Tinypony
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One person really p'd me off so they are on ignore. Any others I just ignore, and then act as if nothing happened on subsequent threads. It's only a forum after all.
Run ins on HHO apart from UI what do you do?
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rockysmum
Well-Known Member
Why would you ????????????
The fun on here is a good argument, which you would miss if you used UI.
The fun on here is a good argument, which you would miss if you used UI.
Pearlsasinger
Up in the clouds
There are a few people whose opinions I doubt I will ever value but I either just slim over them in threads or don't bother to open threads they have started. There are also a very few whose posting style annoys me so much that I con't read anyhting they have written. There is one person who I ignore completely. But I haven't got any-one on UI, as I do like to know what's going on.
As for simple differences of opinions, well it's just a forum.
As for simple differences of opinions, well it's just a forum.
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Fairynuff
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the run ins these days are nothing compared with what went on before the button pushing mob took over. The run ins could go on for weeks and no one seemed to get overly upset. I have no difficulties with run ins these days as I hardly ever post and when I do, no one answers! 
Honey08
Waffled a lot!
I'm the same, don't have anyone on user ignore, but have one or two in my head as people I wouldn't ever take seriously!
I like to think that on the few occassions people have told me that what I've said has upset them I have apologised to them, on the thread and sometimes by pm too. If I haven't apologised its a genuine mistake. Even though I don't know people I don't like to think I've upset them. I will say something to someone else if they're being mean too, but it doesn't mean I will bear a grudge.
When you've been on here a while (or too much in my case!) you learn whose opinions count for you. Others are amusing posters, and some aren't!!
I like to think that on the few occassions people have told me that what I've said has upset them I have apologised to them, on the thread and sometimes by pm too. If I haven't apologised its a genuine mistake. Even though I don't know people I don't like to think I've upset them. I will say something to someone else if they're being mean too, but it doesn't mean I will bear a grudge.
When you've been on here a while (or too much in my case!) you learn whose opinions count for you. Others are amusing posters, and some aren't!!
tallyho!
Following a strict mediterranean diet...
Yeah I find that fairynuff, I do reply to yours though. You seem to speak sense. A few others do too.
Sometimes though, the stars seem to collude and you get two normally placid members going tooth and nail on some banal topic. Guilty!!
Sometimes though, the stars seem to collude and you get two normally placid members going tooth and nail on some banal topic. Guilty!!
Wagtail
Horse servant
I have had loads of disagreements with loads of people on here, and I wouldn't be surprised if I was on UI for a few of them. But I never bear a grudge. I find anger very hard to achieve, and impossible to sustain! It's water off a duck's back to me. I admire people who can have a good argument but then still offer help and advice to those they have argued with. It takes strength of character to do that.
Gingerwitch
Well-Known Member
We ought to do a HHO t-shirt for charity saying
"dont drink and post" or "a post is not just for today, its in cyber space for ever" or "think, dont drink and post"
I would buy a red "don't drink and post one" ! thats what i am bad for
"dont drink and post" or "a post is not just for today, its in cyber space for ever" or "think, dont drink and post"
I would buy a red "don't drink and post one" ! thats what i am bad for
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I like to try to have the last word!!!!! But apart from that I tend to forget and move on!
What goes on with an internet forum is not overly important in the grand scheme of things. But if some one is being nasty and uncalled for I will tell them so.
What goes on with an internet forum is not overly important in the grand scheme of things. But if some one is being nasty and uncalled for I will tell them so.
Goldenstar
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I do nothing the forum is about opinions.
Don't know how to do UI anyway but never would , I mean without being rude it does not matter does it .
Don't know how to do UI anyway but never would , I mean without being rude it does not matter does it .
Lolo
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I grin and move on! It's a forum.
The time I would get very defensive and argue is if someone criticised my sister unduly (as I post reports on her behalf, and she can't defend herself. If someone was nasty to/ about her I would be spitting).
I think most people I've had a run in with could verify that I tend to leave it and come back the next day and PM them with an apology and explanation... I believe I am the most-banned least-contentious poster on here though
The time I would get very defensive and argue is if someone criticised my sister unduly (as I post reports on her behalf, and she can't defend herself. If someone was nasty to/ about her I would be spitting).
I think most people I've had a run in with could verify that I tend to leave it and come back the next day and PM them with an apology and explanation... I believe I am the most-banned least-contentious poster on here though
Goldenstar
Well-Known Member
Once I thought I might make a fortune by inventing a device that would not send emails if it detected over a certain amount of wine or whatever on your breath it would wait till switched on in the morning and then let you read them again.
Perhaps we need the same for HHO.
TheoryX1
Well-Known Member
I grin and move on! It's a forum.
The time I would get very defensive and argue is if someone criticised my sister unduly (as I post reports on her behalf, and she can't defend herself. If someone was nasty to/ about her I would be spitting).
