Should I just move/give up?

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I am at a lovely small livery yard, only about 5/6 of us there. I posted before about getting a new horse and how I felt no-one was happy for me and how all my so-called friends all gave me the distinct impression they didn't agree with it etc.

So now I go to the yard to say hello to everyone and no-one seems to like me anymore, they are standoffish and cold with me and I really feel so left out.

I'm starting to think I should just give up on the whole horse thing or at least move...I just want it to be fun and happy, but instead it seems like everyone is judging me and my old happy yard is now a horribly bitchy place.

Im so gutted
 
Nothing ever stays the same, if you go back to an old yard new friendships will have been made and it could take a while to fit back in. Even if you stay on the same yard for a long time it will evolve as people move or horses change.

If the facilities and services at the yard suit you and your new horse then stay, if they don't then move and make a fresh start where you don't feel you are being pre-judged.

You will soon make new friends.
 
They are probably consumed with envy... just a load of bitchy women that you will find in any sphere of life, not just horses. Head down, get on with your own horse and ignore. They will soon move on to their next target. They should mind their own!
 
Definitely move! Horses should be a pleasure but having been in b1tchy yards myself before, I know how it can get to the point where you feel you don't want to go near your horse. I now have my horses on a dairy farm with no facilities but I am left to myself with no problems or hassle at all... As a result I now have far more pleasure from my horses. Don't let these horrible people forcde you to give up something you love, there are friendly yards out there (((hugs)))
 
Yes I think you are right, I'll give it a try and try to make them like me again and if that doesn't work then we'll have to move.
The yard really is brill so it'd be hard to move without good reason anyway!
 
I thought it was envy, but they are grown women most of them! I just want to be liked and have fun with my new horse and be accepted again
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I would get your new horse and enjoy it!!! keep your head down (not whilst riding!!!) and get on with the whole reason you are actually at the yard for. They will soon start talking to you again if you just go about your own business and enjoy your hard earned passion.
 
If there is another yard with good facilities then I'd move. It can totally destroy you if your not happy at your yard. Leave then to their bitchyness. I totally agree that thier probably jealous of you getting a lovely new horse.
 
I would move.
I was on a small yard with about 5 liveries in total. They were all interfering cows and they never really liked me or accepted me. It didn't help that my mare isn't the sanest and they just thought I should sell her, wich in my books was out of order! Nobody tells me to sell my baby!!!!!!
If you feel that you are having no fun then move, horses should be an enjoyable hobby. I have moved yards to where I used to work, they have been so welcoming and Poutu loves it there, best move I have ever made!!
But if you feel that the friendships can be salvaged, and the facilities are what you need then stay.

My mother says this about the horsey world - "The horse world is full of hormonally charged and bitchy women."
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lol - I agree with Fox.

If it's making you miserable, look for another yard that would suit you and your horse. They probably are just jealous, their problem, not yours.

Enjoy your horse love
 
I would get your new horse and stay put and see how things pan out, but if it doesn't work move on. I have been at 3 yards in the last year and each one ended up better than the previous one and now i am so happy where I am.
 
Although FarthingwoodFox points out something we may of all thought about sometimes, i agree with gorgeous_george.

Stay at the yard, get to know your new horse. Spend time with him not with those horrible people. They'll get over it, sounds like the green eyed monster to me.

Don't make any effort with them, if they want to be friends with you then let them come to you. If not and your still unhappy in a couple of months time then i would be inclined to move.
 
Bet they change when your new horse arrives (or has it already?) There's got to be one at least who won't be able to resist having a nose and asking some questions! I have never been on a yard but can imagine it could be difficult. Just cos they're grown women though doesn't mean they're not envious, in fact i reckon grown women can be the worst sometimes and act the most childish!

Give it a bit more time, see if things change, if not then do what you think is best for you and the horse - there's no point being unhappy is there, what's the point?
 
Wot she said !

Don't worry so much about wanting to be liked, just get on and enjoy your horse.

I purposefully go up the yard at the queitiest times to avoid people who annoy me, but then you could call that being an antisocial cow!
 
I would try and stay put if you can, and as others have said, don't try to hard to get them to accept you, save all your effort for your horse, if people know they have got to you then people will do it even more.

Rise above it, your better then they are, they'll come round eventually, but I wouldn't want them as friends tbh.
 
After a lifetime of trying to please other people and making myself thoroughly miserable I've come to the conclusion that as I can't please everybody all the time I don't why the hell should I.
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I think you should enjoy your new horse and let them get on with it. If they have nothing better to do than bitch about other people then they must lead some sad and sorry lives
 
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