rider was in the wrong in this situation I am correct, right ?

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Partner has rung me whilst I'm on my break to have a good old moan and I agree with him 100% as a rider myself. So here was what happened, OH was returning the tractor and trailer to the yard, a good 3 miles away from our farm is a livery yard and we don't tend to have any issues with them as we are always very polite when out on the roads. Turn engines off if needed, slow right down and move over onto the verge as a combine coming head on isn't always nice. Partner said he was nearly back at the yard when two riders coming the other way started waving and shouting something at him he couldn't hear a word so slowed right down and at this point their horses started trying to spin so he cut the engine off. First rider said thanks by raising a hand and managed to get her horse to walk on although it was jogging sideways they got past. The second rider was panicking because her horse wouldn't walk past the tractor and follow her friends horse started rearing with her so in the end she got off and walked the horse past. Fair enough not a big drama , OH set off home waiting till they were gone before he started the engine and got back to the yard. The rider has just come round to the house and had the cheek to tell OH he should have gone into one of the field and hid the tractor out of sight for her ?! To me this is pure stupidity, surely the world shouldn't stop for a rider because there horse is scared. I know it probably was a scary situation for the rider but OH did everything correct and sat patiently whilst it all happened, I am rather angry that she came round to our house and shouted at OH and explained she will be reporting him to the police. I wish her good luck with that , I am correct in thinking OH did everything right and there is no blame on his behalf. I'm not really sure what she is planning to report to the police as nothing happened, she said it was 'dangerous driving' loony bin.
 
The rider was completely in the wrong to come and have a go. Your OH did far more than most tractor drivers do, the rider should be thanking him instead of behaving as they have. It's twits that behave like that which get the rest of us a bad name.

Can only hope that they come on here, read the thread and realise what a numpty they have been and that they need to get their big brave girl pants on if they're going to hack out - if they haven't got a pair they should stay in an arena, obviously the big wide world is too much for them to cope with.
 
OH did nothing wrong in my opinion, if anything it sounds like he was very courteous. Rider should not be on the road if that's how they are going to react, no wonder the horse didn't want to go past if she was nervous herself.
 
eahotson said:
Your OH did absolutely nothing wrong.She should not be riding out on the roads.
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I thought so too, he was worried about getting a visit from the police but I really doubt anything can even come from it.
wildwhippet said:
Well this rider would only have disturbed him at home to say thank you!!!!
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It's a shame I know he is very horse aware as i regularly ride out and he has been out hacking before so knows what it's like.

Moomin1 said:
I don't think your OH did anything wrong by the sounds of things.
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Thanks for the reply, I didn't think he did either
 
Rider definitely in the wrong. You have to help horses get used to things in the real world. If you can't you need to stay off the roads or sell the horse to someone who can IMHO
 
3OldPonies said:
The rider was completely in the wrong to come and have a go. Your OH did far more than most tractor drivers do, the rider should be thanking him instead of behaving as they have. It's twits that behave like that which get the rest of us a bad name.

Can only hope that they come on here, read the thread and realise what a numpty they have been and that they need to get their big brave girl pants on if they're going to hack out - if they haven't got a pair they should stay in an arena, obviously the big wide world is too much for them to cope with.
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OH goes for the occasional hack and is very rider aware on the roads, I know he would never drive dangerously or put the safety of either horse or rider at risk.

Frosty89 said:
OH did nothing wrong in my opinion, if anything it sounds like he was very courteous. Rider should not be on the road if that's how they are going to react, no wonder the horse didn't want to go past if she was nervous herself.
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I thought that Frosty, shouting at my OH isn't helping the situation i know it's sometimes hard to keep calm but sounds like she shouldn't have been riding on the roads.
 
Frightened people do react in unexpected ways, she probably will not go to the police and if she does you OH was not in the wrong in fact he was considerate.

My OH was reported to police for not giving someone who drove up our private drive directions to get to her destination. Police community officer called round but there was nothing they could do! We said we constantly get people wrongly in our yard and he had had enough that day!
 
Your OH did nothing wrong. He was very helpful by the sounds of it. Horse riders who expect the world to stop for them and everyone to tip toe round them, really annoy me.
 
Your OH sounds very considerate to me. Obviously it didn't occur to the rider that he would have had to have started the tractor again to hide it!
 
OH has had similar situations. I think some riders feel that because they are on quieter roads it is acceptable to make demands on other road users - the likelihood is that if he was on a busier road he wouldn't have been able to stop and cut the engine. I think I would have told her she is a hazard on the road and until she desensitises her horse she shouldn't be riding around country roads.
 
