she is starting to pee me off (rant sorry)

Just end the share - or find time do your horse, or sell horse, or just put up with her

Nowt wrong with facebook comments -he is the NEW HORSE.

Get yard owner to reprimand her on ppl at yard if that's the rule

Tell her five times is enough now - give him a rest

If someone came up to me and said they were going to consult a public forum on how to talk to me I'd piss myself laughing and end share myself, although I doubt you did say that.

Hope all works out
 
JAGER BOMB :) said:
we had our chat this morning she was very understanding and explained she had been feeling a little rough the last few days (which is why he riding skills have slipped) the tack she will try to remember in future same with brushes...

the ppl thing is sorted i have made sure she understands that it is only 2 ppl permitted down while she rrides, with no exceptions.

didnt mention the new horse thing. i realise that sounded a bit paranoid or what ever. so all is good now (touch wood)

thanks for the advice everyone who gave it xxx
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So glad you got things sorted. Bear in mind with her age too it may well still take a few more chats to keep things as you would like them. However as long as she listens and does take notice each time, from an 18yr old you can't hope for more IMHO
 
soulfull said:
So glad you got things sorted. Bear in mind with her age too it may well still take a few more chats to keep things as you would like them. However as long as she listens and does take notice each time, from an 18yr old you can't hope for more IMHO
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I know i think i was just a bit cranky for certain reasons and just took thing to heart when i shouldnt of. she seems like she has now understood totally what i have asked off her (she did giggle when i said i came on here for advice on how to speak to her ) but she understood. i didnt want to snap at her and then find out she had reasons or didnt understand what i had asked of herl. i am feeling alot more positive about things now, and am happy to let her continue to ride him.

think you was right just needed a chat with her to straighten a few things out.:):rolleyes:
 
browbrow said:
Just end the share - or find time do your horse, or sell horse, or just put up with her

Nowt wrong with facebook comments -he is the NEW HORSE.

Get yard owner to reprimand her on ppl at yard if that's the rule

Tell her five times is enough now - give him a rest

If someone came up to me and said they were going to consult a public forum on how to talk to me I'd piss myself laughing and end share myself, although I doubt you did say that.

Hope all works out
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i told her after we had our chat that i came on here for advice about how to talk to her and what to do, i am hot headed, and would have probs gone in all guns, but i had some nice advice on what to say on here and in private chat thingy. yes she did laugh and she said i could have just come out with it. but i didnt want to offend her. and tbh i dont think there is anything wrong with me asking for advice on here that it what this forum is for and i have read alot worse comments about ppl on here than what i put... that i am sure they have read (the ppl they talk about) so maybe you would laugh and end it there and then, but she appreciated i had taken the time to ask for opinions and advice.
 
This is why I couldn't have a sharer or loaner, no offense to any (i used to be one myself).

I just get too protective and jealous.

Hope you get it sorted, but you do need to make sure the contract is followed and she respects your rules.
 
thank you xx

im glad it has been sorted i feel alot calmer now and trust she will do ok with him, and i have said if she has problems to let me know straight away so we can try sort them out
 
On the other hand, she is showing a lot of positive things for her age, reliable, enthusiastic, horsemad, keen, proud (new horse thing), actually exercising the horse (better than one kept as a field ornament), I would be impressed with the positive things she offers rather than pick on 'little' things that may irritate you. You will be surprised at how horsemad teens will actually pay attention to what you ask / say if you have a problem. I bet you have a nice relationship now you have got it out in the open? Maybe the agreement needs revising and clarified each step of the way? good luck :)
 
Its easy to be sensitive over your horse. My 4 x 4 has just been serviced and they had moved my seat and changed my wing mirrors. On top of that they had fixed the hand brake which is now much lower when fully engaged and I found myself miffed that my beloved car had been fiddled with.
 
awwww this is a toughy- i look after a horse owned by a friend, i have to say i am one of the lucky ones, my friend trusts me to completely look after her much to my great pleasure, i'm into my third yr now and love spending every minute with her, i do understand it must be very difficult to trust a stranger as i was a stranger to the owner in the first place, she is my life i love her unconditionly, she bonded extreemly well with me and trusts me immensly, however her owner is never forgotten, she loves him no matter what i do with her or how long i spend with her she still knows her owner, i'm one luky lady to have her in my life, i feel i really depends how you truely feel about sharing your horse, i've recently started riding a friends too while she's pregnant, she cried the first time i took her horse out, she to has trusted me and seen how i treat the horse i look after, i am happy to know people trust me as it's a HUGE thing letting someone else out on your horse. I wish you luck with it all x
 
i think in reality having a sharer/rider/loaner is not all it cracked up to be! it is so hard to see someone else forming a bond with ur baby, especially after years of work, money and stress. I had a sharer once... lasted 2 weeks... she lent my stuff around the whole yard and galloped my angel on a road to catch up with her mates mare who had bolted out the woods... poor baby could barely walk for the next couple of days. needless to say i told her to not come anywhere near my horse or me ever again!!!

as for being picky, you have the right to be picky... your his mum and you need to do whats right by him and you. The way i look at it, if he went lame tomorrow and could never be ridden again you're the one that would have a very expensive lawnmower to keep meanwhile she'd walk off and get another horse to ride in the blink of an eye. You especially have to right to be picky as there is no money exchanging hands and you are not gaining financially out of the arrangement so in my eyes you need to be 100% happy that she is doing a good job schooling your boy otherwise whats the point!

the facebook thing happened to my friend with her sharer... she couldnt handle the jelousy of hearing some1 else chatting as if the horse belonged to her and so that sharer soon got dumped!
 
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