saying goodbye

[haycroft]

How do you prepare yourself to say goodbye
our little loan(ish)pony in my sig
hes been battling with lami for a while now,and cant hardly walk ,lying down alot
hes kept at the owners yard and she has decided enough is enough..hes not a happy pony anymore stuck in and not out with his friends

dont sure when

im not asking for advice on drugs etc as weve done as much as we can
my son is upset and myself(unless we get a miracle and he becomes sound,he has dropped soles aswell in both fore feet)..you get attached to these little ponies

we do have another pony we can use for my son but this will not replace the bond they have between them

 

[Kokopelli]

Saying goodbye is never easy especially to a much loved horse.
Cherish the last moments you have with him and always keep in mind that you are doing the right thing and up in horse heaven he is happy and doing fine.

I would recommend to get a trimming of his mane and one of his shoes if possible and make a little tribute to him.

Huge hugs to you and if you ever need someone to talk to about it feel free to PM me x

 

[Pearlsasinger]

You can only tell yourself (and your son) that it is the best thing for the pony who will then be painfree. It is always a difficult decision to make and particularly hard for the adults when there are children involved. I find that children tend to take their cue from the adults in the way that they deal with this, so if you can be reasonably matter-of-fact about the loss, it will help your son. I always find that having to look after the others helps me when we lose one so, the fact that there is another pony to ride and do, should help your son to come to terms with his loss. Children also seem to benefit from 'ceremonies', so depending on what the owner decides to do with the remains, perhaps you could devise something.

 

[haycroft]

Thanks for your both replies..
its never easy, i had to make that dreadful decision for my beloved dog a year back..her eyes said it all
good idea kokopelli taking some mane/tail im sure on the net you can make it into some jewellery of some kind
he has no shoes
children are def more stronger emotionally than adults they just see everything in black and white and move on
i know i'l be in a mess( a controlled mess lol)

kokopelli.. i can remember the post about your beloved horse so sorry, hes lovely and i just love spots.(.my first pony was a spotty maybe not as much as yours,only few here and there+ pink/blue skin cremello?)
we are going up to the yard later with the camera and xtra cuddles

 

[riding_high]

take lots of tail, long lengths if you intend to make it into jewellery otherwise you will have another sad time when they say they can't do anything with a small amount. google horse hair jewellery and you should get plenty of results.

as for your son, i understand how hard it is to help him through it, it's never easy to explain it to them, especially when it's a much loved pet (hard enough with a strangers animal).
my son now knows that the day will come for me to have to say goodbye to my lad, he is upset at the thought of it but i've told him that the kindest thing i can do for him is to say goodbye and let him go to stop feeling anymore pain. he will always be in our hearts and minds but it would be mean of us to keep him going for us to see him every day only to watch him suffer.
my son is 12yrs old but autistic, he can't accept death and it breaks his heart but although he cried when i explained it to him he accepted it. he knows that when th etime comes he will be able to say goodbye and then we can be thankful that he's no longer in pain or struggling. hope that makes sense.

thoughts with you and your son and i wish you both lots of strength during this horrible time. spend lots of time with the pony and spoil it rotten.