would wager she has an eating disorder.

LOL @ Sooty! You say the nicest things
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. Actually, I have a fair amount of quite elderly hay customers so that's why I just got into the habit of stacking for people. Lots of people over here don't know how to build a secure stack and because it is my hay I do feel a bit of a responsibility that it doesn't flatten anyone
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For the forseeable future, my lady is working there mornings so she will be able to keep a bit of an eye on things, although the barn isn't really near the house. Better than nothing though.
 
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