should i be annoyed? would you?yard/groom/friend issue...

I sort of see why you're a bit miffed, but in the wide scale of things I think I'd let it go.

So long as its not a frequent pattern then hopefully just the one little slip can't hurt!

Sounds like besides that your little arrangement works out fab!
:)
 
I don't think you're being unreasonable, no. But equally, I don't think she's done too much wrong. It's possible she didn't actually think about the impact on you with taking the extra three days and just thought if you/your mum could do a week, then 10 days would be effectively the same.

I suppose that's the trouble with money-less transactions, it's hard to exactly define where you stand with one another.

Sounds to me like you both have a good deal going but that it's not impossible for one to take advantage of the other (or to feel like you're being taken advantage of)

Hope you resolve it
 
Hmm, I can understand your annoyance but when you have such a loose arrangement on what she does for you (ie. not contracted), I don't really think you can complain.

She does seem to have a good deal mind, I wouldn't say no to an arrangement like that :).
 
I don't think I'd be that annoyed TBH. It would have been nice if she had double checked with you first quickly, but it sounds like she does do quite a bit for you and makes your life quite a lot easier on a day to day basis.
 
I can see exactly where you ae coming from however sometimes you have to allow for the fact that sometimes people will not always extend you the same courtesy you do them. She is getting an extremely good deal from you as essentially full livery for only having to bring in, groom & poo pick is fantastic value. Like I said I know where you are coming from but you have to wonder is it worth saying anything. Perhaps just mention that you had an away clinic or something booked for one of the extra days that you know have to reschedule! It might just draw her attention to the fact that she needs to remember her horse and not assume!
 
I have similar arrangements with friends and from experience it's easy to think everyone is happy with the arrangement when they might not be and for a bit of resentment to fester.

I would have a chat over a cup of coffee and just check she's not feeling at all put out, make sure there's no ill feeling and re-iterate that you weren't trying to be awkward, just trying to be considerate to everyone. Definitely too valuable a friendship & arrangement to have bad feeling over.

If you equate her time @£5 per hour & she does an hours work each eve, then she is paying £25 - £35 per week which is fair, but not neccessarily generous on your part. Might be worth just ensuring you still both feel you get value from the arrangement.
 
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