run in with another livery... how to handle it?

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Grrrrr!
My horse is on box rest st the moment, and has been since the start of September. Currently, he comes out of the stable twice a day to be tied up outside the barn whilst I muck out etc.
This morning I was running a bit late. Tied him up as usual, and he was fine untill horses started being turned out. A pony was tied up round the corner from him, next thing I hear lots of activity... so run out of the barn to see the pony running off up the yard and my horse looking a bit excited, prancing about etc.
Anyway, this lady is claiming that my horse has overexcited the pony so its my fault the pony got loose. She said she couldnt even bring her horse out of the stable because she knew he'd run off with my horse being overexcited. She has demanded that I do not tie my horse up in that place again - difficult given that there are only 2 tie up places for our barn of 8 horses, and with my horse being in at the moment I have to tie him up so I can muck out etc.
I very bluntly stated that the incident was not my fault and that I will continue to tie my horse up where and when I need to. Although it may be the case that my horse over-excited the pony, it could have been the other way round as well - he was fine for the 20 minutes prior to the incident. Regardless of this, horses will be horses - they are not robots, and surely people shouldnt get hysterical from a relatively minor incident as this (the pony was caught a minute or two later, no harm done, didnt go off the yard onto the road etc)
Just wondered what other people would do - its not always possible to choose where to tie up on our yard as their are only limited spaces, and I dont feel I should have to inconvenience myself by mucking out with the horse in the stable - Im rushed enough as it is and never do as good a job mucking out with the horse in the way trying to escape!? And I dont feel other liveries should be telling me what I can and cant do, though obviously I dont want to cause any hassle.
Im hoping the whole incident will blow over, but this person is quite hysterical, and the pony was not hers, so I expect it will come back on me later on
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The other day, I was leading one of my horses, my FIL was leading another (who is newish to us). The other horse did a runner - my mare & I just stood in surprise & watched the other horse run into the distance with my FIL in tow. My mare is well trained enough not to get upset by this, but if she had, it wouldn't have been the fault of the other horse. I know this is slightly different in that both horses are mine, but similar in situation. Imo, other woman should be able to control her horse.
 
Horses will be horses, that's life and all that.......

You can all minimise risks though by just being considerate of each other.

I very rarely tie a horse up outside it's stable - don't see the need (although in your case I do obviously).

Tell her to bugger off, set your alarm for earlier to avoid the same situation, and put it down to life on a livery yard, and all it's ups and downs.....
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horses are horses and you have every right to tie up outside your stable
tell her to alter her time to arrive either before or after you.......she should learn to control her horse or teach it some manners..............
 
I think she should be a bit more considerate to you as your horse is on box rest and doesn't get out of it at all except for when you are mucking out. A little bit more care and attention needed on her part perhaps?
 
Did she even tie the bugger up properly???Wouldnt worry to much,some people do overreact when it comes to horses!!If she has got anymore to say i would let it go in one and out the other and continue as you have been doing!!No other livery would dictate to me when were how i should do my horse!!If she has a problem tell her to speak to yo,who i am sure will tell her she is being very unreasonable!!!U ALWAYS get 1 i'm afraid!!!
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quite honestly if she can't see that horses will be horses then she's stupid. mine pratt about when there's only the two of them on the yard! one will pretend that the labrador they see twice a day is a wolf and off we go!

if she can't control her horse that's her problem, not anyone elses. i'd just ignore her. Especially as no harm was done!
 
Maybe you should show her how to tie a horse up securely!?!

Tell her where to go - if that is the only outside time that your horse gets in the day then he has every right to enjoy it.

What gives her priority to tie up over you? Why can't she put hers out in the field?
 
I agree with Amy - tell her to bugger off. You can't control horses every second of the day and these things happen. Just wait for things to blow over and I'm sure it will be fine.
 
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I think she should be a bit more considerate to you as your horse is on box rest and doesn't get out of it at all except for when you are mucking out. A little bit more care and attention needed on her part perhaps?

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I agree. She was probably stressed about something else but unfortunately decided to take it out on you. She sounds pretty self centred to me.
 
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horses will be horses - they are not robots, and surely people shouldnt get hysterical from a relatively minor incident as this (the pony was caught a minute or two later, no harm done, didnt go off the yard onto the road etc)

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I'm 100% with you. I have had it up to stupid idiotic people who get hysterical when their horses behave like horses due to their own lack of horsemanship. See my post last night on Would Your Horses Be Upset By This. Someone had a go at me for upsetting her horses in a field quarter of a mile away by cantring on a bit of public lane.

If her pony doesnt tie up without breaking free, then she should'nt do it. Or she should retrain him how to tie up. Not yours. Yours might have been "overexcited" but he was not the one to break free, so he behaved a lot better than hers. You could try reasoning with her but I'm rapidly learning that the only thing that gets through to these people is having a bit of a go back at them and telling them how stupid they are, and why, and where exactly their faults lie.

She's not originally from Aberdeen is she?
 
I think that her horse is probably a bit more missed behaved then she would like to believe. Being on a yard of nearly 30 horses you can imagine that on the odd occasion some of them play up. I have never witnessed a horse being to excited and stiring up the others. Seems to me that pony wanted to run from her. (i can quite imagine why) hehe

I would not mention it again to save an arguement and carry on as you do. If it happenes aging then tell her to keep her horse in the stable because clearly it cant be trusted to stand on its own.
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Thanks for all replies everyone, I hate conflict at the yard and was wondering if I should put myself out just to keep the peace, but I dont think its fair to deny my poor horse his twice daily trips to the tie up ring!
There are 60 horses, ponies and donkeys on the yard, and I imagine something gets loose most days! It was just a bit odd how she over-reacted, especially as I left my horse on his own to run to the other side of the yard to help catch the pony!
 
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