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Maesfen said:
L, with all due respect, the more you post like that the longer drawn out this will be for you because people will feel obliged to answer you;( same as I'm doing I suppose) and you won't be able to move on. Cherish your fabulous memories but don't be fed by them, that way leads to more heart break which you don't need.
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Well it helps me to write it down.

MY hubby is hopeless in these situations. I am on my own from 7am - 8.30pm. He is tired when he gets home and just watches tv. MY mare and Hubby and my little Kass made my life loving them all the same. Then came all the others. Sorry if you feel I'm drawing it out. Was comforting being around others in this situation.

I have lost 2 out of 3 love of my life in 4 months



so sorry
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If people don't want to read something on a forum, then they don't have to.

People deal with grief differently, and I think writing things down is a good way to let it out. Why do people do blogs ?

Your feelings are still so raw, and it won't have sunk in yet. ((((HUGS)))).
 
Leviathan said:
Well it helps me to write it down.

MY hubby is hopeless in these situations. I am on my own from 7am - 8.30pm. He is tired when he gets home and just watches tv. MY mare and Hubby and my little Kass made my life loving them all the same. Then came all the others. Sorry if you feel I'm drawing it out. Was comforting being around others in this situation.

I have lost 2 out of 3 love of my life in 4 months



so sorry
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Just an idea L, but when I was going through this I was told to write a letter to the person in question.
Perhaps send her the poem you wrote (buried under a memory tree/chucked into the sea/on a fire etc)

I'd also look at getting out in those hours. Don't be alone in the house with this much grief. Whether it's with a friend or simply going for a walk and chatting to your horse x
 
One thing that has always been a huge comfort to me is
"no one dies until the last person that remembers them dies. They live on in hearts and minds forever"
Take care of yourself you need to grieve in the same way as you would for a family member
 
windand rain said:
One thing that has always been a huge comfort to me is
"no one dies until the last person that remembers them dies. They live on in hearts and minds forever"
Take care of yourself you need to grieve in the same way as you would for a family member
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It's a proven fact, people grieve more over the loss of a beloved pet than a family member.. it's that innocence and pureness of heart, that all animals carry, that makes them take such an important place in our hearts.
I lost my Guinea pig on Tues night... I'm still grieving.. I'm ok for a bit, then something reminds me of her, and i'm sobbing again.
Does the feeling of being 'robbed'? mean anything to you Leviathan? Because that's the feeling i've been having :(
 
Shadeyoak said:
It's a proven fact, people grieve more over the loss of a beloved pet than a family member.. it's that innocence and pureness of heart, that all animals carry, that makes them take such an important place in our hearts.
I lost my Guinea pig on Tues night... I'm still grieving.. I'm ok for a bit, then something reminds me of her, and i'm sobbing again.
Does the feeling of being 'robbed'? mean anything to you Leviathan? Because that's the feeling i've been having :(
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aw shadey I am sorry :(

Yes I feel robbed empty - sad depressed and more.
  • blame myself for wrong feeding her originally
  • I did wrong not putting her pin in the bars so she escaped and ate barley rings

I blame myself, she should have had at least another 6 years and that has been taken away:(:(:(
 
Please dont feel like you have to say sorry! You can continue to talk to me about for aslong as you feel you need too.
Life is so cruel sometimes xx
 
Leviathan said:
aw shadey I am sorry :(

Yes I feel robbed empty - sad depressed and more.
  • blame myself for wrong feeding her originally
  • I did wrong not putting her pin in the bars so she escaped and ate barley rings

I blame myself, she should have had at least another 6 years and that has been taken away:(:(:(
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I have thought a lot about your mare, Levi. Probably because my own girl suffers from repeated lami attacks. Hopefully now under control. But I think with your girl it was so much more complicated. There must have been something else at play rather than just diet, so please don't blame yourself. I really think it would not have made much difference. The vets could not pin down the cause. Perhaps they should have put her on metformin and prascend despite her negative results? The tests are not that accurate. But my feeling is that there was something else at play that no one ever got to the bottom of. I'm so sorry.
 
