Sharers - bit of a rant

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horseriderdeb

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The sharer for my daughters horse has just told me she has had a horse brought her for christmas by her parents and boyfriend. She no longer wants to look after pinkie. She must have known for sometime as you don't just buy a horse you have to try it etc. I am so mad and feel sorry for poor pinkie as he is such a good boy.
 
I'm in exactly the same boat with my horse, Casper. He's been perfect for the sharer who has first choice for the days she wants to ride and I've made provisions so she can use the arena and such during the week when it's too dark to hack. I now find out from a friend that she is purchasing or loaning another horse without telling me. Of course, I questioned her about it and she replied "Well, I want my own horse, I hope you don't think I'm messing you about." Well, yes, I do think she is as she's clearly in it for the short term, even though I made it perfectly clear that I wanted a sharer who would be in it for the long haul. I don't even charge her to ride him, I must have MUG written all over my face.

Good look OP, I hope you find another sharer or just make do, as I'm going to have to =)
 
Whilst I understand your angst, people do 'just buy a horse'
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What does your sharer agreement state about notice period and is your sharer sticking to it?
 
i know the feeling my sharer went awal b4 christmas i even let her put her own foal on my field then she sold foal and not heard from her since iv now just found a lovely 12yr old for him am just hoping she will stick around hes such a good pony hope you find some nice person to help you
 
We gave 6 weeks notice - but we bought quite quickly we viewed on the Sunday and was ours after vetting on the Thursday, and we only saw 2 ponies on consecutive weekends. So it is possible a horse came up through friends and a decision was made quickly, but it's a shame she can't commit to giving some notice - grr on your behalf!

With us, as daughter has spent a lot of time schooling / lessons on loan pony at our cost, we've offered to keep pony ticking over till another rider is found as I feel it'd be a shame for pony to regress and make it more difficult to find a suitable rider - at the mo she's pretty much first ridden status whereas she was 2nd pony/in need of a competent rider when we started with her. However it is proving difficult as she can't ride her after school till half term (due to busy road loation), and the past 6 weeks it has either rained or snowed at weekends apart from the weekend we tried the pony we bought (New Pony clearly must think we live in a permanetly wet/cold location and must long to go back 'home'.)

Hope you find a really commited new sharer for Pinkie.
 
ahhh deb that rubbish - sharing is really hard work though for the owner and sharer as either party can pull out at any time and I hate not knowing how long something may last etc.

I have fleeting stupid thoughts of should i get my own but would be very silly!
 
To be honest i can understand how it is inconvenient for you, but i don't think you can rant about her in particular. She's just been bought her own horse, how exciting! Imagine if you were in her position? I'm sure she will miss your horse, let's face it we all become attached, but you're not going to tell your parents you can't have a surprise horse because you're helping out with someone elses.

Whilst i agree it would be good of her to stick to any notice period, especially if there is a written contract, if her horse is kept on a different yard this may not be possible. What do you expect her to do, leave her horse without and do yours? If it is on the same yard etc then yes she could probably still help you out, but otherwise i don't think it's logical or fair to expect her to.

Just be grateful of what she has done for you so far, accept that this is purely bad luck on your part, and get looking for another sharer.
 
Kind of agree with somethingorother here. Sharers come and go, its the nature of the game that many are sharing in order to get enough experience etc to have their own horse...I'm super lucky with my current sharer as agreement still going strong after almost a year but know that one day she may well want her own and at the end of the day the horse is mine and therefore my responsibility not hers! So whilst it might be a bit unfair to leave agreement at very short notice, I don't think you can be overly cross.
I'm sure you will find another sharer.
 
I'm another who agrees - I used to share before I owned my own. I did 'just buy a horse' - although to be fair, I saw out my month's notice as well, as for the first few months kept it on the same yard.

I'm sure she doesn't think a bad thought about your horse - but, given the choice of having limited access to a horse that no matter how much I loved it was never mine or my own there was no contest!
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It didn't cross my mind that the old horse's sharer saw me buying my own as a bad thing - it is what I had aspired to ever since my first riding lesson!

The best of luck finding another sharer - I'm sure you'll have no problems if Pinkie is as fab as he sounds
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I absolutely couldn't agree more - I don't think it's fair to rant about the sharer (especially on an open forum) when she hasn't really done anything wrong - The problem with sharing/loaning is that it's indefinite and you don't know when it will come to an end - it's a risk you have to take I'm afraid
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We've got two ponies on loan and we've known that they can ask for them back at any time, even though they are now part of the family, fortunately we've been able to secure one of them for xmas for our son - which is a lovely present for the whole family!
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Kate x
 
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