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Will keep it short..

Dressage was as close to the XC warm-up/start as they could get it, so Ernie blow up
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managed to contain it just enough for a qualifying mark of 74.4.

SJing i rode like a retard and had 3 down, (but still a qualifying mark).

XC, i had the ride of my life, it really was what dreams are made of, untill the 21st fence (out of 24) where we hit the deck and that was that.

Got the 'talk' again on the way back in the lorry, ie we can't afford to do this if i keep stuffing up (missed SJ at Osberton CIC**). yet another qualifying trip down the drain..

So some more serrious thinking to do, ie am i really cut out for this, am i really up to riding at that level. and if not, what do i do now.
 
Oh no
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Feel so so sorry for you but know exactly how you feel just at a lower level!!

Bl**dy horses!!! What happened for you to fall off?

Such a shame after getting marks to qualify in the dress and SJ
 
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TBF I think you are putting far too much pressure on yourself. I know you want to keep the ride on Ernie, we all want you to, but in sucha short space of time you have gone from intro/pn on young or inexperienced horses up to OI level.
I know youve ridden at this level a few years back but youve ridden some not so easy ones in between.

Give yourself a break, you are one of only a few ppl I rate as a really good rider, you ride xc effortlessly and make it look like childs play.

Please stop beating yourself up. Enjoy Ernie now, i am sure if you stop piling on the pressure you will start reaping the rewards!

Now go and find something less taxing to enter, that qualfication will be got, just quit chasing it, let it come to you
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Vxx
 
I was going to put exactly what BBs put but as i'm meant to be essay writing (about burns patients not CIC's) i'll just say "what she said"

Why not aim to go and do a CCI* or something fun instead, get the relationship going again, have fun, get some prize money and cut the pressure. It will all suddenly happen again.
 
Thanks V, but you've gone and made me cry again
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haha..

I know i'm putting far too much pressure on myself, but at the same time i feel like every event is my one and only chance with him, so i have to go out and get on with it.. he will be sold, when i don't know, and with that thought in the back of my mind, i keep feeling that this is my one and only chance, or it's back to intro/PN again.
 
Whatever happens hun if parentals find a buyer he will be sold, you know that. If you had qualfied today and someone came and offered them X for him he would be gone and you still wouldnt be going to Ede
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Until however, that buyer is found, keep chugging away, i think you will be surprised if you stop chasing round the country and having silly blips you will end up going back to how you were at the beginning of the season when i watched you go round Gatcombe.

Thing is, its because you are trying to do so much to please so many ppl that you are ending up going splat! you are much better than that!

Ignore parentals, as yet they have no buyer! so just go and enjoy him, get to another event and have fun, then if hes sold, it will be a sad day, but at least you had the opportunity to ride such a super talented horse WELL!!!!

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can i just say Bu88er!
and i'm really sorry, but have a huge drink and don't do any thing rash.

In a couple days i'm sure you'll come up with a plan- horsey folk always do

Chin Up and onwards and upwards
 
Oh no, so sorry
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You're more than capable I'm sure of it. Just take it easy for a few runs- treat him as a horse to really have fun with while you can. Sounds like he can give you the best feeling xc and thats really what its all about imho!
 
have a hug and then i found this a few weeks ago and i think its quite true.....

"I cannot give you a formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: trying to please everybody" Herbert Swope
 
Thanks again everyone..

Have just come off phone to friend who happened to be at that fence as i fell.. she said that not quite (ie a few inbetween) the next 3 horses did exactly the same thing, and the fence was taken out, they were also ridden by 'proper' riders.
 
YOU ARE CAPABLE - believe it. As you say they had to take that fence out for the Intermediate and it caused a few nasty falls.

You will make a good partnership these things happen.
 
Sorry to hear it didn't go as well as you hoped.
I too feel you are asking too much of yourself, and it's causing the problems.
I also think (and they will tell me to mind my own business) that your parents' shouldn't get upset when things go wrong. Of course we want our offspring to do well, it's only natural, but the sort of pressure you must be under is intolerable in my opinion.
I would go back a step or two and have FUN. Then once you have got all the confidence in the world try again but under the strict understanding that if things go wrong, so what. It may also be because the jumps are bigger etc they are secretly worried you may get hurt and it's coming out as criticism instead.
Listen anyone who could jump Monty can ride anything, so please don't beat yourself up.
The more pressure you feel under, the more likely things are to go wrong, that's common sense.
What happened at fence 24, and do you feel it was your fault or just one of those things that happen?
Don't forget if you want an impartial ear I'm not very far away.. Chin up....
 
Hi, I was at Sansaw, just a mere spectator, wish we had known who you were to cheer you on. As my daughter and I were walking round we commented on the stops and/or falls at fence 21 so you were not alone. Don't really know the history of you and Ernie but wish you all the luck for the future.
 
Oh Claire - stop beating yourself up - I totally agree with BBs and HH, and I echo the need to have some fun with Ernie. Stop putting the pressure on yourself (and Ernie) by chasing qualification, you will get it (perhaps not in time for Ede) but YOU WILL get there.
Hugs
Maloo
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(psst ...... whispers ............ there is still a place free for you on the lorry to Blair......)
 
Sorry to hear about the fall. Hope you are not too sore. Sounds as if you need to take the pressure off for a bit and have some fun. Try and focus mon the positive bits. You said the round was great until then. So try and think how that made you feel and not the fall.
 
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not really much to add to what others have said...

Just ease up on yourself, stop putting all that pressure on you... you'll be surprised how much it all comes together when you do
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Just to echo what henryhorn said, as a Mum whose daughter competes (but only at local riding club level) , I would think it is quite possible your parents are concerned as you had a fall and this is coming out wrongly as criticism. I don't know your history so apologise if I have got this completely wrong but sometimes us parents do say the wrong thing . As others have said it sounds as if you are putting yourself under too much pressure. I hope you are able to relax and do yourself justice at future events. Good luck.
 
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