Adopter said:
Frightened people do react in unexpected ways, she probably will not go to the police and if she does you OH was not in the wrong in fact he was considerate.

My OH was reported to police for not giving someone who drove up our private drive directions to get to her destination. Police community officer called round but there was nothing they could do! We said we constantly get people wrongly in our yard and he had had enough that day!
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It will be a waste of time if she does, I can only hope it hasn't soured relationships with the livery yard.

Really , what a strange thing to report a person for they must not have anything better to do.
 
I don't for one second think your OH did anything wrong, in fact I think he's extremely nice to pull over and cut the engine for them!

Iv met many farmers who wouldn't stop at all (not saying they should they do have lives to lead).
 
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3OldPonies said:
The rider was completely in the wrong to come and have a go. Your OH did far more than most tractor drivers do, the rider should be thanking him instead of behaving as they have. It's twits that behave like that which get the rest of us a bad name.

Can only hope that they come on here, read the thread and realise what a numpty they have been and that they need to get their big brave girl pants on if they're going to hack out - if they haven't got a pair they should stay in an arena, obviously the big wide world is too much for them to cope with.
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Agree with this.
 
Copperpot said:
Your OH did nothing wrong. He was very helpful by the sounds of it. Horse riders who expect the world to stop for them and everyone to tip toe round them, really annoy me.
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I know, once you step foot off the yard a rider has to accept they are going to meet things that might scare their horse we should work on these things. Instead it's created unnecessary drama.

cobgoblin said:
Your OH sounds very considerate to me. Obviously it didn't occur to the rider that he would have had to have started the tractor again to hide it!
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Ah i know it's madness the trailer would have made more racket getting into a field than sitting there quietly certainly did.

RunToEarth said:
OH has had similar situations. I think some riders feel that because they are on quieter roads it is acceptable to make demands on other road users - the likelihood is that if he was on a busier road he wouldn't have been able to stop and cut the engine. I think I would have told her she is a hazard on the road and until she desensitises her horse she shouldn't be riding around country roads.
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That's a very good point he is too soft to say anything like that responded with an apology and hoped she felt better in the morning as she told him it terrified her.
 
I know which one i'd be reporting and it most certainly would not be your OH. What a muppet of a girl. I would be very tempted to call to the yard and speak to YO about the issue...if the rider is not competent enough to get her animal past a stationary imobilised vehicle she is at risk of causing an accident. Perhaps your OH could bring over tractor & trailer to do some desensitising work with her....for a nice fat fee of course!!!
 
Rider is categorically in the wrong. She is a liability on the roads and shouldn't be out on them. Period.

Your OH did everything right. Absolutely no question about it. He won't be getting a visit from the police.
 
amage said:
I know which one i'd be reporting and it most certainly would not be your OH. What a muppet of a girl. I would be very tempted to call to the yard and speak to YO about the issue...if the rider is not competent enough to get her animal past a stationary imobilised vehicle she is at risk of causing an accident. Perhaps your OH could bring over tractor & trailer to do some desensitising work with her....for a nice fat fee of course!!!
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I will pop round after work to YO's house and just explain to her as i really do not want to sour relationships between the farm and the livery. They would only have to ask and during winter when we are not as busy and i would take it round and let them use it for desensitising

Spring Feather said:
Rider is categorically in the wrong. She is a liability on the roads and shouldn't be out on them. Period.

Your OH did everything right. Absolutely no question about it. He won't be getting a visit from the police.
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Thank you Spring Feather i shall give him a ring later to put his mind at rest, silly sod is feeling guilty.
 
Ticker - your OH was very, very considerate and did everything right. I get the feeling that the rider concerned would only be happy if he'd managed to make himself and the tractor disappear into thin air - so she's not really in the realms of reality with her expectations.
 
Faracat said:
Ticker - your OH was very, very considerate and did everything right. I get the feeling that the rider concerned would only be happy if he'd managed to make himself and the tractor disappear into thin air - so she's not really in the realms of reality with her expectations.
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That made me chuckle, I also think she is one of those riders that is never to blame and everything is out to get her by the sound of it.
 
Sounds like he did way more than he needed to, tell him well done. Glad one of the riders had the courtesy to thank him, other sounds like she needs a copy of Highway Code, I am sure it gives details about the conduct of all road users...
 
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