Should I tell the YO?

mandwhy said:
Oh dear, well to be fair the girl is probably just in her own little world and not thinking of others. I think you should bear her age in mind really, its not her fault her parents raised her like this! I'd try and speak to her nicely in a situation where she has to acknowledge you like when she is doing her stable or something. If she doesn't agree to work something out then speak to the YO and get them to speak to her (come on, she's a child, surely she'll see a yo as some sort of teacher figure). I'd try to leave the mother out of it until the YO gets involved.

I don't see anything necessarily bitchy in stating facts about a person to your YO. You don't have to call anyone a spoilt brat or say the mum is a cow, but you can imply it by telling her facts about your experience of them! I'm sure YO is working it out already.
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I have asked her is she wants to hack with me on Saturday. If I can get her out and about she may speak to me.
 
Saw girl at the yard last night and asked her in person if she wanted to hack on Saturday. I'd not had any reply from the messages I sent her. She just shrugged her shoulders and said no, then walked off.

Her mum has been pleasant enough to me in passing but I am done with the girl now. Every day I speak to her and every day I get ignored! She is a spoilt brat and spent yesterday evening at the yard, sat in the car moaning she was cold while the mum poo picked and mucked out in the rain. I cant be doing with people like that.

We have another livery and her daughter (more my age) coming up this weekend and they seem lovely. She even came up yesterday to introduce herself to me and has been texting me to arrange rides today.

This sounds far more like the people I want to hang around with :D
 
She just sounds like a Kevin to me.. maybe she'll come round a bit when the new liveries move on, time will tell (edited to add, just thought you might be around the same age)
 
Been following your post, think you are being very understanding, and I would feel the same about a girl who wants a horse but is not prepared to put up with the not so nice things. Have met similar children before, and it is not easy so you have my sympathy

However the Mother is making herself a problem, wonder how long she will go on doing the hard work and letting daughter do the enjoyable part!!

Do hope you have more enjoyment with new liveries arriving this weekend and do not let a thougtless young person spoil your lessons.
 
Hey Griggster

I think if you were on a large livery yard you would not wish to speak to this girl or her mother so don't feel you have to make too much of an effort. There are some people in life that we just cannot abide.

Its a shame there are not more people on your yard but you have tried to talk to her, she is clearly a moody madam so feel free to ignore her from now on.

Hopefully the new livery people will be nice. Leave them to make up their own minds about the other livery though (which I am sure you would anyway) and enjoy your horse with evenings getting better.

Post pics of your horse when you get a minute too! :D I am hoping to buy my first horse in the next year or two so I am totally jealous.
 
She is the same age as my grand daughter. My grand daughter had her pony when she was 10 and at that age she did everything for him. I used to have to beg for a chance to do anything. Then suddenly last year when she turned 12 and half she changed completely without any prior warning. Didn't want to come to the yard, didnt want to ride or have anything to do with all the people who have spend time with her over the years helping her to ride and care for her pony. We have had a terrible year with her, but I have persevered and she is now coming round to enjoying her pony again. I think it is an age thing. Lots of body changes, lifestyle changes and just being unable to communicate with anyone who is older. I wouldnt take it to heart with the lack of manners and not wanting to get involved, she is just being a teenager. If I were you I would just get on and enjoy your own horse and politely ignore her. I'm sure that she will just start to behave differently once she realises she wont get a reaction and eventually see what she is missing out on. Either that or mum will give up and sell the pony.
 
Leopards don't change spots. If mum is already taking mick with YO (piano lesson is not an emergency), she will do it again in future to point YO will have had enough.

You've tried to get on, just leave it now. Be polite, but don't go beyond that. If you buddy up with mum she'll soon be calling you about late piano lessons. Enjoy your time with the new livery. Suggest a booking system for the school for peak times. That way you can be sure you have sole use of the school for a lesson. Works both ways, means kid can book a time when she can have sole use as well. Win, win.

Last yard I was at mainly working people so always people trying to get in smallish school at same time (2 was safe max). So we could all book one hour a week to have the school to ourselves so say we had a lesson we got the full benefit. This limit was brought in as when were were told to book the school after the problem livery had barged her way into the school & ruined lessons (funny, she was the one who only worked part-time as well), the 'problem' then proceeded to book an entire month, every day at peak time! But that selfish attitude just descibes her to a tee. Even some adults are really children & don't know how to share nicely.
 
This thread is actually turning out to be a bit addictive! I'm on the edge of my seat for the next installment from "Kevinland":D

I have a 14 year old daughter, so I know what they can be like - although mine saves it all for me and her dad, she'd never dream of behaving badly in public! This one sounds like an absolute BRAT!
 
The weather is horrible today and so is the forecast for the weekend. Probably wont see her then! God forbid she might get wet!

Thanks again everyone. I'll update again when I have something :)
 
Ever considered that she might find you intimidating and is a bit jealous?

She's 13/14, you're 22. You have your own horse and things, she is dependent on her parents (and as you say, they don't seem very nice at all).

Perhaps if the parents weren't so "hands on" which can easily slip over into dominating, she might behave better.

That first incident when the mother went for you, it's just possible she was completely cringing inside. She must have known they weren't her brushes. Most youngsters don't blatantly lie unless telling the truth ends them up in more trouble.

Perhaps she doesn't do any stable chores because she is constantly criticised when she does?
 
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