Should I tell the YO?

Sorry i havent read all of the replies but as a YO, i would want an existing livery to warm me if there were potentinal issues with a possible new livery. In fact, when we show people around, i usually ask my current liveries if they know/know of them. Sadly, it only takes 1 to spoil a yard hence would always prefer to know.
 
I agree with the others, if I was the YO I'd want to know, I'd also want my current liveries to be happy there. Spending time with your horse should be enjoyable, the atmosphere needs to be a nice one, not one people will be uncomfortable in. I'd definitely have a quiet word x
 
3 times I have tried to write a reply and each time the site crashes :mad:

So it's getting shorter each time...

I spoke to YO yesterday as it came up in conversation that another livery had been to look around that morning and YO was looking forward to a friendly yard with some new faces. She then mentioned that the mum of the girl I'm worried about was a bit off, so I took that as a good opportunity to talk to her. I told her what I told you and that I was worried she would change the yard. She told me not to worry and said she would make it very clear from the minute she arrives tomorrow that we don't take what is not ours and she will tell her to stay away from my areas (field, stable, and my section of the barn) She said to report to her anything that annoys me or anything that goes missing.

I feel better for speaking to her but I am still worried. She arrives tomorrow morning so I am going to make sure I am at the yard when she arrives.

Ill keep you posted and thanks for your support xx
 
I would ask the YO to say stay away from other peoples property in general (tactfully!), rather than just your stuff otherwise she'll know you've said something which may make matters difficult from the start!
 
My section is separate so there is no need for her to go in my stable so YO is just going to say, "thats X's stable and field so there's nothing of interest round that corner" The other livery leaves tomorrow so there will just be myself, YO, new girl and the other livery who has her ponies on full livery so YO uses her stuff for them.

I should have worded it better, she wont be singling me out in her "dont touch what isnt yours" speech.

I took my sharpie up yesterday and marked EVERYTHING with my pony's name. Feed buckets, halters, feed bins and scoops and even haynets!
 
Thank you for the update.

I hope that you try to ignore them, remember to keep calm and take some deep breaths tomorrow, while being there just to check so that none of them goes near your stable/horse etc.
If they do and you have a mobile camera, use it, had you for example taken a photo of what you saw when they where there to view the yard, you could have shown it to the yard owner.

However, regardless of what your YO said, given your previous experiences with them, I would not have too high hopes of that everything will be going smoothly henceforth. So perhaps you should begin to look for another yard, or (if I understood one of your previous replies correctly) since it seems they only lasted about 2 weeks on their last yard, just try to keep out of their way and hope that they will be asked to move quickly.

If everything else fails, and they behave badly but you have problems with proving it, come back to HHO and either ask for help or search previous threads for suggestions, for instance I have a vague memory of reading a reply on some thread, where someone had put some sort of powder/colour on her brushes bristles, that way if anyone used them (without cleaning them first), their horse would turn pink wherever they used her brush.

Good luck.

P.S. I try to remember that at times when HHO/internet doesn't always work as it should, I copy my reply before I try to preview or submit, if the reply then disappears, I just open the reply box again and paste back my reply. Feel free to make a guess, have I seen a few essay long replies just go poof or not?
 
FinnishLapphund said:
Thank you for the update.

I hope that you try to ignore them, remember to keep calm and take some deep breaths tomorrow, while being there just to check so that none of them goes near your stable/horse etc.
If they do and you have a mobile camera, use it, had you for example taken a photo of what you saw when they where there to view the yard, you could have shown it to the yard owner.

However, regardless of what your YO said, given your previous experiences with them, I would not have too high hopes of that everything will be going smoothly henceforth. So perhaps you should begin to look for another yard, or (if I understood one of your previous replies correctly) since it seems they only lasted about 2 weeks on their last yard, just try to keep out of their way and hope that they will be asked to move quickly.

If everything else fails, and they behave badly but you have problems with proving it, come back to HHO and either ask for help or search previous threads for suggestions, for instance I have a vague memory of reading a reply on some thread, where someone had put some sort of powder/colour on her brushes bristles, that way if anyone used them (without cleaning them first), their horse would turn pink wherever they used her brush.

Good luck.

P.S. I try to remember that at times when HHO/internet doesn't always work as it should, I copy my reply before I try to preview or submit, if the reply then disappears, I just open the reply box again and paste back my reply. Feel free to make a guess, have I seen a few essay long replies just go poof or not?
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Thank you for this. It's hard being a newbie some times. I love the yard so don't want to move so will do my best to make it work. I like the idea of marking stuff though!
 
Hmmmm I'm surprised they are still moving in tbh. Even though you mentioned the bloke coming out of your stable after presumably peeing in it...
 
