Selling your horse and having second thoughts ...

RainbowDash

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Hi all,

This is not an advert. More getting thoughts together and hopefully getting HHO kick up the backside :).

I've had my pony on the market for about ten days now. The advert was hard enough to write :( on paper he's amazing but my confidence is very low - and so far I've had a LOT of interest in him. A lady came today and loved him but decided he was a little smaller than she wanted. But some of her comments has made me think very hard and remember why he stole my heart in the first place.

He brought me on from a numpty to having the confidence to ride a strange horse at gallop on a beach. Argh! Please someone kick me - I know I'll never meet another like him :(
 
Why are you selling him? Why is your confidence so low? Write it down and remember, take off your rose coloured specs... Its always horrible selling, you just have to keep a grasp on your reasons.
 
Just know that until you accept money, that the decision is all yours to make. Keep or sell, your decision.
We took one off the market, he did not do what I wanted, so it was right that his job description had to change (he did not like Novice BE XC, if he could not see where his feet had to land). We put him up for sale BUT we decided to keep home after a few people came to look, in his new job he taught my husband to ride, and he was the one we have missed the MOST when it was time for him to cross the rainbow to the other place....
It was right that things had to change, and it was true I needed another horse, but keeping him was the right decision too.....
 
ive sold my lad recently and I still hope everyday that something goes wrong as I promised id always have himback, he was my horse of a life time and boy did I go through it with him, but the lady that has him updates me and is so chuffed with him, it makes it easier and the fact hes now doing something confirms I done the right thing
 
Aah i feel your pain ive had one of mine up for sale and changed my mind 3times and could of sold her a million times over but im waaay too fussy over who can and cant have her!

What are your reasons for selling? Do you have to sell?

Ide say by the sounds of it your not emotionally ready to let go so if you dont have to sell then dont. Or maybe you will find loaning a better option as its not a goodbye?
 
My main reason is I'm not working, time (only horsey person in the family) and having a lot going off at home. I have a young family and after a very nasty fall in the school last March knocking my confidence (head hitting the side wall and trip to a&e, brain scan etc - my fault not his ). I'm not doing my boy any good atm. I hack in company and we often go front past the horse eating monsters :) . I've been lucky with my viewers so far - no kids wanting a pony for xmas and mostly adults wanting a safe & sensible hack ... I'm thinking of letting him out on loan for a year or so I can see him every so often - I'm being honest with potential buyers/loaners - not in my nature to lie - money not an issue -I'd rather him be loved and worked TBH x
 
There are a few more replies since I wrote my essay :) Thanks all x I brought the Boyo from the field and although he's 20ish theres nowt wrong with him besides needind time to warm up.

And yes Rowan666 I'm not ready to let him go and the advert was to put the feelers out and gauge interest - given the time of year I have been surprised at the amount of interest - if I left it until spring I'm sure I could times it by ten - he's great on paper, is pretty and he's a gentleman :)
 
OP you say in your first post your confidence is low, but you can gallop a strange horse on the beach? I don't think it can be that low, I'm sure you will get over the fall- you say it wasn't his fault. He's brought you this far, you say he's 20 (approx.) and you might sell next year? He'l be even older by then, might even be 22 or 23. As he's been so good to you, don't you think you should at least secure his future by loaning, rather than selling? Otherwise how do you know what will happen to him in 2 or 3 years time? We owe are oldies.... seems a bit unfair to sell him..
 
i would only loan as he is 20+, also people will not be a put off by his age if loaning, as he is a useful been-there-done that type.
 
I wrote a sales ad for one of my old horses.... Cried the entire time I sat to write the advert that I soaked my keyboard and had to replace some keys! I had several enquiries and no one seemed to be put of by the age (20) probably because he made a fab all rounder and many people had seen him out and about competing, but in the end I couldn't sell and opted for full loan, which still broke my heart but meant he was still under my ownership.
 
If it helps, you are on a well worn track. Sometimes you just have to take time out to re-assess where horses fit into your life as a whole and how much you would mix you horsey fix/relationship with a particular horse.

Just as a matter of interest, sometimes I think we get too fixated on the 'I have to ride my horse 3 times a week or he is wasted' line. In fact, my Winter project is to find other ways of enjoying my horse and building a better bond, just slowing down and loving the privilege of having horses of my own. I am currently looking at massage (there is an amazing TTouch video on YouTube that gives some great ideas) and horse agility - again some fab videos on YouTube. Maybe a bit of something like that would fit in better with family life and be destressing for everyone? As they say, once the horse is gone its gone!
 
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