Shout out to non-horsey OH!

Red-1 said:
Love Silvershadow's horse, this is what my OH was like when we loaned one for the summer. He too wobbled round some SJ, and the best bit was that I let him have fun and do it without being too critical. When he took over my older horse it was harder to let him make mistakes, his first clip was something to behold, and at one stage we had to have a hackamore as the horse worked out how to NOT open his mouth. Waving them off on a hack was nail biting....... and blokes seem to love cantering once they know how, so Charlie did a LOT of canter.
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Agree, he would rather hover over the saddle in canter, I think it has helped his balance and his 'pride'! xx
 
They are the best the non-horsey ones :) mine has started (all off his own back) giving my 2 hay when he gets home from work and will help me load my girl when I go out (she's not a great loader so handy to have backup!) and will also see me out of our drive with the trailer as it's not very clear to see. He often describes them as 'his' horses as he does more for them than me which I do chuckle at (he's got no idea lol) I know if I need him to he will feed them and check them over and will walk round with his niece and nephews when we do 'pony' rides :)
 
I also know where you find these people. Mine does try to be supportive and come to shows etc but I know he'd rather I didn't have a horse and gets annoyed if I want to do competitions or have lessons at the weekend as he sees this as "his time". The main issue is he has no hobby so it's him vs the horse for my free time.
He has said that he will never want to help with the looking after and if we move in together in future when we struggle with money he will put pressure on to sell M as he doesn't want to have to pay more than I do for house etc.
The thing is he just doesn't get it. Have any of you had one that didn't and his opinion in it changed. M is my first horse and my dream for as long as I can remember.
 
My hubby was non horsey when we met, but I already had horses and knew that they were most important. Since then, mainly since buying our first horse together, he has learnt to do pretty much everything for them and is happy to do them without me if needed (or sometimes he wants too). He's not overly fussed on riding, although has had a few goes and being at the yard is his 'down time'.

The only bad point is that he can take weeks to do a simple job (like putting up a tie ring), but I can forgive him that as he is awesome with everything else!
 
met my fabulous OH in February. He is non-horsey but a mad cyclist so understands the dedication, devotion and commitment needed. He accompanies us out on his MTB, crews for us at endurance rides (sometimes in the car, sometimes racing from point to point on the MTB. He confessed to finding crewing a bit boring at times so it gives him something to do! ), will sort the horse if i can't, tows if i don't fancy it, or am tired after a long class and is generally brilliant.

The key thing for us is compromise. On the weekend days neither of us is competing, we aim to be home by lunchtime so we can spend time together. We cycle or run together. I go to cycling races and other events to support him. And we sat down with our diaries to work out who wanted to compete when so we could both be there as much as possible! Remarkably, we only found one clash this past summer. He's a good 'un, and I intend to hang on to him!
 
Huge shout to my totally non horsey Hubby for spending an afternoon banging in fence posts, and another dismantling a stable. True gem. He's afraid of them, all 6'5 of him, even my lil Camilla.
 
Another shout out here!! Mine was self taught to ride and 2 weeks ago jumped my friends horse in his first comp and first round of jumps so we would have enough riders to make up a team in a league! Did a great job too <3
 
It is also about making family time too. He takes the boys for their swimming lessons on Saturday whilst I do the ponies in the morning. He then brings them up to the field. He's been helping me back Flicka and then leaves William with me so we can go riding together. (Off home with youngest son to sort out the washing and hang it out!) On Sunday I make sure that we all do something together, in spring/summer that can be a show every fortnight!

He knew when he met me that ponies were a huge part of my life so accepted that, even giving me money to buy my foundation mare. He has never ridden and shows no desire to do so.

Life is full of sharing, making comprimises and understanding others so if you remember this then things hopefully won't become difficult.
 
My non horsey OH gave up his dream home so we could buy a filthy run down cottage with 6 acres so I could have my dream home. He then let me build an arena and stables before we started work on the house. Almost 3 years later we both have our dream home as the cottage has finally been renovated and he happily plays with the horses and helps if I am unable to do them.
I asked recently if anything happened to me would he sell up and he said no as he loves it here. I feel so lucky that he has fully embraced this lifestyle without giving up any of himself or his hobbies.
 
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