Glad you got to gave your say to the YO, although I can never understand why people need telling to keep their hands off of other peoples belongings and am always wary of them. I know it's difficult if you don't like
confrontation but remember you were at this yard before them so you need to find it in yourself to let them know that you have no intention of letting them even think they can carry on the way they left off at the other yard and as you seem happy there, and there is where your staying.
 
Remembering what my daughters were like from the age of 12 -16, plus the stresses of a new horse.....not a relaxing addition to your yard I'm afraid, even without the pilfering and peeing!!

Do keep us posted !
 
HUGE ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))).

I don't know, how annoying is that - they have landed up on your new yard. I would be fuming, but them I am VERY precious about my stuff. I would get a permanent marker and write your horses name on every single piece of kit you own, grooming/mucking out/ feeding.... and think about how to ensure you know if your feed goes missing. Protect yourself, and I would then tell the YO that you have done this, to prevent any confusion as to what belongs to you.

I have to be honest, and say that this would make me want to leave. Let us know how you get on - lots of support on here :)
 
Besides the 'borrowing your things' from what you've said the mother is a nasty gossip with a bad attitude, I'd ensure the YO was aware of this in no uncertain terms, no need to go slagging them off the facts speak for themselves. I'd also mention they were why you left. Really feel for you, doesn't sound like they will suddenly just change their ways... Rubbish if you're the one that ends up leaving, what if they then get thrown off and they turn up at the next yard!
 
I had a Tesco's basket for grooming kit - all the crap drops out of it so it never needed cleaning - and I made a nice printed tape which I stuck around the top - "This grooming kit is infected with Ringworm."

I never had a thing go missing despite all the usual "who has borrowed" messages on the board concerning other people's. Ironically, we did eventually have a outbreak of Ringworm on the yard and everyone's horses caught it except my two.
 
1stclassalan said:
I had a Tesco's basket for grooming kit - all the crap drops out of it so it never needed cleaning - and I made a nice printed tape which I stuck around the top - "This grooming kit is infected with Ringworm."

I never had a thing go missing despite all the usual "who has borrowed" messages on the board concerning other people's. Ironically, we did eventually have a outbreak of Ringworm on the yard and everyone's horses caught it except my two.
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Err, so you 'borrowed' the Tesco basket??
 
Quick update.

She didnt come yesterday due to transport problems, she is arriving today, so I will update you later.

Thanks again everyone.

And for the record, I am not leaving the yard as I love it. I will have her removed before I leave :D This forum is making me feel much braver :)
 
Griggster1990 said:
Quick update.

She didnt come yesterday due to transport problems, she is arriving today, so I will update you later.

Thanks again everyone.

And for the record, I am not leaving the yard as I love it. I will have her removed before I leave :D This forum is making me feel much braver :)
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I've been following this thread, and would like to say, I hope when they arrive they have learnt how to behave towards other liveries and stay out of other peoples stables and things.
I'm always anxious about newbies, I know, shouldn't be, but over the years have met some right characters, some good, some edging on bad, but never to the extreme that you've described..
As for going in your stable to take a p**... I sensed trouble when I read that.. Good luck for today XX
 
As a YM, i would definitely want to know if someone has a reputation/bit of a attitude. I have a very nice bunch of liveries on the yard now, and I want to keep it that way, if it means turning away potential business then fine (and I have the YO's full backing on that - she'd rather the place be empty than full of narky nasty people, it doesn't do much for a yard's reputation!) Recently one of the liveries approached me, saying she knew of a girl who was looking for livery who had a bad reputation from when she was on another yard, and basically stating that if she was to come, i'd probably lose her as well as a few other liveries. So i'm keeping my ears open for certain names to crop up! I'd always rather know in advance, so I can say that we're not taking any new liveries on rather than have to be in the awkward situation of pulling out or giving them a trial period which could potentially upset everyone.

i hope everything works out for you OP; if you really like the yard and don't want to move you'll just have to stick it out until this family's true colours shine for the YO to see.
 
So they arrived today. Kind of kept themselves to themselves. YO has made it so they have no reason to come near my side by setting up a second muck heap at their end of the yard (my stables is next to the muck heap)

Myself and other livery hacked out and when we got back the girl was sat in the field while her parents were mucking out and unloading the car!

I was very polite and said hi, how you settling in etc and she was polite back.

Fingers crossed!
 
misterjay said:
Your YO sounds really understanding and supportive. I'm sure it'll work out fine.
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She is lovely. Been so helpful to me while I get my head around owning my first horse. She is making it really easy and is always on hand to give advice. I dont want to leave such a great yard. From all the lurking I have done on here, it seems difficult to find somewhere you really love so I want to stay!

I will keep this post updated for all those who are interested.

Thanks :)
 
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