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dianchi

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OMG!

Am truly shocked by some people, answered an ad of a girl looking to share SOMEONE else's horse. Question her further about days etc etc. says she MUST have all weekend otherwise won't work for her!!! She is only 17 but wants to go competitions and has her own lorry?

Er hello? Or am being very naive about sharers nowadays?

When I had share ponies I did three days a week and just one weekend day, and comps were a treat not a gaurentee!

Or is this not how it is now?
 
I think (some) kids these days aren't willing to do the 'gritty' jobs and expect horse to be gleaming and ready to win ribbons when they turn up to ride. I would be telling her where to go ...

Bring back the days of full weekends spent up to you ares in mud, in the back of beyond riding any old pony/donkey you were placed upon :)
 
I suspect the issue is her age, I'm sure teenagers have been selfish and thoughtless for a long time! There are some lovely sharers out there and some mental dreamers, it just takes time to sort through them sometimes!
At least you know not to bother meeting her and letting her try your horse.
 
If you contacted her by phone the only response i'd have is to burst out laughing down the phone before I put it down...

Internet, id be asking what colour the flying pigs are in her dream world.

A little harsh, but seriously, needs to get back to reality.
 
Polos Mum said:
I suspect the issue is her age, I'm sure teenagers have been selfish and thoughtless for a long time! There are some lovely sharers out there and some mental dreamers, it just takes time to sort through them sometimes!
At least you know not to bother meeting her and letting her try your horse.
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I had a share at 17/18, and I wouldn't have dreamed to demand all this, wouldn't have dreamed to demand anything. A the end of the day a) it's not my horse and b) I'd be grateful not expectant.

On a side note I have a bit of an issue with my little brothers sister on his dads side (my brother and I have the same mum, but different fathers) who is in her late 20s, I feel she expects to be able to ride the ned, fair enough I don't mind on occasion, but then she came once, I told her not to canter him round, cue her attempting to canter him in circles. Needless to say I got her off sharpish. Plus ned didn't seem to chuffed a d just plodded round like a donkey :D if you don't ask properly he won't go. Thankfully.

So some people never learn, no matter how old they are.
 
Well i thought i was being nice, offering my tb out as many days as they like and the chance to compete and have been let down badly twice. Not doing it again. :(
 
so she has a lorry and free weekends - why doesnt she sell the lorry and buy her own?!

I haveto say i despaired of finding a sharer through adverts etc. even sifting out the teenagers who can ride 'cos they can canter', and those who talked eloquently about what they do/who they train with, I went with word of mouth instead. That has worked fine for me.
 
Polos Mum said:
I suspect the issue is her age, I'm sure teenagers have been selfish and thoughtless for a long time! There are some lovely sharers out there and some mental dreamers, it just takes time to sort through them sometimes!
At least you know not to bother meeting her and letting her try your horse.
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im 17 and have a share and wouldn't expect any of the things OP stated above. My share is 2 days as week as that's all I can afford, no jumping, no competing etc, I get out of bed at 7am on saturday mornings to go and ride (im normally back home just as my sister is getting out of bed).

It really does irritate me when people think teenagers are all unreliable and useless, I take every opportunity to ride, doesnt matter what it is, in the last 3 months I've riden a 16.1 TB, 13.2 New forest, 14.2 Cob and an 18.3 shire
 
I had some adults ring up and they were nearly as bad, it was all about what they could get out of it, and whether they would get enough riding as they lived 10 miles away and I didn't have an arena for them to ride in at night. I wasn't expecting any money or jobs, was offering free lessons if need be, and lots of weekend days and chance to compete a horse that has done BE and BS.

There are good ones out there - of all ages. Keep looking. And tell them to loan a horse if they want so much their way!
 
Phew not just me, was an short end after she said this, was very shocked and having been a sharer when I was younger just thought I'd try and repay the favour someone did to me.

Also she wanted to know that she was a comfortable ride, no bucking, rearing and wouldn't refuse show jumps. I said she wasn't push button pony and you have to train and ride her.

I also pointed out I wasn't looking for a loaner but a SHARE!