I think most people I've had a run in with could verify that I tend to leave it and come back the next day and PM them with an apology and explanation... I believe I am the most-banned least-contentious poster on here though
Lolo - you are never nasty!
Honey08
Waffled a lot!
You would be an instant millionaire, especially if it prevented texts too!
FfionWinnie
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If someone is unecessarily rude I initially think, well I'm not replying to YOU again you swine then forget their name so just go on the same 
I do tend to remember the very nice folk tho
I do tend to remember the very nice folk tho
canteron
Well-Known Member
I only remember the names of those people who have given really good advice and maybe those who amuse, but aren't going to waste good memory on those who just annoy.
Lolo
Well-Known Member
Can I get that in writing?
I think everyone on here is lovely to me at least so I've never got cross I have had a few minor run ins, but I always message and apologise the next day as I feel guilty if not!
patch1234
Well-Known Member
Are you having a laugh??? You were a right cow to me on my thread and you wonder why people dont like you.
Some of the private messages i got from others mentioned run ins with you.
Try being constructive and people will listen to you, the minute you start being nasty you have lost all credibility I shall never listen to you again thats for sure unless you're mature enough to appologise, I wont hold my breath.
Some of the private messages i got from others mentioned run ins with you.
Try being constructive and people will listen to you, the minute you start being nasty you have lost all credibility I shall never listen to you again thats for sure unless you're mature enough to appologise, I wont hold my breath.
elliefiz
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Well it's a forum- everyone has a right to post an opinion. I don't fall out with my friends in real life because their opinion differs from mine so I would say its the same here. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and unless its supporting something that is morally wrong I tend to leave them to it. I do tend to dislike cruel or rude posting though and at times do stick up for people if i feel its necessary. Unfortunately there are posters who can't get their point across without resorting to insults- I've been called stupid for having a differing opinion and another called me frustrating because I wouldn't agree with them. I don't understand that- I don't feel bad manners have any place on any forum. I have never received any nasty PM's or sent any- that is something that just baffles me! What does irritate me is the sucking up that occasionally goes on especially in CR- if you question anything you are jumped all over yet the same people are renowned for being uber critical of others.
Cinnamontoast
Fais pas chier!
There are a couple of people on here who I think deliberately post in a pretty vicious manner, always putting the worst slant on things and always offering the worst option or making out the OP is an idiot.
I do sometimes get annoyed by people, particularly if they slag off the police and say how useless they are (OH is an officer, not me) when I think it's unfair.
Otherwise, it's a forum, you're never going to win over everyone and people can misread, often deliberately, I feel, because writing conveys no expression or because some of the things said are ambiguous.
I do sometimes get annoyed by people, particularly if they slag off the police and say how useless they are (OH is an officer, not me) when I think it's unfair.
Otherwise, it's a forum, you're never going to win over everyone and people can misread, often deliberately, I feel, because writing conveys no expression or because some of the things said are ambiguous.
rockysmum
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Oh for gods sake, post on here and you expect a variety of opinions. If you cant handle them, dont post
Flame_
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Jesstickle
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I don't think you're going to like HHO much if you think your post was a particularly mean one
I've never fallen out with anyone on here really. I have at times strongly disagreed with people and had a good debate but to be honest I only bother to argue with those people because I know they'll fight the good fight, it'll be interesting, and it won't end up getting abusive. If I can see the way it's going and don't fancy it I usually say something conciliatory and leave it. There are some posters I recognise as being rather 'touchy' and I tend to leave their posts well alone.
The CR/NL thing interests me. I post in both but get totally different things from them. I love the banter of NL, the random threads about things I've never even thought about before. CR is where I go for riding queries as a rule, just because there are so many instructors hanging out in there
I find CR not cliquey but to have a bit of a funny atmosphere at times. But then I remember everyone in there knows each other. Well not everyone but a seriously good proportion. Of course they do, they compete the same circuit, they must bump into each other all the time. Sometimes I feel like an outsider in there (although everyone is lovely and helpful) whereas in NL I feel more at home.I love HHO FWIW. But then I don't shy away from a good debate so most of it just washes over me
Abacus
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Having read through all of the replies on here I am amazed...
By how tolerant everyone is, or thinks they are - which is hard to reconcile with some of the very real and sometimes extremely opinionated (or worse) posts I have seen. No comment on any of the individuals who have posted on this thread but I find it hard to believe that no one has ever been offended, or taken note of the names of several quite catty individuals who post regularly.
I differ from the majority here in thinking that it's not only a forum - it's real life too and you should respond as if talking to a real person with feelings. This may change if you get to know someone and feel that banter (or more) is appropriate, but I am so surprised sometimes by the reactions to people who are clearly nervous, novice or just asking for help. Are they really fair game, even if they have said something quite ignorant?
