Peglo
Well-Known Member
Might have the only man in the world where that doesn’t work. ?? would work for him the other way around though ??
Should I move my horse to my boyfriend's?
- Thread starter IzzetMuzzy1998
- Start date
Might have the only man in the world where that doesn’t work. ?? would work for him the other way around though ??
vhf
Well-Known Member
Number One. You need to convince b/f to take a companion as well, it's rare that a horse that's 'OK' on its own is 'happiest' on its own. He sounds to me like all he needs is a gentle push... (All farmers say that about horses, usually with a comment about wrecking the ground for good measure!)
Then put the £250 per month away somewhere non-reachable so that if the worst happens and you split, you have an emergency fund to sort new accommodation for the horse so he's not left at the ex's.
Then explain this is what you're doing, to reassure the b/f he's not going to get stuck again.
Then slowly and subtly convince b/f that actually, he loves horses...
Then enjoy spending the emergency fund together if it becomes a permanent thing.
IzzetMuzzy1998
Member
Tell me how?! I'm way too soft lol
IzzetMuzzy1998
Member
Wow...you should be a life coach! That's amazing advice. The sex thing would work with my bloke, I think he loves his pigs more than me lol
Tarragon
Well-Known Member
If you go barefoot with the horses, the damage to the ground is significantly less 
That might help the manoeuvrings ....
Plus, if they are out all the time, which you can do with the right acreage, there is far less poaching to the ground at the gateways as they are not waiting to come in, or rushing off when turned out.
Cross grazing with sheep?
That might help the manoeuvrings ....Plus, if they are out all the time, which you can do with the right acreage, there is far less poaching to the ground at the gateways as they are not waiting to come in, or rushing off when turned out.
Cross grazing with sheep?
Annagain
Well-Known Member
1. Get the sole use place,
2. Get another horse
3. Wait a few months and find a reason why both horses need to move to your boyfriend's (bad fencing, ragwort, water issues, people feeding them, whatever you can think of) and ask at the right time (see tips above) or just get visibly upset at the 'problem' when you're around him until he offers like he has this time. He can say no to an extra one now, but when you already have two, there's no way he'll be able to say that one of them can come by the other can't.
2. Get another horse
3. Wait a few months and find a reason why both horses need to move to your boyfriend's (bad fencing, ragwort, water issues, people feeding them, whatever you can think of) and ask at the right time (see tips above) or just get visibly upset at the 'problem' when you're around him until he offers like he has this time. He can say no to an extra one now, but when you already have two, there's no way he'll be able to say that one of them can come by the other can't.
IzzetMuzzy1998
Member
Hahaha I'm loving all of these suggestions!
Clodagh
Well-Known Member
I love that, do you mean he gets the night off if you can bring 2 horses?
LadyGascoyne
Well-Known Member
I think I’d go sole use yard and not boyfriend’s place.
It’s just too complicated in a relatively new relationship. What if it puts strain on your relationship and ruins things for you… what if you break up and the horse has to move… what if the horses causes damage to the farm or something on the farm causes the damage to the horse…
Nope, prefer to have my own space where it’s all on me, and nothing can interfere with my relationship either.
Even at home, the stables and fields are my responsibility and my cost. Whilst my husband is very supportive and very helpful, I’m not dependent on him at all for the situation working.
It’s just too complicated in a relatively new relationship. What if it puts strain on your relationship and ruins things for you… what if you break up and the horse has to move… what if the horses causes damage to the farm or something on the farm causes the damage to the horse…
Nope, prefer to have my own space where it’s all on me, and nothing can interfere with my relationship either.
Even at home, the stables and fields are my responsibility and my cost. Whilst my husband is very supportive and very helpful, I’m not dependent on him at all for the situation working.
Christmascinnamoncookie
Fais pas chier!
If you go barefoot with the horses, the damage to the ground is significantly less
Plus, if they are out all the time, which you can do with the right acreage, there is far less poaching to the ground at the gateways as they are not waiting to come in, or rushing off when turned out.
Cross grazing with sheep?
I’m almost sure I read that cross grazing with sheep was the best animal to do so with horses but I can’t remember why-nutrients going back into the soil, maybe?