Settling new companions together

PaulaE

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I took on a 33 year old mare last year. She has been without equine company for 20 years so I felt it was important to get her a friend.
I chose a gelding of similar size who seemed to be bottom.of the herd in the rescue.
On the first day he arrived, my mare was beside herself with excitement. She was desperate to get to him and even squirted at him. I had them separated by fencing.
Day 2 my new arrival was less settled and was running around a little. He broke through the fencing to be with my mare. Once togerher he settled and she seemed happy to graze with him.
However, since then she has been nervous of him. He moves her around a little. No biting or kicking, just ears back. She seems nervous of him and keeps out of his way when they are coming in for feeding etc but I also see them grazing side by side and they seem to stay reasonably close to each other.
Since he broke through the fencing I find they settle better if they graze unseparated day time and then from around 2pm they go back into their night field where they are separated by electric fencing and settle nicely near to each other to feed and have their hay.
My question is should I be worried that I've chosen the wrong friend for my mare? It's only 2 weeks and she's certainly snoozing less and gracing and eating more hay than she did before he came. However, she is also a little quiet and less cheeky with less gate bashing and knocking wheel barrows over. I appreciate it's probably a big adjustment for her but as she's so elderly it's of paramount importance to me that she's happy.
Thank you for any words of wisdom that might help me.
 
Sounds like normal settling in with new companion. It's early days and she's not used to company yet - must be a bit of a culture shoock for her poor girl.
It's lovely that you've provided her with a companion after all this time.
Who leaves a horse with no friends for 20 years - words fail me xx
 
Sounds like normal settling in with new companion. It's early days and she's not used to company yet - must be a bit of a culture shoock for her poor girl.
It's lovely that you've provided her with a companion after all this time.
Who leaves a horse with no friends for 20 years - words fail me xx
Thank you so much. That's lovely reassurance. Hoping my precious old lady is getting used to having a friend. She doesn't seem unhappy but I want the best for her x
 
It does sound like settling in behaviours but I think in this situation I would ve had a same sex companion, imagine being on your own for 20 years and then having your sex hormones all stirred up when you re an old lady…
Thank you. That's a good point that hadn't occurred to me. Hopefully in time this will work out as the rescue pony seems happy to be here but if it doesn't I'll look at a mare companion instead. Thank you
 
Sounds all good to me too. She has together time and separate time.

She may be snoozing less as she isn't board. Eating more hay is also good. Less gate bashing is likely because she isn't frustrated. Not knocking wheelbarrows over is surely a win???
Thank you. I was hoping she was feeling less bored too. The gate bashing was always something she did at food time. All part of her cheeky character. Ears full forward and letting me know to hurry up ha ha. She is quite a character. Thanks so much
 
It does sound like settling in behaviours but I think in this situation I would ve had a same sex companion, imagine being on your own for 20 years and then having your sex hormones all stirred up when you re an old lady…
Well yes quite but speaking as an old lady I might have to beg to differ.😅


Sounds all good to me too. She has together time and separate time.

She may be snoozing less as she isn't board. Eating more hay is also good. Less gate bashing is likely because she isn't frustrated. Not knocking wheelbarrows over is surely a win???

This ^ All sounds good to me.
 
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