Hindsight is a wonderful thing.. what if I'd done this, what if I'd done that?
You can't wind the clock back, and stop her escaping. But it's not your fault, a small lapse in concentration, is all it takes to make a mistake. She saw an opportunity, grabbed it, not realizing the consequences..
She wasn't to know what the potential damage to her was, or that it would lead to her passing? She was living for that second in time, what was going to happen 5 mins later, was not relevant to her, as she didn't see her life being threatened.
 
Leviathan said:
Well it helps me to write it down.

MY hubby is hopeless in these situations. I am on my own from 7am - 8.30pm. He is tired when he gets home and just watches tv. MY mare and Hubby and my little Kass made my life loving them all the same. Then came all the others. Sorry if you feel I'm drawing it out. Was comforting being around others in this situation.

I have lost 2 out of 3 love of my life in 4 months



so sorry
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Don't be sorry; it must be awful for you not having anyone to talk to about it so it's perfectly understandable why you're still feeling the need to talk it through. FWIW, my OH is exactly the same with a farmer's mentality to giving sympathy about an animal although saying that, he took the loss of Joey recently very hard, far worse than I did and is still very cut up about it but when I've lost earlier ones it's been a case of 'it's done, get over it' ; who can understand men eh? :confused:)

Take care.
 
L, sorry I've only just seen your post.

Take solace from the fact that however hard, you made the right decision for Diamond - she is now pain free. I do know how you feel, Diamond's good friend Bri was pts just a few short weeks before her son died of colic.

Think of them all together in the meadow in the sky.

The pain does become more bearable with time. Do you have ny of Diamond's mane or tail you can wear in a locket?
 
They don't give up.

I found one of my liveries colic last week. I called her she came down called the vet and tube up the nose.

She then went to pub with hubby to warm up before coming back to check horse.

While they were in the pub by the fire warming up the said female dog above went over and said



* how is it going next door*
how is * persons name*
how is * said horse* whats going on with all the vet visits


Livery to shut her up said oh its for my horse.


This female dog who shared my horse ****

did not terminate sharing by verbal to both owners me and J.
did not say thankyou for loaning horse and she enjoyed it and sorry to end sharing.


first :
  • Just up and went next door
  • did not give notice
  • did not say goodby

Followed up with :
  • reported an owner for her horses care to welfare (under vet care she was)
  • called another livery to the gate asking questions about the horse and the owner
  • The another day quizzed another livery same questions
  • caught me in car park trying to befriend me again after going awaol with above shared horse to try get info
  • caught a sharer in the woods with 12 year old daughter asking questions saying owner doing wrong thing to horse and owner is plain wrong
  • another livery next door followed up saying owner going crazy and doing crazy things (just put rubber mats outside and fence so ill horse could wander in and out)
  • manager next door making silly excuses to come in my yard to nose and report back to their liveries.
  • when vets been here they hang around the gate nosing in at our car park and two vets cars in there.


The back stabbing - nosy interfering - spiteful - vicious un called for rumours being done ALL from next door.

I know what goes around comes around and IT WILL!!!
 
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Thankyou for sharing, she was beautiful.
Loved seeing the photos of her with her new born foal, and her asleep and dreaming.
I know its hard, I still get upset about my old boy, that I lost over a year ago, but try to think of the good times you had. She was much loved and you did everything you could, including helping her find peace in the end.
As for the people next door, they dont matter as they aren't important, hold your head up high and ignor them.'
Kx
 
Lovely tribute. I can only imagine how much it's hurting. I well up even thinking of losing my girl. When she last had lami, I was terrible. Because I knew that I would have to PTS if it got so bad that she would have to be in for a long long time. Thankfully, this time it was not to be, but it's like living on a knife edge.

Your girl looked a lovely character. I would have loved to have a foal from mine, but at eighteen, and with her tendency towards lami, I couldn't risk it. At least Diamond will live on through her son and in your memories.
 
Diamond a year has past today since I lost you feels like yesterday. The pain from my broken arm is nothing compared to the pain in my heart from loosing you. Your stable remains untouched my beautiful girl, it helps to keep your presents here as I come out the house.

Your in my heart and in my soul, My love for you is immeasurable as the years gone bye the hurt remains. Your always there with me. Your sweet face full of kindness and love, I hate this day the way I hate all the days of my babies moving on. Diamond I miss you with everything I have I was honoured you came into my life. Sweet dreams darling xxxxxxxxxxxxxx:(
 
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