Sharer taking the mickey ??!!

[Cobsndogs]

I have a sharer for one of my horses, but am starting to feel like she is taking the mickey out of me. The arrangement was for a set payment and half shoes, for 3 days a week share, where she did his duties on that day and rode. She has been coming for 10 weeks, so I am probably to blame for letting it go on this long, and I still go up every day to do my other 2 horses. For the first 5 weeks, she rode only and didn't do any jobs as my husband was on his long summer holiday and she just left him to do it. For the past 5 weeks, I am still bringing him in on her days or paying yard to do it, doing his hay, water, feed, poo picking the field, and sweeping up after her. She is riding, and taking the poo out of his bed ( not tidying it,sweeping back) and turning out. If it rains she doesn't come up, but expects to come on the next day instead (weather permitting !), we have an indoor school.
The other big issue is the money, for the first 2 weeks she didn't pay, until I plucked up the courage to mention it, at which point she grudgingly gave 1 weeks money. The next week, she left another payment of 1 week, and then after being asked again gave 2 weeks 3 week later and so on. We are now at the stage where she hasn't paid for 5 weeks again, or contributed towards the shoes, and to be honest I am getting a bit fed up with it. I have sent a message asking her to bring the payments up to date, but have heard nothing back from her. I have also changed the lock on my tackroom, as she has a key, so she can't go up and get in without me being there.
Sorry it's long and moany, I need chocolate now !!, so Dairy Milk all round. Any advice appreciated.

 

[EquestrianType]

Dump the free-loading cow!!..

 

[missyme10]

She is totally taking the pee, dump her and find yourself a decent sharer.
Wise to change the lock, she will know she's pushed you to far, if she bothers to come up again that is, but I suspect she wont with knowing she's to fork out 5 weeks money.
I hate free loaders, whether it be on a money front or time and effort x

 

[azouria]

Get rid of her, she clearly doesn't appreciate it, and I know so many people who would kill to be in her position! It's not fair on you or your horse.

 

[Balibee]

I agree, definitely taking the mick

For future sharers I would also ask for payment monthly in advance.

Good luck, hope you find a good one.

 

[Sunny08]

I would let her go. If a sharer cannot honour the agreement in the first 10 weeks you have very little hope for the future!

 

[Orangehorse]

If you think she does a good job of riding and in principle you are happy for her to carry on, you need to give her a final warning and if she doesn't come up with the money and do the jobs as you agreed, you will have to stop the arrangement. Presumably you had all this down in writing so there is no misunderstanding.

It is quite hard to find a suitable sharer, i.e. someone you trust enough to look and after and ride your horse, so if she suits in other ways you should give her a chance, but don't let the situation go on and on.

 

[SusannaF]

Is she taking the mickey? Yes, why yes she is indeed. I hope she pays up and gets lost.

 

[aregona]

I doubt she will even come back by the sounds of it and if she does she will have a shock when she can't get in!!!!
well done for changing the locks. Horses are expensive (as we all know ) she will know this too but is quite happy to ride and let you do the work and foot the bill - not on. There are losts of people who would be so greatful to ride a horse once or twice a week for a little money and some mucking out. Get rid

 

[poorchickens]

She is mean Why do people not understand that they HAVE to go on their days? They can't just pick and choose when they fancy grr.

 

[shadowboy]

there are sooo many lovely people wanting a share horse including my OH who would be far more reliable than that! I would get shot quick- before things get worse tbh.

 

[FestiveBoomBoom]

Definitely time to heave-ho. That is, if she ever bothers to come back

 

[hannahmurphy]

Access denied! Goodbye

 

[Wizzkid]

Oh dear she sounds like a nightmare you should have asked her to set up a standing order. I'd get rid and find someone who will enjoy looking after your after you horse rather than just the riding part! Good luck there are good sharers out there! x

 

[maletto]

get rid. next sharer you have, ask for weekly payment in advance by standing order - everyone has internet banking now so there really is no excuse!

 

[Vodkagirly]

Send her a text about the money, if she pays up then you need to talk to her about the jobs - be specific about what you expect and if she doesn't like it/ do it dump her. Some people just don't think and she needs to know what is exactly what is expected.
If she doesn't pay up, no more ridding.

 

[trakehnersrock!]

It sounds to me like you made the deal clear right from the start, and despite numerous reminders she is not honouring her part of the agreement. I think changeing the lock is the sensible thing to do. I hope that you find a new sharer who will respect the rules, and if I were you, I would say up front right at the start that the details of the share must be respected from the very beginning, given that you had a bad experience the last time. Good Luck!