RIP Shadow

Shadow was put to sleep yesterday morning, following the second fit in 4 days. the air that she had trapped under skin from the emergency traceocomomy never went away and just seemed to get worse, and became a huge irritant as anyone could imagine.

she was a fighter until the last and i will her for eternity after 15 blessed years in her company.

she was quite simply the most amazing 28 year old i've ever known, with the sweetest and beautiful heart known to the world. she will be sorely missed.

anyone have any tips on accepting the loss of there first and only horse, best friend and guardian angel? i'm just not getting this - she's all i've known since i was 10
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Only tip I have is dont rush yourself through grieving and take comfort in knowing he had wonderful life with you. He'll wait at Rainbow Bridge for you

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i am so so sorry for your loss *hugs*
the only tip i can think of is that focus on the good times and really happy memories and that with time it does get easier. Plant a tree perhaps?
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remember all the good times and when i lost my girl i was devestated, 3 years on i still think of her everyday and will never forget her, i have a portrait of her now but that took 2 years for me to agree to! my thoughts are with you and she will be running free now, x
 
Awww I'm so sorry. Words are never enough when you lose a friend like that, but just rest assured that she had the most wonderful life with you - and do not lose sight of the fact that 28 is one hell of an age!

Just remember the good times, and maybe plant a tree for her - that way you'll always have somewhere to remember her. We have a mahonia bush for our old dog - we call it the Kayleigh tree
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And when my horse Mickey died suddenly, aged just 10, a very good friend brought us a big bunch of crimson peonies to lay on his body. And now, whenever I see a peony, I think of him - and we have some lovely ones in our garden just about to come out.

As I said, words are never enough - you have to fight through it in your own mind, but you will come out of it, and hopefully you will find another lovely horse to follow in Shadow's hoofprints.

PM me if ever you need to chat xx
 
Oh I am so sorry - treasure all the wonderful memories you have, at first they may make you cry, but in time they will help you smile again.
I have lost two in the last couple of years, one my old boy, and the other, my beautiful young horse, who I thought would grow old with me - time does heal the pain.

My thoughts are with you.
 
I am so sorry for your loss, words are never enough in these situations but please try and focus on all the good memories you have built up over the last 15 years. It may not feel like it now but time is a great healer xx
 
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

(((((((((((((Massive hugs to you)))))))))))))))))

We recently lost our beloved Hillock after he broke his leg in the field, my best advice to you is cry everytime you need to. Don't attempt to put a brave face on, people will understand and if they don't then s0d them.

I took the following day off work as I was a total wreck. I took a toilet roll with me everywhere I went and if I was sad I cried.

My husband and family were amazing and it really helped to know that they understood how I felt. I am a teacher and I explained to all the kids and other members of staff what had happened and why I wasn't in and they were all amazing.

At first I didn't think I would ever stop crying or feeling so gutted and hollow, but gradually I did and now I can look at photos and remember the great times he gave us.

I took a day to pack away his things away because I couldn't bear anyone else to do it and in a strange way it was really cathartic, I washed everything and placed it in a trunk as I wanted some time to think about what we wanted to do with it.

I still hate looking at his empty stable but slowly I am starting to get to used it.

I wish there was something I could say to make all the hurt go away.

Thinking of you

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It is hard when you lose a horse as it is a huge part of your life. Especially when you have had her such a long time as you will be in a routine and suddenly that is broken. Maybe you could find a friend who needs some help while you come to terms with it, There is no quick fix but it does get easier. She had a good long life and you need to remember the wonderful times you had.
 
I'm so sorry, it is heartbreaking.
I have a Sammy tree which we bought shortly after I lost him. It has some of his ashes in the bottom. I also got a bracelet made from some of his hair that I kept. This year for my 21st my parents gave me an oil painting of all three of mine, and it's even more special because he's in it.
Give yourself time. I lost Sammy five years ago and I still cry loads. I made a lovely scrapbook of all my photos of him as I was scared I might lose them otherwise.
Sending huge hugs xx
 
Hun, I wish I could take the despair away from you. This is something you have to experience and you are amongst friends, even though you feel like you are the only person in the world who could eever experience such pain and heartache. I lost the love of my life 7 years ago. Due to the terrible circumstances it caused me to have a total breakdown in as much as I sobbed for 9 months! Since then, I have lost 3 beloved horses plus a lovely youngster belonging to a friend who grazed with me.

People always say that there is a positive to come out of a negative and, it was only last year that I realised that I could help people who found themselves in a similar situation
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It is a very old adage but also very true that time is the only healer. As has been said by others, it is important that you allow yourself time to grieve, your despair will ease.

I am sending you lots of love and understanding and healing vibes. When my heart breaks now, I think to myself ... they were never really mine, just on loan and have now gone back to their true owner ... Shadow will wait for you in a place where there is no time. Dont give up now hun, there is so much good that you can do with your love.

If you need to talk, PM me and I will give you my number.

Lots of love and hugs to you. Be strong now.

Helen x
 
Allow yourself plenty of time and all the tears and rage you want.

This is terribly unexpected and sad news and I hope friends and family will realise how devastated you are and give you support and understanding while it is all very new and raw.

Everyone on here wishes the pain away for you - don't leave, please, as you can always rely on us for a (hug). Lots of us have been where you are now and know how much a PM can help at the darkest times.

Shadow - you had a wonderful life with your mum, who loved you very much and is heartbroken you had to go. Gallop free beautiful girl, and wait at the Bridge til she comes to find you.

R.I.P. Shadow x
 
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I don't think you ever get over the loss - you just learn to accept it.

It still breaks my heart to think of AmyMay - even after nearly a year of her gone.

Thinking of you at this desperately sad time xxxx
 
Sending you loads of (((hugs))). Its a cliche but time really is a great healer, and you will be able to look back on all the good memories with a smile. RIP Shadow x
 
thank you for all yours messages and PM's means a hell of a lot, and i've already cried twice - only been in work an hour and a bit!

i feel utterly lost, what do i do with my evenings and weekends - its just too much of your life to lose. i cant face going back to the yard. i packed up everything the same day, clean all tack and washed what i could. the majority of her rugs are at the yard for cleaning - the other half will pick them up when they're ready. everything but pictures are stored away.

i know that i could go and ride any horse i want there, and i was meant to be helping to bring on a lovely arabian youngster for the novice owner, but i cant face it. and i am devastated that i rode him last weekend and she wasnt the last horse i rode. but at least our last ride was nice and she felt more on the ball again
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i just feel like i'm not grieving, like its just some nasty joke, i'm just numb to it. i cant get myself to release. dont get me wrong, i was in state when in happened and for a few hours after, but i had to be so strong when speaking to people in the afternoon to make 'arrangements'. i dont think that helped. cleaning tack was theraputic.

i've had 2 days off, i thought i'd need longer but i cant let go yet. maybe i can at the weekend.... wine hasnt help loosen it up! damn it i've tried!

thanks again everyone, HHO is a great therapy
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sleep tight twinkle toes
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So sorry for you - I lost my horse 4 years ago after 19 years together - he was 34.

I know everyone is different, but my advice would be to go back to the yard at your earliest opportunity, as the longer you leave it, the more difficult it will be to return to the place you have so many happy memories as well as your last memories of your horse. You have something to back for, and believe me, it WILL help you if you carry on helping with the youngster.

You must cry - I'm even crying now as I write this because I'm thinking of my old boy, so it doesn't ever go away, but it does get better, and you will love another horse without feeling guilty about it one day.
 
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