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feeling very shaky and tearful just been threatened by a certain lady (i've mentioned in previous thread) her ex who turned up on our driveway as we were outside as we'd threatened her on sat (that's what his daughter told him) and if we tittle tattle or speak to her our door would be kicked in my hubby would be beaten up and we wouldn't want to live here anymore. Wouldn't mind but we'd decided just to give up on money and do nothing as too much stress. To be honest I'm actually quite scared
 
have decided to speak to police (had emailed off record a police lady who deals with horses) but she's suggest we make it formal so waiting for local police to make contact (but that worries me in case they see the police and take it as tittle tattle) i'm worried about my animals, and my family as well as property. Just wish I'd never set eyes on her
 
Most definantly report to police even if nothing comes off it at least they have got a log of it just in case. I do hope nothing comes of it and they leave you alone, it such a horrible position to be in keep your chin up
 
Report, no 2 ways about it. I know who you're talking about (have read and replied to one of your posts). I won't say more on a public forum (my user name is too identifiable).
 
Good for you. Hope they take it seriously. I know far too many people who have had run in's with her. Thank God when I had mine, I had a lot of people around - my Dad, OH, OH's work colleague, vet, horse transporter and her YO. Even so, I didn't feel safe until we moved house 9 months later.
 
have logged incident with police now - not sure if I feel any better still worried- but i suppose he's had the chance to do something but didn't so hopefully was all mouth and if anything happens he's the obvious person now isn't he?!
 
thank you everyone - just had it logged as dispute for now and don't want him talking to (incase of stirring him up more) hopefully he;s had the chance to hit out and didn't just let off steam so hopefully that's end of it. As as for ignoring her when I see her (which is highly likely as she has to go past my house to get to her horses) that's not a problem can't think of anything polite i'd want to say to her anyway. Just sad that kids have to blank me and not allowed to talk to them as it's not their fault
 
Report to Police and you must keep a record of every time something has happened with this person - times/dates etc and what was said/done. There are some truly horrible people out there.
 
Bit of sleeplessness for me and hubby and taken some advice today and have left note for policeman dealing with it (but he's not on dut again til weekend) that we want him spoken to and warned off - he's a bully and should not get away with intimidating people. I was dreading coming home from work today but they will not beat us as they seem to do this on a regular basis
 
Oh poor you. I know exactly who you are talking about and the worry you must be in. She used to work for me and we were at the same yard for a time. I consider myself very lucky as she was meant to cover for my groom when I was away on holiday (so empty house, yard etc and she had full access) but 'luckily' she went on a drinking bender and didn't turn up.

Can't believe she's managed to get grazing in the same area though? Is it at the old place? Am very sad as I sold her a pony before I realised what she was like and heard so many bad stories since :(

Take care.
 
I'm a bit lost here but know that if you put up with bullies it only makes things worse. Where abouts in Berkshire are we? I used to be in Windsor but was 10 years ago.
 
sadiedeb said:
have logged incident with police now - not sure if I feel any better still worried- but i suppose he's had the chance to do something but didn't so hopefully was all mouth and if anything happens he's the obvious person now isn't he?!
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Really sympathise with you, had someone locally like that recently tormenting a friend. Could you also contact the local council; I think they also have to deal with neighbour/threatening behaviour? Again they would need dates, times etc.

Very best of luck getting this sorted.
 
We're based Pamber Heath/Tadley - she's doesn't actually live around here but keeps her horses down the lane which is only reason she has to come over here.

Feeling much more positive today my neighbours are being brilliant and all very supportive which is nice because still fairly new to area (15 months)
 
Just googles tack theft in reading. She sounds like a real piece of work. I honestly think you will have to cut your losses with this person. I know it's wrong but I am afraid people like that really don't care. It's sad and I feel for you. Hope things settle down soon. Xc
 
Bit peeved to see her and her daughter walk pass this mornign without a care in the world and her daughter carrying a saddle (possibly new? is that what happened to my money then?)

Also feeling have to keep note of if saw her, what time, when, if anything said, and if any witness just in case she decides to lie to her ex again!
 
Not read any of your other posts, but please ask the police to go around and talk to this person, the more they get away with the more they will do it.
Some one has to finally stand up to them and sadly it will have to be you, once they know everything is in the hands of the police they may back off.
Really feel for you, been in a similar situation and i ended up moving
 
sadiedeb said:
Bit peeved to see her and her daughter walk pass this mornign without a care in the world and her daughter carrying a saddle (possibly new? is that what happened to my money then?)

Also feeling have to keep note of if saw her, what time, when, if anything said, and if any witness just in case she decides to lie to her ex again!
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Just googled what Cougar mentioned. She sounds like a real class act. I bet the saddle is one of the ones which wasn't "recovered" from her thieving time. Hardly likely she's actually bought it. You must get the police involved and if possible get an injunction with power of arrest to stop him coming anywhere near you, your OH or your property.
 
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