rude yard owner... time to move on?

In theory move but I would just be careful where you move to.

I was on one yard where the ym was friendly and charming and everybody loved her. Only problem was the horse care was lacking. My horse never got enough hay and when he was dropping weight it was because he was a tb, I was on livery and there was no skipping out or picking out feet, just a mucking out once a day so he got thrush. She was far to rough and shouty with my boy who then got very grumpy and stressed.

In an ideal world the ym would good with both horses and people person but if I have to choose I will put up with a bit of grumpiness from a ym if my horse is happy.

However if you've got to the stage that you don't even want to go to see your horse it is probably time to move.
 
Thankyou everyone! you had made everything clear in my head that i was doing the right thing moving! however new information from tonight.......... YO comes and talks to me asking why i have a problem, and i just said i don't have a problem, she kept pushing and i just said politely i am giving notice for Saturday, she then started asking why, was it something she had done etc, so i just said ive been hearing what people have said you have called me and said about me, so i would rather remove myself from the situation, she then resorted to calling my friend a bull***** liar, and a lot of other unpleasant things, saying she has only said what ever she would or has said to me, she doesn't want me to leave on a bad note. She said she would hate for me to leave over this little issue, which as far as she is concerned will be fine and forgotten about by tomorrow, this is the nicest group of liveries there has ever been on the yard, and all this. what do you guys make of this? :L
 
Those that are guilty usually back track, and whilst you may accept it, doesnt mean it wont happen again and you may not have a yard to go to then. I dont know, i have found all the times i forgave it wasnt long before the nonsense started again and i actually lost out in a nice yard because i had to call them and say i wasnt going to move which peeved them off.
 
I agree move, you shouldn't feel sick about going to see your horse! I have been there and there is nothing worse. It made me feel like selling my horse which is a complete nonsense. Good luck x
 
Nothing has changed. It's just that she's calling someone else *$%#@!!* names instead of you ... at this time. You'll be hauled over the coals at some point again, do you want your hobby to be in a place like that? If not, stick to your guns and move on Saturday.
 
Move. I was horrified to be made to leave my yard, my 'home', but the atmosphere sounds like your place, constant nastiness, people bitching, not talking to others and drama. My current yard is fab, everyone gets on, there is never any nastiness, it's lovely. I say move regardless of what she says to you.
 
Spring Feather said:
Nothing has changed. It's just that she's calling someone else *$%#@!!* names instead of you ... at this time. You'll be hauled over the coals at some point again, do you want your hobby to be in a place like that? If not, stick to your guns and move on Saturday.
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I couldn't agree more. Leopards don't change their spots and it WILL happen again. And again. And again. You will make new friends on the new yard, don't worry. Unfortunately it is the nature of the beast that people will talk about you behind your back, and probably not very nicely some of the time. I know things were said about me on both the yards I was on, but I always rode out on my own (horse was loopy in company) and I did my own thing 99% of the time. I also had the useful of excuse of not joining in with many social events because I lived way further out than anyone else and had to get up early in the mornings so couldn't stay out late. The nastiest comments (all lies too) came from the person whose horse I did in the mornings and I bitterly regret ever meeting the evil cow. Unfortunately I couldn't do anything much about it as she sucked up to the YO who thought the sun shone out of her. I moved to another stable on the yard and had nothing further to do with her. On several occasions I did consider leaving but my horse was very elderly and to be honest there was nowhere locally that would have been remotely suitable for her so I stuck it out until she was PTS. You have the chance to move - take it!
 
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