Selling horses.... Is it just me or are people just plain rude?

I have a friend who was selling her pony and had a lady arrange to come and view, she turned up saw the mare etc was making all the right noises about how lovely she was and sweet natured, My friend tacked her up got on her and they walked down to the school (at the bottom of one of the fields) when they got in there the lady said she wanted to grab her phone to take some pics it was in her car, friend said no problem I'll just start warming her up...25 minutes later no sign of the lady, friend went back up to the yard and she had driven off and text her to say 'not for me'!!

Fair enough the pony wasn't for her but why not say so instead of the 'bad date back out!' and leave friend in the school for 25 minutes wondering where she had got to! We laugh about it now but I did think that was quite rude!
 
It's just something that happens when you sell. Whenever sellers said they would call or text I took that with a pinch of salt and if they didn't call wasn't meant to be.

I'd rather spend the time with each to find the right buyer, not everyone who comes to see the horse will want it whether they behaved well or not. I think I'd rather spend an hour or so getting to know potential buyers? So I felt comfy if they decided to take the horse rather than chuck them aboard for 10mins and that's it.
 
I am in the process of looking and have tried at least 15 and still not found the one for me. However I think it is incredibly rude not to go back in 24hours with a thank u v much however .... Or a yes I am v interested etc.

I do have to say though there are also some very rude sellers out there too :-(
 
wil24702 said:
I am in the process of looking and have tried at least 15 and still not found the one for me. However I think it is incredibly rude not to go back in 24hours with a thank u v much however .... Or a yes I am v interested etc.

I do have to say though there are also some very rude sellers out there too :-(
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Agreed on both counts. While I think it's only good manners to be back in touch promptly, I don't think it's a one way street. The number of sellers who seem to be willfully difficult belies the 'buyers market' idea.
 
Thank god for the internet! At least you can take some of the hassle out of it by sending loads of photos and videos, which can narrow down the numpties. I've just had a cracking email from a rider in Sweden. She sent me loads of pics of her horses/yard, and I reciprocated with lots of photos/links to the mare I've got for sale. THEN.. she says its a long way to Sweden from the UK, and she had no idea it would be so difficult/ expensive to organise transport. Well, YEAH........
 
I think it works both ways but thats just life. I think its far worse when they string you along for a wk, mythering everyday telling you horse is definatly for them, claim theyve arranged transport, livery etc and night before they are due to pick up send a txt to tell you they changed their minds, they havnt got time for a horse! :( Ive had this happen twice with the same horse!! That was for loan though not sale or i would have been quids in with kept deposits! Lol
 
It never really occurred to me people were that bothered about hearing back. Part of the issue at the moment is that they often stay on the market so long. I dithered over one when I was looking for 2 months. Was probably a week away from settling for it when I found one I liked better.
Even where I knew straight away though, I would be upfront during the viewing
'it can't be turned out alone without running thru a fence'
'I don't really want another one with separation anxiety' '
I'm sure she could be worked past it, it's only bob she runs to find, and he won't be there at your yard'.

It just got easier not to tell people I didn't want it than get into a discussion about what, for me, were deal breaker issues.
I think as a seller I would find 'not for me' but with no reason really frustrating. As it's the consensus though, I will do that next time I look (hopefully years away yet).
 
I always let owners know either way, however sometimes they really don't take it well. I traveled five hours to go and see a mare, she was lovely but her feet were not in good condition. When the seller asked why I wouldn't be buying her I politely said that I wasn't happy with her feet, to which I had to endure a rant, she was not a cheap horse either!
 
You see I hate the internet as a selling tool yes you get your ads seen and you can send endless photos and video and a million messages all of which are time consuming and a pain in the bum. I would much rather talk to the prospective buyer and get them to tell me what they are looking for and so decide whether or not it is worth their time and mine viewing As a rule my ponies are youngsters just starting a ridden career but I have sold others and am totally honest about them so probably discount many riders that would be fine but I tell them the worse case and if they are still interested I know they will be worth a shot. So far I have probably reduced my custom by about 99%
 
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