saying goodbye

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Shavings

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I'm sorry
every time i seem to come to this part of the forum its never for a happy reason.

our much loved springer has taken a turn, tat the age of 14 i knew it would come one day but i guess i just didn't want to believe it.

he was brought for me when i was 12 going 13 as a parting gift, my mother and father where getting divorced and he is what i go.

he has been though many tears, my happy times and even many an illness (my own not his)

but it appears age has really caught up with him now, came home last night to find my mother on the phone to the vet and Tyler (the dog) limping in front

Que a out of hours visit to the vets (wile dropping husband off at A and E they gave him strong pain killer injection for the night but admitted it was his arthritis catching up with the puppy he is at heart.

took him to an appointment this morning with vets who has given him more pain killer tablets but said there isn't much they can do for him, its taken me 20 mins to be strong enough to drive us home, even then got home, lifted on to "his spot" on the sofa and became tearful mess once again, for now he is comfortable although vets have said reduce exercise to zero and dont allow to jump on sofa.

my mother is be side her self as when i left for college he was there with her and although he was brought for me to cope with divorce really he helped her heal as much of me.

i guess your never really ready for pets to leave you and in a way its not fair you love them, care for them and in the end they leave us behind and take a small piece of you with them.

so i am sat here at my work desk in floods of tears with no real idea why i am telling you all this, but i need to explain to some one, i'm not ready to say good bye but i know its coming and i will not let him suffer.. but do you ever really move on?
 
Shavings said:
so i am sat here at my work desk in floods of tears with no real idea why i am telling you all this, but i need to explain to some one, i'm not ready to say good bye but i know its coming and i will not let him suffer.. but do you ever really move on?
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first-dont be sorry. second-those last few months when you know its coming but the constant worry and monitoring is tough. and I can't lie and say it gets any easier with other dogs, or as you get towards the end. its horrid, its beyond sad but you get through it and make the right decision because you love them.

Speaking for myself yes, you do move on-to make it easier I try and have an idea of when the next one will be coming along if I dont have two. It does get easier as time goes on, your dog is 14 and thats a very good age-shows how loved and cared for he's been.
 
I'm really sorry to hear that you are facing this. It is so heartbreaking. We lost our loved Lab back in March and not a day goes by when I don't miss him. Enjoy the time you have left together. Big hugs.
 
I 'moved on' in that I got a new dog 3 weeks later (lost our 5 yo rescue GSD to cancer)- a nuts 2 yo rescue collie.
But she is not our boy- we have had her nearly a year, but I openly admit I still cry some days about my boy. you can get another dog, I can't live without one, but they are a different dog, not a replacement for your old dog, just another dog. she has however helped, as I love her to bits and feel happy that I've been able to help another dog who needed a home, when I could not save my boy.
(oh dear here come the tears...)

So sorry for you, I can imagine even when they have lived a long happy life it still doesn't mean they want you want it to end, but try to think of all the happy times and how peaceful it will be for them.

there is no rush for another dog. I just couldn't stand an empty house. although I did briefly resent my girl as she was so alive and he wasn't. but life must go on.
 
'do you ever move on?' you do, but it takes time & everyone lost is different.
I lost my Cocker before Christmas, she was very nearly 15 and had been out of sorts for about a week & sick for the last four days then off her food, but still lively in herself, took her to the vets & a blood test showed significant kidney failure, she was PTS at home the next day. But I just wasn't ready for her to go, I thought they'd give her some expensive tablets and we'd prop her up for a few more months, the morning she went I was playing with her and her little stump (she was docked) was going like it always did when she was excited. So now, for the first time in over 30 years I don't have a dog in the house, I keep contemplating another, but stupidly am still at the stage where I just want LB back.
With my previous two dogs, I had another in the house, so although their loss was really painful I still had a four legged friend needing walks and attention.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, it's the worst part of having a pet; how does it go - grief is the price you pay for loving.
Stay strong, you will come out OK the other side.
JDx
 
Just make the most of the time you've got left with him. As Bearsmum says, grief is the price you pay for loving. Concentrate on remembering all the good things.
 
I’m so sorry. This is an awful time for you. It’s the bravest act you can do, to make that decision. I count myself very lucky to have my 14 year old springer still galloping round but I know it won’t be for much longer at all. {{{Hugs}}}
 
You do move on eventually. I lost Honey, my beloved lab st the start of Dec. We buried her at the end of the garden next to a previous pet dog and two cats. She has a Xmas tree over her. I say hello to her frequently. It's crossed my mind that I always used to say hello to the previous dog all the time but hadn't for years! I loved them both as much when they were alive. At the moment losing Honey still tears me apart but Zecca is just a lovely memory..
 
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