Think I'm gonna give up before I start :D
 
hollieeb said:
im 17 and have a share and wouldn't expect any of the things OP stated above. My share is 2 days as week as that's all I can afford, no jumping, no competing etc, I get out of bed at 7am on saturday mornings to go and ride (im normally back home just as my sister is getting out of bed).

It really does irritate me when people think teenagers are all unreliable and useless, I take every opportunity to ride, doesnt matter what it is, in the last 3 months I've riden a 16.1 TB, 13.2 New forest, 14.2 Cob and an 18.3 shire
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Sorry I didn't mean to tar everyone with the same brush, but I suspect you are unfortunately the minority. You also get middle aged women who are just as unrealistic I know.
 
There are good sharers out there, although I am sure there are some terrible ones, same with owners. I travel a 55 mile round trip every time I ride my share (2 days a week) and she is about to move further away so I will have to travel a 100 mile round trip every time I ride her!

I would never expect anything like competitions and both weekend days! I never thought I would do any competitions on her at first but her owner asked me if I would like to do some last summer, and I have one weekend day (but first of all only had 2 weekdays) but chance to do the other day if owner is busy.

Some people expect the world though :rolleyes:
 
I advertised one of mine on a 3 day share to EXPERIENCED CONFIDENT rider. I had an email reply saying "Wow, yes please, sounds great, etc. " Except when I got back to her it turns out it was her boyfriend answering, pretending to be her, arranging the share as a nice surprise for her. And better yet, she'd had a bad fall 10 years ago, not ridden since, and told her boyfriend she wanted to get back into it:eek::eek::eek:

Is that what's known as a timewaster:rolleyes:
 
There are some good (teen) sharers out there, but there are also many who give us all a bad name. I would never expect that from a share, I would much rather do all the jobs and spend time with my share horses, not just riding. And in my opinion a share should work for the owner as well as the sharer. I haven't done much competing or jumping as it was always a privilege rather than what I expected, and I have always been grateful for any opportunity I have been given.

It might be better to find somebody through word of mouth rather than advertising due to timewasters etc.
 
hollieeb said:
im 17 and have a share and wouldn't expect any of the things OP stated above. My share is 2 days as week as that's all I can afford, no jumping, no competing etc, I get out of bed at 7am on saturday mornings to go and ride (im normally back home just as my sister is getting out of bed).

It really does irritate me when people think teenagers are all unreliable and useless, I take every opportunity to ride, doesnt matter what it is, in the last 3 months I've riden a 16.1 TB, 13.2 New forest, 14.2 Cob and an 18.3 shire
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Ditto!. Im fifteen, and very recently have started helping out with two lovely 16.2 hunter types and another gelding, before this I was riding a TB ex 2* horse, and Im perfectly happy to plenty of the 'grunt work!' Not a formal arrangement but I do tons of riding and am flexible with when I ride and work around their owners, so basically ride whenever they can't as a favour to them to help exercise and keep the horses fit, and I help out as much as the owners want me to. I don't pay anything and the owners are lovely so I'm really lucky to be honest. We aren't all irresponsible and some of us do know what were doing with horses :P
 
...I am 16, and have had two shares in the past three years. The first I will not go into much detail, yet, let just say I was lumbered without help with 4 ex race horses and 5 other animals for 7 months and now have a green Friesian cross.

Now, it is convenient that I can cycle to the stables to do the days I can do, since I live near my College during the week, yet at the moment, because of timing and night time, can just bring him in, since most of the time he lives out and look after him, without riding, 2 times a week. When it becomes lighter, I hope to help the owner 3 times per week.

Yet, like Hollieeb, I do feel quite irritated when people stereotype teenagers, as actually, everyone can be capable of being unreliable.
 
Haha u think thats bad....id had a girl come down who i had spoken to and emailed saying what i needed etc...she came with parents who wanted both weekend days AND her escorted out!! I was gobsmacked & had to explain that it wasnt a riding school but a share whereby I get a break!! I said that the girl had assured me she was cycling from college...they said she didnt have a bike and they didnt want her on a country lane so could I drop her off. I told them they shouldnt be advertising for a share pony as they needed an escorted hack etc...At that point I bid them farewell & went for an angry gallop. A couple of weeks later they were advertising again! Aaarggh.
 
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