By how tolerant everyone is, or thinks they are - which is hard to reconcile with some of the very real and sometimes extremely opinionated (or worse) posts I have seen. No comment on any of the individuals who have posted on this thread but I find it hard to believe that no one has ever been offended, or taken note of the names of several quite catty individuals who post regularly.
I differ from the majority here in thinking that it's not only a forum - it's real life too and you should respond as if talking to a real person with feelings. This may change if you get to know someone and feel that banter (or more) is appropriate, but I am so surprised sometimes by the reactions to people who are clearly nervous, novice or just asking for help. Are they really fair game, even if they have said something quite ignorant?
Jesstickle
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I know the people I've vociferously argued with but I don't think there is anyone catty on NL
I have bickered with ( in no particular order)
amymay
wagtail
booboos
and probably loads more. Do I avoid them? no, quite the opposite.
I have been offended once. But then the person who offended me has a history of posting when pished which I didn't realise at the time so even that I have moved on from
Archiesmummy
Well-Known Member
There has only ever been one person who I thought was downright nasty to a thread I once wrote, nasty for the sake of it. Her forked tongue really got stuck in, quite unecessarily. I couldn't bear to read her comments, posts or threads so blocked anything to do with her as she turned anything anyone posted into something that could be downright nasty. She quickly became a dot on the landscape, can't even remember her name.
I am not sure whether I am lucky in that the threads I read seem civil and I enjoy being on here, however, I stopped coming on the forum for some considerable time because some people where so unecessarily nasty.
A lot of people get pleasure for saying it as it is, for instance, being downright blunt and rude about something because that is how they are and of the mindset that people shouldn't post if they can't take the replies, however, there are ways of saying something that completely gets the message across, however passionate you are about something, that doesn't have to be offensive. To the point, yes, but but not offensive.
Unfortunately, some people get great pleasure from upsetting people when if their people skills were tuned a tad they would be more well respected and less seen as a bully or nasty person.
I am not sure whether I am lucky in that the threads I read seem civil and I enjoy being on here, however, I stopped coming on the forum for some considerable time because some people where so unecessarily nasty.
A lot of people get pleasure for saying it as it is, for instance, being downright blunt and rude about something because that is how they are and of the mindset that people shouldn't post if they can't take the replies, however, there are ways of saying something that completely gets the message across, however passionate you are about something, that doesn't have to be offensive. To the point, yes, but but not offensive.
Unfortunately, some people get great pleasure from upsetting people when if their people skills were tuned a tad they would be more well respected and less seen as a bully or nasty person.
Cinnamontoast
Fais pas chier!
Gingerwitch
Well-Known Member
But you see there is one thing posting your opinon and another when all that you get back is name calling - thats when you know they have lost.
Jesstickle
Well-Known Member
But you see there is one thing posting your opinon and another when all that you get back is name calling - thats when you know they have lost.
*whispers* I am almost starting to think patch is a troll and I really didn't in the first instance.
morrismob
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I have been on HHO for the last 2 years. Came on here thru the breeding section as I had a mare who was foaling for the first time, her and me. There was so much info that I was able to pick what helped me and what didn't.
I haven't fallen out with anyone... not in my nature to upset people..... but I do read a lot of the posts and do see the same names coming up time after time and I do think they are rude and think only their view is right but I tend to ignore most of what they say as it gets predictable
I rarely post but use the forum for guidance as the comments are so diverse that something always catches my eye and I just know that would be my horse.
I use both CR and NL, my girls compete so find CR very useful for schooling, competing help and NL is great for general horsey stuff. To sum it up HHO is a bit like a livery yard full of different people with different horses doing different things that there is always someone who can help and those that just don't do it your way. It takes allsorts but I do hate the ganging up that can go on in both forums. Where one poster will say something and in wades her mates but its just the same face to face. The tips I have picked up over the last 2 years far outweighs the bad stuff even if sometimes I could cyber thump some posters for their blunt verging on rude replies.
I haven't fallen out with anyone... not in my nature to upset people..... but I do read a lot of the posts and do see the same names coming up time after time and I do think they are rude and think only their view is right but I tend to ignore most of what they say as it gets predictable
I rarely post but use the forum for guidance as the comments are so diverse that something always catches my eye and I just know that would be my horse.
I use both CR and NL, my girls compete so find CR very useful for schooling, competing help and NL is great for general horsey stuff. To sum it up HHO is a bit like a livery yard full of different people with different horses doing different things that there is always someone who can help and those that just don't do it your way. It takes allsorts but I do hate the ganging up that can go on in both forums. Where one poster will say something and in wades her mates but its just the same face to face. The tips I have picked up over the last 2 years far outweighs the bad stuff even if sometimes I could cyber thump some posters for their blunt verging on rude replies.